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2009-03-18T14:12:00.000-07:00

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Let the FREE Audio come on IN! NEW BLOG and WEBSITE!

2009-03-17T22:32:00.000-07:00

Hey guys,

So this Blog is transferring over to my new fancy Website!!!!
theredmole.com

As I have said I have said, I have a TON of Audio and Video that I have been trying to organize...
It is like over 100 hours of Audio and about 20 hours of Video.
Anyone can help me with this, let me know.

But for now I will say this Thurs night I am going to start blasting my list with a lot of the Audio...
It is all badass FREE content. There is no Sales ladder or any bullshit like that.

The first one actually has to do with a friend of mine, Raj NYC, talking about a quick Day Game cold read ladder. It all gets broken down fro you to go out and apply right away!

On a separate note, I just got off a super long chat over Skype (and I don't chat) with a guy named Kid44. He runs a company called Pick Up Asia.
I have talked with him a little bit before, but not much. His students have always raved about him and one of the guys that used to work with him is a pretty good friend of mine.
the chat actually had to do with a lot about integrity in the community.

I would actually like to write about it more in the future. Maybe tomorrow when I have more time. the two of us come at this from some different angles but we both agree that the community gets abused like a motherfucker. This is about CHANGE guys, about EMPOWERMENT.

It is important to know what you want and it is important to be guided in that direction.
What I am offering in my teachings is not just how to get you laid...and I can show you that. My student history is proof of that. But what I am showing you, is how to live your life in a better way. To learn to know what you want, and get it in a healthy and empowering way. This is how I get the results I get and this is how I develop myself.

Remember I learn just as much from you, so stay in contact as my site moves over to theredmole.com

My email is still eltopoPUA@gmail.com and make sure you GET ON MY LIST to get the TON of FREE Audio coming your way...starting THURS!

One last thing...
Those interviews today, along with my personal path, and as well as the discussions I have had with a lot of instructors and students lately make me want to post about this. It is a little bit separate from Pick Up, but it has been a big part of my life.
In fact Doc Holiday told me last week that he was dropping out of the community and I said...'that is great, you shoudl go out and explore the country and see and meet all the people in the US and in the world'.

Now I hope you realize that I know Doc is a GREAT teacher and I was always encouraging for him to teach more and more. He has a talent for it. But also, life is NOT business and it is hard to find the balance of that (for myself daily) especially when you're 21. If you know him shoot him an email and wish him well...he is still a badass, and has an amazing life in front of him.

So this brings me to something I never really have talked about in my writing, but it sheds a huge light on the approach that I take in terms of teaching.

3 and a half years ago, I drove around the USA, interviewing over 70 people about American Culture. This was all inspired by 2 things, the book Ishmael (by Daniel Quinn) and a report by Robert Watson about human impact on the world.
I met all sorts of people, it was amazing.
It is a lot of footage (over 100 hours) and I will need to bombard YouTube with it at some point.

I asked these 6 questions to a ton of people....acedemics, conservatives, liberals, revolutionaries, communists, political celebrities, random civilians, criminals, scientists, and homeless folks....

-What is American Culture?
-What do you like about it?
-What do you dislike?
-How would you change those things?
-Where do you see us in 50 years?
-What gives you hope?

I had leaning views walking into it. I came out of it though with a different opinion. What I realized is how similar everyone is, and how we fill ourselves with bullshit to mask a lot of unhappiness.
One thing Kid44 and I were talking about was pretty much that...there is such an insecurity with people these days that we end up working for things that we don't want...probably because we don't know what we want.

We shape lives where what we live for has nothing to do with who we are and the potential we can be.

By far what impacted me the most were the interviews with average people and the homeless people. I was excited to talk to some of the authors I had read and I was excited to talk to some of the scientists, but I learned more from the people that put things simply.

In any case, here is a clip (from another documentary) of Daniel Quinn (who I became friends with in the process and who inspired me to do all this).

A lot of what we fill our lives with is bullshit to serve our fears and inhibitions. I am guilty of it too, but the community has a lot more of it than we acknowledge.

Back from Vegas, my Students RULE!

2009-03-12T00:08:00.000-07:00

So I have just gotten back from Mehow's Super Conference and a few 1-on-1's in Vegas.

Obviously if you are on my list you know of (Hammer) my student's success in Las Vegas-if not CLICK HERE to read the LR.
It is an Awesome LR....long and funny...and very true, from what I remember seeing.

But something else crazy happened,
You always hear me talking about Algasm, but my Friend RED showed up in LAS VEGAS on Mon.

In Nov RED hired me for a 1-on-1 in Austin, TX.

RED and I go way back, RED actually has one of the first 10 stacks I ever made...
RED has had sometime to hone the skills I taught him and add some stuff too.

I don't know many people that can keep up with Algasm's sexuality, but RED can.
So last night we were all in Vegas...
We met up with RED late in the night.
Here's what went down,

1st set
2 Israel Girls...Israelis are cake for me now. Push them sexually, they respond to the challenge. RED doesn't hook so he bails, and I am on my 7th night out in a row, so I go with him.

2nd set
And English girl we pull in as we sit against the wall (I know boring, but sitting against a wall actually gets you laid). RED is going in and out with her, but she is definitely sexually responsive. She leaves, but I run her down and Isolate her. I spike her up, and leave her to go meet up with RED and Algasm again.

3erd set
I missed this one, when I was with the English chick. But she came back around, I guess RED hooked her in and let her go...I assume to game later.

4th set
We pull in a girl, who is with her friend. I can tell also she is sexually responsive RED can too...she bounces in-between all three of us, RED, Algasm and me, then RED pulls her slightly to the side. Her friend starts talking to Algasm and I. In about 2 mins, RED turns to us and says...'Bye'
The girl and her friend talk for about 30 seconds, and RED pulls the girl.

I occupy the friend for about 2 mins and then she leaves to find RED's woman.

So we were at the club for prob 30mins, and RED pulled this girl after 3 to 5 mins after the opening.

All I have to say is WTF!
People get laid quick, and a lot of us have, but Both RED and Hammer getting lays in under 15mins....all I have to say is GO SEXUAL!

There is no doubt, my students would kick most PUA Instructor's ASSES!

I will write more about the Super Con...but I will leave you with this!
Hypnotica is the real deal!

and a song from the Double L Archives!

The Road to my INNER GAME

2009-03-01T18:18:00.000-08:00

I sent this article out to my list last week, and I wanted to share it with the blog readers too!
If you want more info like this GET ON THE LIST
(upper right hand corner of the Blog)

I titled it as The Ultimate INNER GAME Solution, and I believe it is...but there are many ways to INNER GAME... If anything it is my Experience. It doesn't matter what roads you take, it matters where you end up!

Your mind needs to be CLEAR and this is how I do it. This is how I cultivate a Supreme Lifestyle where nothing gets in my way....
Bad Economy, Shit with Women, pretty much whatever troubles come my way...it puts all things in perspective and allows me always to take a step forward rather than sit in my own ego going nowhere.

It is long, but I didn't want to break it up.

Give it a good read and if you need help with any of it, just ask...
eltopoPUA@gmail.com

Thanks

ET

Part 1 - Managing Unmanageability

I am not sure how well you guys know me, but one thing about me is that I could always be a little bit more organized. Other than teaching Pick Up I work with others in terms of addictions.

I have done this before way back in the day, but for the past 9 months I have been again. It keeps me level headed.
As you may have noticed the PUA Lifestyle is pretty crazy and hectic.
It is consumed with Superficiality and it is completely Obsessed with Value and Status. Also it deals with Sex and Manipulation, which are 2 things that can easily sweep someone off their feet into a whirlwind of bullshit. It doesn't have to be any of these things, it can actually be so much more.

From my experience these sorts of things really don't bring too much peace of mind in the long run. I have seen so many people (including myself) spin into complete disorder with this kind of lifestyle.
I know you hear me talking about Sexualizing Game and Cold Reads and Framing (don't get me wrong, these things are important) but in reality let's not forget that the reason why all of us got into this was to in someway improve ourselves. Getting the women we want in our lives should be a side effect of the lifestyle we manifest.

When I am working with people who are in need of help outside of Pick Up, I do it all volunteer. I put a lot of time into it as well. It works both ways, it helps me more than it helps them at times. There is a lot of cross over with it and with Self-Improvement.
So here are 5 things I do to help me and help others maintain a good headspace. You could easily say if I do not do these things, I pretty much don't function properly, and my life becomes completely unmanageable. It may not make sense to you, but try it. If you want to know more about this in terms of Inner Game email me (eltopoPUA@gmail.com) I feel that the best way to work on these types of changes in your life, it is best to work directly with someone.

1-Stay Humble-
One thing that has always been around since society is someway for man to express humility. Religion is a common example of this. I have never been religious. I actually like learning about religions and think they have a lot to offer, but I have never followed one.
What I find to be the most important part of all this is humility. It really doesn't matter how you do this, but there is a sense of relief that comes to me when I learn to let go of things and not try and always be the BEST. I can only do what I do best.
I remember when I was 20 years old and pretty much questioning about everything someone was telling me about god.

I told him, "I don't believe in god"
He said, "You don't have to believe in god, but know there are things more powerful than yourself. Just like right now talking to you right now the 2 of us are a power greater than ourselves as an individual, that is good enough."

I have carried this around since then. This is the fundamental of my working with people, it is even an aspect of when I am talking to a girl in set. I tell her that for me talking to her is an experience that I believe is a power greater than myself. I truly believe that seeing your experiences on a daily basis as being a part of a bigger picture, you being just a small player in the over all events always keeps my head in check.

2-Taking a Personal Inventory-
This is something that I find to be one of the hardest things.
I find this hard to do with Business, in Game and I find this hard to do with myself.
The funny thing is that when I do this, I actually feel free.
My Aunt used to tell me over and over,
"being balanced didn't mean that you give hot and cold equal time in your day. It means that you get in a place that works and maintain it."
I guess you could say the goal is an even keel.
One of the reasons how I get so out of balance is by not taking a look at the roots I have set in the ground.
I do this in kind of simple way, I take a look at what is making me mad in life. I
n doing that, I pretty much make a list of things I am angry about, I also write down why I am angry, what part of me it effects and then my part in it.
What I see in doing this, is a pattern of actions that I have taken that helped me build this instability. From there I can access what I need to change.
I will say that the real relief comes from actually taking a healthy and honest look at myself. Taking a look at the relationships I have built, for better or worse, taking a look at the problems right in front of me, and taking a look at how these things repeat over and over in my life, shows me the changes that need to be made for me to made personal progress.
It is not a pragmatic solution, it really is an emotional solution. Whenever I do something like this, my 'Inner Game' is at its best.
I see me for who I am and I am not afraid to show it, proud to be all that I am, good and bad.

3-Spend Good Times with Good Friends-
This is in some ways the most normal thing, but it is also one of the hardest things that for us in this day and age. When I was younger, my ego was pretty off the charts.
I worked in many artistic fields and constantly pressured myself to be the best.
I can actually say that I was, in the eyes of my audiences, and I lived for this. I am not sure if I ever believed it. When people would call me a perfectionist, I would argue with them back saying, "A perfectionist, makes things perfect. I keep trying because it is NEVER perfect"

I have a few people who I look up to but one person who I look up to in terms of business and that is my friend Vince who lives on Maui. He looks like he's a homeless guy, but he is one of the best business men I know. Has a good life, lives how he wants to live and is successful in all the ways he has ever wanted to be.

I asked him one day after working my ass off on this one project,
'why do people need to be so social, why don't they do what they need to do and not waste so much time caring about what other people think?'
(like I said I was pretty obsessive about being competitive and I was pretty naïve... still am. But I was super anti-social, and only worked)

Vince said,
'It is because we need to have friends, if you don't have friends and socialize you can't be happy, let alone get good at the things you want to get good at. It is built in our brains.'

Now I thought this was interesting, I always thought of Vince and somewhat of a curmudgeon, but later on I realized that he had very close relations with all sorts of interesting people. It went anywhere from deranged homeless people, to other millionaires who would constantly ask him for advice.
It was in that I realized this is so very true...
Who you are friends with and how you are friends with them makes you just as much as what you do.

Within the PUA community this can be hard.
First off you are trying to build social circles, you are socializing on steroids with women with the goal in mind either, a number, qualification, day 2s or sex, and also the community can be pretty superficial too.
So keep in mind, this is about self-improvement! We are supposed to be better people. I agree you might need to try things a little less human and more mechanical at first, but the goal should be to be yourself but in a better way. You need to be able to, take certain techniques and translate them to yourself.

It can be very hard to do this in the PUA community, because you are judged for how well you implement superficiality, and not what you like to do.
So what I had to learn how to do in the community was to make better friends. I don't know if this is true for many instructors out there, but I have made some really close friends in the PUA community.
In fact, I have made friends that have proven to do literally anything for me. They have saved my ass over and over again.

How this happened, was because it wasn't ever all business when I hung out with them, I always opened my door. Even if you have an open door and someone comes in and takes a shit on your feet (has happened many times) it is better than closing people out and living in fear.
I see the people who have their doors closed and they are some of the loneliest people and yet they teach social dynamics.
One of my best friends told me last night after meeting a PUA Guru-
"I think 95% of the PUAs are smoke in mirrors...
I have lost faith in the community, I think it's a bunch or losers scamming even bigger losers out of money. No offense..."
Sadly I can see what he is talking about and if you get to meet a lot of the people out there teaching this stuff, I think that you will actually see how Instructors are very responsible for building this image.

Why not make your learning process in Pick Up surrounded by good people and stop facilitating some sort of douche bag mentality, of I am better than you ?

4-Make Good with Those you have Wronged-
This is quite possibly the hardest thing for many people. This is pretty much the hardest thing for me to do. However, let me put it in a different perspective...
We are trying to be Dominant Leaders, a leader doesn't need to be constantly validated by what other people think. A leader doesn't need to lead by empowering fear or desperation, a leader can (and in my mind should) lead by making things best for people.

I have done a shit load of fucked up things in my life, I mean you have no idea...
When people gossip online about me, the funny thing is that they are full of shit about what they are bringing up, but things that I have really done in the past are way worse.
By all means, I am not bragging about this. I am saying that there is a lot of bullshit that I used to carry around with me. In fact there is still a lot of bullshit. So how do I get rid of it?

But what does a person who is dominant with their lives do about this, they release the tensions they have built in their lives. One thing I am NOT saying is that, one shouldn't be cathartic about this in any way. They also should not kiss everyone's ass, but what i am saying,is in every interaction where I have been wronged, I usually had a part in it.
In fact when I was 17 my girlfriend was sexually assaulted in literally the worst way. This would definitely put us both on the victim side of things. I didn't really have to make good with anyone in terms of this who wronged me, but because I held on to it, and kept that resentment it came out in so many other ways.
My part in it that I had to make good with, was with her, and myself.

I will say for myself I am always nervous when I focus on clearing up the wreckage of the past, but after each one I realize how much my ego holds me back from being in the present.
Just focus on one at a time, perhaps one a week, or even one a month.
Whether you stole a million dollars or an hour of sleep from someone, it is a great way of living. This I definitely think you should do with the consultation of someone else, it makes it easier.

5-Work With Others-
This is one thing that almost everyone says to me after they have done a training session with me, "I wanna tech this stuff". I think that most people's motives are more along the lines of helping people rather than being the part of some bizarre social hierarchy of PUAness.

However, at some point everyone seems to forget this. They get some skills and after that they can stay or go in the community. I think that if you are going to stay in the community, there is no point in having an ego. It really isn't that cool...come on...

As I have pointed out again and again, it is good to have an ego, but it is not good to be egotistical.

We have a huge community of guys who want to get better at talking to women and improving themselves, and everybody works against each other more than coming together.

When I entered the community, I thought it was weird at how bizarrely catty the people who ran it were. All they did was talk shit on each other, and brag about getting laid.
The funny thing was that the people teaching in that community then were saying things about female psychology and how women do this and do that, and you have to somehow regulate them.

After being in the community and teaching in it for 2 years now, I have noticed that PUAs are actually more of those 'effeminate' qualities than ANY woman I have met.

This mentality among other ones spun off to this idea where people thought being the bigger asshole to the next guy or girl was the way it worked.
The truth of the mater is that there are many ways to game, but they all have a ton on commonalities. Somehow the 'Community' has allowed the businesses define it, whatever it is... 'Natural Vs Canned, Direct Vs Indirect, Sexual Vs Non Sexual'...and so on...
If you have something to offer, then help someone out who can use your help. I obviously charge fro what I do, but I make sure that I give the ABSOLUTE value in what I teach. I always Speak at Lairs for FREE and do a ton of FREE Phone consults. When I Speak at a Lair I usually offer a FREE night out with me to the 5 newest guys. I never hold anything back either, I give you my all!
Giving back is important! Work with others.

Any questions on how I more specifically do these things, email me.
eltopoPUA@gmail.com

The Roadwarrior

2009-02-28T13:36:00.000-08:00

I am not sure if you watched Professional Wrestling and you remember Hawk an Animal (actually is I recall there was a third way back when), but this is a different kind of Road Warrior.

About 2 years ago I heard of this guy that Taught Pick Up and lived in his Van, touring around the country with bands and taking pictures. I remember the guys telling me were kind of making fun of him...

I told them, "You know I have done the same thing and I actually miss it'.
(I have a 2003 Toyota Tacoma that I got with 8miles on it that now has 265,000 miles on it.
I have toured with it playing music, driven to Guatemala while living in my truck in Mexico and I have driven through at least 40 states with it, either playing music, doing photography or working on the road. I recommend it to everyone. I didn't start doing it till I was 26, it is cheap, and probably a reason why I am good at Pick Up, cause when your car breaks down in Appalachia and you need help, you make it happen. Although I envy my friends in bands who started doing it when they were 16...those motherfuckers.
You have to learn to make friends fast. In 15 days in Europe I went there knowing no one and paid only one night for a place to sleep, every other day I made a friend to crash with.
I have also train hopped and hitchhiked, but driving across America is an Amazing experience. I will also say this, living out of your truck in Mexico is a lot easier than you would think, all you people who would think it to be dangerous, I would say if you have a little bit of experience and common sense you will do fine.
I was never ripped off or had any problems there. I avoided a few of them, but Mexico is a pretty awesome country.)

In any case, I kept hearing about this guy and finally I met him when I gave a Lair Talk in Austin.
The guy came up to me (not knowing who he was) and was talking about how he had gamed all over and traveled,

I said, 'what is your name'
He said 'Jason'
I said 'no your PUA name'
He said, 'GoneSavage'

I said, 'Holy Shit, you're Gone Savage? We shoudl talk man...'

Now being GoneSavage the hippie vagabond he is we pretty much never talked. I continued teaching pick up, and he continued living the life, music, photography, the road, and women...

When I say Women you have to realize GS is pretty much a 6-12 New Lay a month guy, and he lived out of a Van. His game is interesting too, he is pretty much the only guy, I have seen take Speed Seduction and make it work. But he is beyond good at Pick Up but more importantly he lives life.

Another funny story is he knows DJ Fuji and last Sept. Fuji told me while eating at a restaurant...

'You know GS would eat other people's food'

I said, "I do that"

Fuji said, "No, he would eat food that was leftover off of other people's plates, not his friends"

I said, (having just gotten back from backpacking around Europe-Mexico and the Caribbean are WAY better by the way. Sadly I will not be biking through Cambodia and Vietnam with Village Dog, in March, but next time my man) "I did the same thing when I was just in Europe. And when you are on the road you eat what you can. the sad part is that the amount of food that we waste is pathetic, it is horrible that we throw so much away."

Fuji said, "You're crazy man"

Anyway check out
GoneSavages Blog, he just started posting on it... as Shaft told me...
"It is Awesome, he basically drives around the country photographs bands and sleeps with a bunch of women..."
GoneSavage's Blog
(on a side note, anyone who hasn't seen how amazing the USA is, drive through it, I have driven across the country over 6 times and countless times on short trips within it. The people all around the world are amazing, but in the US they are too. You can do it on $50 a day, and with that budget you can buy your own food...)

Here is GS' post that I like...maybe because he mentions me...

Lustful Sex vs Obligatory Sex: Which Do You Want?

By GoneSavage

I’ve seen a few articles popping up recently like “Will the Recession End Gold Digging” and “Market for Romance Goes from Bullish to Sheepish: Are Guys with Less to Spend Less of a Catch?”

Let me tell you where all this is headed and why you are far ahead in the game of life just by finding the community – and taking steps toward improving yourself – than the guy who buys into the wine-and-dine provider model.

Here's the reality. Being comfortable and sexual with women is the primary skill you need in life. Making money (for your own livelihood), is secondary. I'm usually not so hierarchical. I think skills with women and pursuing your purpose in life should be of equal importance. But when talking about the specific monetization aspect of pursuing your purpose, you have to put ability with women on top of that.

Let’s look at a quote from a guy interviewed in the article above, he says this:

"One of the first questions is: 'What do you do? You own your own company? How many people work for you? Are you working at home or do you go to an office?' They are literally sizing you up." And, he said, he doesn't blame them -- especially if the girl is beautiful. "They can afford to be picky."

This guy carries the erroneous belief that money is the only way to attract a woman. The more he buys into this, and the more he shows off (if and when he has money) the more he is going to be seen as an easy target for manipulative women. After he’s wined-and-dined, chased-and-impressed, and otherwise deferred to her, she may have sex with him. But understand something: This is obligatory sex and not lustful sex.

When a guy like that loses his job, he suddenly has an identity crisis. He’s confused, frustrated, and convinced he has no value. His identity is based on the superficial results he gets from shallow women.

So this is my first point. As the article says, the recession is forcing people toward “looking for more creative ways to attract partners.” One result is that guys are going to turn toward the internet for solutions. And the community is going to get even larger and more publicized.

You guys got in early. You’ve already developed character, confidence, and charm. You’re far ahead of the pack with introspection and self-actualization. If you’ve gone as far as developing empathy, moral disposition, and are comfortable with your own sexuality (specifically) and the female sexuality (in general), you are drastically ahead of the masses. Congratulations.

So now my second point: Obligatory sex is what you get when you entertain her and impress her. Lustful sex comes from raw, mutual attraction and arousal.

When a woman has sex out of obligation she does not respect you. If she does not respect you, she will not be sexually fulfilled. She will be frustrated. These women make poor lovers. They fake orgasms, fantasize about other men, flirt with other men, deceptively have sex with other men, and constantly “test” you for weakness. How erotic and romantic is that?

Now, the easiest way to contrast lustful sex with obligatory sex is to point out guys that wine-and-dine. “But I found the community, and I know not to do that. I don’t buy girls drinks or dinner or anything.” But also understand this:

Entertaining, amusing, impressing, babysitting, chasing, courting, wooing, deferring to her expectations, consciously displaying your higher value, and convincing her of your status OFTEN can only lead to obligatory sex and not lustful sex.

Think about it. You’re still playing the social conditioning game.

I watched a product by the masters of social (not sexual) dynamics and it said “Women have sex to cement a moment or to blow off steam.” Hmm. I get it. What they want you to take away is this: “Guys, it’s just sex – it’s not a big deal to her, so it shouldn’t be to you.” Still, I remember this bothering me and I couldn’t quite figure out why.

What about women (and men) that have sex because of lust, desire, arousal, impulse, urge, craving, longing, yearning, carnal delight, rapture, ecstasy, joy, bliss, pleasure, satisfaction, and just because it feels great?

Don’t get me wrong. You’ve got to be positive, social, and good-humored. You’ve got to make friends and have a social life. But often the social game leads to merely getting attention that may lead to “no big deal” passionless sex. She thinks you’re cool and “sexworthy” and, hell, why not cement a moment with you? You’re pleasant and funny; why not blow off some steam with you?

This is sex from a place of obligation, not compulsion. There may be attraction, but not arousal. There may be casual pleasure, but not deep satisfaction. It’s all a subtly that neither you nor she may ever realize.

El Topo puts it this way: “What women find attractive about men can vary in specific physical qualities, but men who understand women’s sexuality are more attractive than any ‘attraction switch’.”

I concur, but I think it’s really three things wrapped in one: A man who is comfortable with his own sexuality, understands a woman’s sexuality, and has no problem talking openly and candidly about sex is a very attractive man. This is the guy that deeply arouses a woman and enjoys the passionate nuances of lustful sex.

That’s my biggest point here. Simultaneously appreciating and conveying sexuality will get you further with the opposite sex than anything else, including money and superficial social skills. Guys, this is how men and women have amazing, meaningful sex. This is how men and women have relationships based on mutual pursuit, mutual desire, and mutual gratification.

It’s also this realization that’s going to save the community from negative portrayal.

Take the manipulation out of your quest for satisfaction, and take yourself out of a game based on manipulation. Cultivate empathy, respect, reciprocity, and pursue women that want mutually gratifying lustful sex.

The way I see it, the community will thrive when we hone our focus.

My role is to help people (both men and women) understand sexuality, attain lustful sex, and maintain healthy relationships (both short-lived and long-term) based on lust, honesty, and reciprocity.

Isn't that what you really want?

The Change is up to You-

2009-02-27T08:31:00.000-08:00

So I got this comment on my blog from an old school PUA GoneSavage (GS) the other day...
He lives in Austin and I had met him at a Lair talk there over a year ago.

This started a flurry of emails back an forth. I will write more on him later,
but his emails made me think a lot about how the community in general.
There is one thing when you hear some good rehashed self-help from people and then when you hear it from people who have some real life experience.
GS has some major life experience...

I think that what is going to start happening here in the community is the full-of-shitness of most of the people out there is going to start taking a turn.
It is not about living a life where on the surface you look good and you're dead inside, it is about being YOURSELF in the BEST way.

The Change is up to YOU, for the past year and a half I have dedicated this blog to putting out whatever FREE information I can pump out there.
Yet there are tons and tons of people out there that still haven't taken that first step and committed themselves to it.

For instance I will go to Lair Talks across the country and it happens all the time, people will come up to me and they will say,
"I love your blog, I have read the whole thing"
but still they will ask me questions asking me about opening and transitioning.
I always answer their question, but it makes me think I write about that stuff a lot on my blog.

Don' t get me wrong, I love meeting people and I love teaching people who want to learn.

What is frustrating to me is that so many people in the community find it with this hope in their eye with the inspiration to change and they buy the Magic Pill, the Silver Bullet, the bullshit ebook, you sign up for a Workshop with some fuck-off kid that you're supposed to look up to, you do everything that he says, and still you are left in the community with the same things unfulfilled as when you came in. You can open and hook sets, but after a while the glitter fades.... a little bit unfulfilled is still unfulfilled.

WHY?

There are a lot of reasons why, you can blame the Instructors you can Blame the products, You can Blame the Companies... but when it comes down to it you're the only one who can be responsible for YOUR RESULTS.
You have got to take action!
The information is out there and available. You can find it FREE online. The problem is that most of it is bullshit, and a lot of it conflicts.

What you need to do is start on a consistent Plan of Action.

From my experience the people who get results are people who act. This is not people who read every game article that they can, it is not the people who buy every product out there, change come for those who take ACTION!

Everyone I know out there has been at a tipping point, you can be at one now...
if you're ready, make sure that you are ON THE LIST.
This weekend my Audio Page will be up and running with some Immediate Resources that you can put to use right away.

What I am more excited about other than just the audio, is the amount of New and Free information I am going to be putting out this month.

If you seriously want a path to Change your LIFE and not make Excuses for who you are today, then stay in contact...GET ON MY LIST
As you know the answer is never far away, you just have to learn to walk in a different direction.

theREDstack 3 Payment Plan

2009-02-24T15:04:00.000-08:00

This is to get you started on theREDstack 3 PAYMENT Plan.
theREDstack is a 6-8 week plan where I work with you Personally to Personalize Game just for you!

It is the MOST EFFECTIVE way to Learn Game.
Only 6 guys a Month will be admitted into this program. Lock in Your Spot Below!

5 Things you NEED to Know to Blast into Rapport

2009-02-21T17:05:00.000-08:00

Just like they always said their were ‘Attraction Switches’, I never knew why they never said their were ‘Comfort’ or ‘Seduction’ Switches?

One thing I will say is in the last version of theREDstack (going off the market in the next few weeks) I include Comfort and Seduction switches in there.

So for now I will give you some of the ways to get into comfort right when you’re stuck in a rut.

We’ve all been there… the conversation goes stale, you see here losing attention, you start getting reactive and soon enough, she has to ‘go to the bathroom’.
You’re left thinking… ‘what did id do wrong, what could I have done different? I had her and then I lost her.

So at moments like these, there are a bunch of things you can do.
What I am going to go over, is how you BLAST into Rapport.

I would recommend being on my LIST so that you can get more information about this as well.
Sign up in the UPPER RIGHT HAND CORNER!

Let’s first go over some psychology-
No one really knows why certain elements of attraction are irresistible to our minds, but they are!
Things like Bait, and things like Compliance work so consistently is can be frightening.

Other than that, there are certain Psychological themes that are also IRRESISTIBLE to people out there, but geared towards Rapport/Comfort.

The Themes can be continuous using tactics from theREDstack, but for now let’s keep it simple with these-

-One’s Personality
-One’s Personal Identity
-One’s Sexuality
-One’s Passions
-One’s Family life

Alright so you might be thinking, ‘this is nothing new’ but keep reading…
I will show you how to turn these into conversational pieces that will completely rework your interactions so that they will go from meet to bedroom in NEXT to NO TIME!

So let’s start with someone’s Personality-
No matter how confident someone may be, or how much they show that they are proud of who they are their Personality is left completely up to interpretation to the world they interact with.
You can use Negs/Teases to their personality by saying-
‘You know what I can tell you’re trouble, any girl that is that quick to judge I don’t know if I can talk to, besides, I bet you got better secrets than me to keep hidden…’
See this neg/tease actually brings up some frames too, notice if you can see how that works and you’ll be 2 steps ahead.

Now let’s explore one’s Personal Identity-
This is something so deep within us pretty much everyone will react to it. People fight wars over stuff like this. One’s Personal Identity is something which is way beyond what we could ever ask for. So you have got to be careful with it, this stuff is like dynamite!
So what we can do is use a Qualifier to bring up their Personal Identity, now when I mean Qualify I am meaning to challenge them-
“So I hate to interrupt you, but you looked like you were kind of out of it, are you someone who is never happy with what they end up with?”
The really important thing will come when you actually follow up with this qualifier, but more on that in a second.

Now for one of the real big ones…Sexual Identity.
This is everyone’s favorite and the one that everyone is afraid of.
I am sure you have issues about sex, that make you feel unworthy, women do too…all of them, especially the better looking ones, more on that later.
So when we are stuck, what we can say is…
“Ok you are totally a girl that, has trouble keeping a guy occupied, I mean people think you’re attractive, but once they actually are intimate with you things go south…”
This of course is alluding sex, they will definitely get it. But be careful, they are going to react, the goal is not to break them down, but to reframe them! Your next step is for you to define them sexually.

One’s Passions have always been a topic for people out there.
What people are passionate about is huge in how they can be influenced.

Just think if you have a conversation with someone and in 5 mins of knowing them you have their passions alligned with their sexual identity...this is what theREDstack does. Then what theREDstack does is it turns those passions into being the perfect match for you.

For now, here is step 1
Let me show you a new take on an old qualifier…
“If there was one thing in the world that you could do without any fear of failure, what would it be?”
(they think for a moment, and before they can really answer, you interrupt)
“Ok I can tell already, you are really someone that is a bad question to bring that up to cause you think way too much, but the reason why that is, is cause you have a lot of different thing you’re passionate about right?”

So you are kind of double hooking here. You are also beginning to frame here. You can frame even harder if you want.

One’s Family is something that I used to use for getting to comfort with pretty much every one, and I still do. I do this cause it WORKS!
Everyone has a family (good or bad) that defines them, but let’s start with a pretty cool little cold read ladder…
“You know what I can tell you are a girl that can start a lot of things that you don’t finish, you know how I know that right?”
(answer or comply)
“Cause you are used to getting too many things your way, that means you have father issues…”
(pretty much every girl does, she might argue, but it will be rare and if she does you can just say, “No, I know, but it is your confidence that I makes me say that”)
“So don’t tell me you have some hidden tattoo somewhere??? No but really I can tell you can like a lot of attention, but it just has to be given right…”

This has cold reads leading up to a definition. These are the best kinds.
Pretty much the definition at the end is the effective ingredient at the end.

In any case, that’s all for now!

If you like what you see, make sure you’re on my list and if you need theREDstack there are only a few days left!!!!

theREDstack Full Payment

2009-02-19T12:46:00.000-08:00

This is to get you started on theREDstack Full PAYMENT Plan.
You get an IMMEDIATE DISCOUNT!

theREDstack is a 6-8 week plan where I work with you Personally to Personalize Game just for you!

It is the MOST EFFECTIVE way to Learn Game.
Only 6 guys a Month will be admitted into this program. Lock in Your Spot Below!

Some ineffable commentary…

2009-02-17T19:22:00.000-08:00

So the other night Shaft told me to see the Wrestler.
He told me that is was what is going to happen to all the PUA instructors once they stop being cool.
I still haven’t seen it, but I swear to it... I will.
I watched the trailer though and since when did Darren Aronofsky make movies that weren’t all pretentious??? The Wrestler actually seems normal and good... we'll see.

One thing that keeps coming up in the PUA marketing engine is Lifestyle.

Knowing a lot of the PUAs who teach out there, I know VERY few that have a good lifestyle. Pretty much what PUAs that I know are good at it getting women, some not even good at that.
Funny story…
I had a 1-on-1 last weekend and the guy who I did it with personally knows pretty much everyone out there who teaches. He told me over and over again that the only people who he didn’t consider full of shit were Sinn, Brad P and myself. I might add a name or two to that list, but I would agree with that.

That being said, most PUAs completely suck at living life if not ALL. But they are REALLY good at faking it.

I can be included in that category for sure. But that is why people change right?

So what I have to say about lifestyle is this…
Do what you LOVE and be what you want!
I have pretty much always done that with my life. Sometimes it has worked and sometimes it hasn’t but I will say this, I don’t really know many PUAs out there that live a life like mine, they all try and fake it.

I remember a few months back when one of my friends was telling me about the 4 hour work week and how if he made all this money and set up his business he would just play music all day.
I told him that if all he wanted to do was play guitar, then he should play guitar, and worry about the business stuff to make it possible to play guitar.

He disagreed…

In another movie they said something like this-
Making money is easy if all you want to do is make money.

I don’t teach to make money, I do it cause I like working with people.
Live life guys, stop living in bullshit.

You wanna have a good lifestyle?
Surround yourself with people you love and things that you love, don’t waste time with bullshit, that’s no fun.

More and More everyone in this culture is desperately trying to be a man, and every woman a woman….but they all fall short, and want quick fixes.

Random Shit

2009-02-09T13:49:00.000-08:00

So busy busy month and I swear to god there are some awesome changes coming to this bog and what I put out there.

For now I wanted to dump my mind out on the World Wide Web...

First off I wanted to comment on this one girl with a blog comments on my blog
www.awakeningfromthedream.blogspot.com
It is always good shit. She made a 400 Blows reference, if she means the Truffaut film that completely turned the film world upside down in 1959 then that would make her even cooler. My favorite part of that movie is when the guy asks Antoine Doinel which hand, and then as he gets slapped, he is completely nonreactive as if the abuse is just something normal in his life. In some ways you could start film history with that movie, although I think the movies before it should never be overlooked

Second- Anyone who has gotten a stack with the past 2 months and anyone who is waiting for a stack I want to hear from you. Email me. ASAP

Third- It is good to be back in Dallas. I actually missed hanging out with all my stripper friends there. There is noting like having a small harem to come home to. Although more and more I am turning into that picture with Charles Bukowski with women lying around him. Kind of lazy...don't get stagnant...go out there and get it...life is an adventure. Plus for the most part Bukowski was more monogamous than people led on to.

Forth-I just spent about 2 hours looking for this video on YouTube only to find it was removed, but I did find it on something else. It is a song by the Walkmen but it is on the In Bruges soundtrack, which if you like theatre style dialog it is a great movie. Who knew...what's his name can actually act...

The Walkmen- Brandy Alexander

How to get a number on your Lunch Break

2009-02-04T11:26:00.000-08:00

So this last week was pretty much completely nuts.
I spent way too much time with the OTM guys.

It is funny when there are guys who have over 400 lays a piece asking you for advice.
Pretty much what happens is Algasm and I watch them and they watch us.

Soco and Jtime were both out with us too for a few nights as well.

The last night Algasm and I were out we ran into a sinnsofattraction.com student who is part of Sinn's 12 months to mastery program. We took him out for the last night with the OTM guys.
It was crazy and I really don't know how those OTM guys do it...I literally think the 2 of them are what every MPUA wishes they were.

One thing that I have found to be really easy lately is Hired Guns. My friend AAEddy in Las Vegas is pretty damn good with the Hired Guns as well. AAEddy is pretty damn good at a lot of shit to be honest.
AAEddy and the sinnsofattraction.com Student whom we will call Vagabond went out again for more adventures the next night too.
He was also out with us for the event, so I thought, ‘You know what I go out to eat pretty much 3 times a week, and I can pretty much get a number.’
All the girls in my social circle or ones I have had relationships with I all met through them being a waitresses or stripper.

In any case, making game work for you it is pretty simple.
Here is what you need,
You need some ways of showing you are Dominant
You need some ways of creating an attractive Lifestyle
You need some things to Talk About
You need to know how to handle Logistics

Now there are tons and tons of ways to make this happen but here is a simple thing you can do. This is how I get a quick number from a waitress…the rest is up to you.

GET ON THE LIST cause the audio from all of these will be going out to my list this month.

Go to your nearest restaurant and get lunch 2 times this week, go around 1pm if you can so that you are there during an off peak time.
Be a normal guy, no need to act all cocky and full of shit. A cool hair cut or designer clothes may help, but I do just fine with wrinkled and stained shirts.
I think it is only important to convey what YOU are the BEST!
Ask to be sat in a section where there is a certain girl you might like is working. (you now it is normal to request a server at a restaurant, remember, they are there to serve you.)

Sit down, order your drink.
Then ask her this...
"What is your name? I had you as a server once, so I had to request you this time."
(If they say their name ask them again anyway. let her reply, and let her go back to work. The thing is that with a waitress, you need to let her work, talk to her when she has time. If she can't stay and talk, let her go and talk to her when she comes back.)
"So when you get a moment, there has been this thing that has been bugging me...
have you ever had a long term relationship?"
(She will say yes)
"Well, it is kind of a touchy thing to bring up, but you know how when you're dating someone you have really good sex at first, but then it dies off? Well my buddy is experiencing this right now, and I was trying to explain this phenomenon to him, and he didn't get it. But why do you think this happens?
You know what, I can already tell that this was too much of a question for you..."
(give her that last push so she pushes back at you, and let her go back to work)

"Ok but seriously I bet with most people you go out with, you're totally that girl that bores your boyfriend....that's because you always date assholes"

(she will push back on this, now you have to swoop in and define it)

"What I mean is that you really attract the wrong type of guy. You are really attractive and come off as confident, but the guys that get in your life can really treat you bad. That is cause I bet once you actually commit to a guy you're very different around them and they take advantage of that."
(she should hook on this cold read, but remember, delivery is key on the cold reads)

"You know what I have always liked about girls like you...is that women like you just need to be set free in the right ways. Like most men don't know how to treat you in the right ways. You need to be led in the right directions....but seriously what is something about you that you really like about yourself, or what you find is the most attractive thing about you."
(You need a little bit of a grounding qualifier to make this cold read stick, after she answers do this)

"You know before you go I can tell we need to talk more...go finish your tables and come right back"
(you want to be the one dismissing her, rather than her needing to leave. This isn't to be an ass or hold frame, it has a little to do with that. But it just makes things easier.)

"So when I was (tell something about yourself that is very brief, like started working where you work) it really made me realize how much I could change so many times with my life. The things which is cool about you is that I think you get what I mean. We should talk more...I like you, give me your number."

If you want to hear a bunch of Audio where I do this time and time again. Make sure you GET ON THE LIST this month! There will be a shit load of audio of this.

Some News and going back to Vegas for UFC 94

2009-01-29T20:59:00.000-08:00

So it has been a while...
hospital runs and working too much...

Swagger and my friend in the Caribbean almost got their wish...
I find it funny that someone in another country actually has a bounty on my head.
Kinda like status! My death is worth money to people...how's that for a DHV?

But last weekend I went to the hospital...pretty fun stuff, I always like the hospital.
Everything is all good, I am still alive...for now.
It is funny cause, I can get pissed off about all sorts of stuff throughout the day, but when it comes to life or death I really don't mind too much.

I have already been there done that, and if I am going to live, I'd might as well do it well.
If not, well someone has got to set the man upstairs straight...I imagine I can give it a shot.

I have been off the internet for about a week and I have come to realize how hard it may be to call everyone of you guys on the phone.
What happens is that I call the guys and I end up talking to them for an hour and a half and then I still have another 100 people on the list.
So here is what I am going to do...
I am going to start scheduling the calls in blocks of 5 people.
I will send another email out this week about how to get on those calls.

Also I am going to start having 2 of my friends (Free Spirit, and Shift) scheduling some upcoming conference calls for theREDstack. If you have a stack I am going to be doing a month of Conference Calls limited to 5 people about the Stacks.
I will be mailing out the information for all this on my LIST...so Get On IT!

Also I am going to do a Conference call this weekend with a few Surprise guests!

As for now, I am headed to Vegas to go to UFC 94, afterwards Me and Scotty from OnTheMat.com, along with Soco, Jtime and Algasim will be throwing one of the biggest after parties in Vegas this weekend at the Wynn...
Everyone will be there!

Hope to see you there!

Thanks for the Conference Call! Some new Audio Coming OUT!

2009-01-19T09:36:00.000-08:00

Hey Guys,

Conference call was GREAT!
Everybody on the Call I will be giving a personal call to this WEEK!

In other news we are going to be doing another Conference Call when I am in Vegas on Jan 29th.
This one will be awesome, and will be voiced mainly around Sexuality Early on in Set.

SO GET ON THE LIST!

I have Audio of Last Week's conference call and I also have Audio of a Bad Ass Lair I did on SAT.

All this Audio is going out to my List in the NEXT 30 days!

In the meantime Captain Jack has been winning to me about how he can't approach...he gives me all these excuses about how he hasn't done his Voodoo New age techniques to give him the proper mental game to start Opening again.

We all want to see Captain Jack be good again and not some KJ...
As we all say, when he is ON he is HANDS DOWN the BEST PUA we have all seen.
But sitting on his ass writing, he is just a guy with some good information.

I will say this, maybe if he actually listened to what I teach he might have the balls to get out in the Field Again.

So Starting Feb 1st were are going to battle again.
Another Lay War...
I am gonna kick his ass for all of you to read about.

I will be recording all of the audio on my sets, I offered it to him and he replied...
"Dude, no props, I can't have you around me with a camera dangling around your neck like a perverted Jimmy Olsen"

I don't think I have EVER opened a Set with a Camera Around my Neck...
I seriously don't think I have.
I have done a shit load of that pre-game.

But I can be a Perverted Jimmy Olsen.
All I got to say is let's see if CJ will record the audio of his sets....
We'll see if he actually gets off his ass and goes out to game.

Conference Call 7pm Eastern TIME

2009-01-15T09:52:00.000-08:00

The Conference Call is tonight
7pm Eastern Time

If you are not ON THE LIST, GET ON THE LIST!

Those of you already on the list should have all the details.
If you still want to be on the call I will be sending out the info again in a few hours.

Just log in your name and email in the box on the upper right hand corner!

Talk to you tonight!

Vegas Audio and Video

2009-01-13T16:40:00.000-08:00

Just a reminder about the Conference Call on Thurs with Jtime, Negatron and myself.

Read on if you want to know why you NEED to GET ON THE LIST now!

Alright guys I got some of the most insane Video and Audio from Vegas,
And even better, I got some totally fucking insane Audio from being off the plane after just 2 hours back home LAST NIGHT.

So I get home from Vegas, send out a mass text saying,
"I think of you when I masturbate"
(by the way, that gets a pretty consistent response, and it is good. Try it)
Pretty much every girl responds that I haven't closed.
The harshest response I got was 'That's original" to which I responded... "Don't worry baby it was a mass text you haven't made it to the 'original' status yet".

In any case, one of my Stripper friends texts back.
I go back and forth (could look in my phone, but it was literally 2 to 3 exchanges and nothing special).

She calls me...
I record the Booty Call, she's cool with it.
Drive to her place, start the audio...
You'll have to wait and see where I stop the audio...

But I still say Strippers and Porn girls SUCK in bed. I like sex, but not shitty sex.

So yeah sign up for my list. All my Strip Club Audio is being Edited as we speak Over 12 hours in Last month alone. This includes Pulls, Bounces, and in the Club dealing with their attitudes and all the other fun stuff.
Vegas and Last night's A/V gets edited this weekend. The Vegas Audio/Video is badass, and last nights is even better than that.

Also in Vegas there were a few interviews we did with some women about Sex and Relationships that I think you guys will like.

GET ON THE LIST!

Also Jtime, Negatron and I are Conference Calling on Thurs. If you want to be on that call it is FREE for those on the List.
And Jtime and Negatron actually get laid and have their lives in order unlike most of these guys out there...

I just listened to this PODCAST of an instructor talking about going Sexual....what a fucking Pussy!
If you guys know who I mean tell him to get on my list, cause from what it sounds like I am not seeing it. What I got in store for you guys will Blow Pretty much anyone, any other PUA I know out of the Water.

Some Words of Wisdom

2009-01-05T08:45:00.000-08:00

This is like one of those things that you might get in one of those mass emails that we all know and love- but it is still good...and from a very good friend of mine.

Guys, let's sign up for that list!
Some important info is going out this week.
We have some really cool FREE and Interactive things this next month that you will want to be a part of!

But for now, here is what my buddy Rick has to say...

The thirst for love, the thirst for desires these are the root of suffering of your innermost feeling, if you want to extinguish this suffering, you should start by lowering or reduce these desires.

The practitioner should not seek after material enjoyment, but in the basic needs of living, these needs should be harmonized. For example: we shouldn't be gluttonous about eating, but this doesn't mean not eating at all, and we shouldn't be too fond of sleeping, but this doesn't mean not resting at all.

All things you will find, your heart can become attached to. These things then immediately become the master, and you are their slave because they manipulate you. Therefore the wise person can lay down all things, and not become attached to these things. He may use all things, but is not used by all things. Only then can he be the host, in other words he is the genuine master, and is not the slave. Most living things see satisfying their desires and doing things enjoyable as happiness; But Buddha see enlightenment as happiness.

Chasing after the sense of joy is just the same as getting excitement from an addicting drug, you might gain a short high but hidden is the endless damage. So the wise person does not get suck into the joy of sense.

New Year's and my friend Nate

2009-01-02T14:19:00.000-08:00

So this last month I am really not sure if I broke any records, but if I didn’t I came close. Pretty out of it lately and there has been lots of action.
In fact I told Shaft the other about a week ago I could probably break a record with lays this month. He at first agreed and then he went on to say,

“Who cares about that stuff. Look, if you hadn’t hooked up with CJ and Sinn you would not have not be in the community. You would have taken a bootcamp gotten what you wanted and lived whatever life. But you met CJ and you made it to be an excellent teacher, and you are better at helping people than most, but who cares about what the community thinks. Why prove yourself to it. Live a good life instead, but who cares about how many girls you fuck."

This made sense to me….
It is not that I don’t really care what the community thinks. And for those of you who know me, I am one of the few people out there who freely gives his time at lairs and whatever other venues there are out there. I like the idea of a community, but in order to be a good teacher I can not have the community shape me.
Nor can I expect the community to be shaped my me. The way I want to add to it is by helping who I can help and looking for whoever comes my way being a teacher to me.

So this brings me to my next issue.
In 7 days I got 4 new lays. I got them all within 7 days and I think I could have gotten a 5th last night, but life got in the way. So maybe after tonight it will be 5 new lay in 8 days. Pretty good.
2 of these girls are very hot. They are both Strippers and they both sucked in bed.
For me at least.
One was a hired gun, who also sucked in bed and the other approached me, she was good in bed. The frustrating thing is that I can usually make the girls that are bad in bed good, but I no longer want to put forth the effort. And this is why I am writing this. I have always like sex, but more sex isn't always the answer.

Back to the lays though.... I guess you could say (as Soco brags about) I close more than I open. All 4 of these girls opened me.
Either way it was a pretty good week, even month, actually a pretty good last couple of months. This has more to do with Inner Game than technique though. I have built up a life style I like and I have been doing the things that I like...living the life so to speak. Captain Jack actually has a big rant about this.

But the more lays, don’t bring happiness. It is the happiness that brings more attraction. It is my sense of happiness with self that brings attraction. What pick up taught me, was just how to present all this in the best way.

Anyway, next week
I am going to the AVNs next week, I am shooting a bunch of models, and testing a shit load of models, some of them in Playboy, but really who the fuck cares.
One thing I know about models is they pretty much always suck in bed.
My point in this, is that I smoked ass this week.
In fact so have many of my friends. Jtime and Algasim both.
Sinn has too, the other night, when I was with the Israeli he was with a very unSinn-esque hottie. I guess he has laid a bunch of models lately too. She was more my type than his.
But I will say if we want to have a competition of models, I would think that it would be hard to beat me, since I kind of have a social circle of them.
Also in cold approach all I have to do is tell them what my next shoots are and it is a matter of logistics at that point.

Jtime and Negatron have helped me with, is living a good life. One of the things that I like about Soco, is what he does is make a lifestyle that he likes. There are a lot of women in his social circle, but that is the life he wants. I think the myth that we all buy into in this community is that we think that those MPUAs we all look up to have this amazing life.
So yesterday I was pretty out of it. I have actually closed a Stripper, then because the sex was so shitty, I called the Israeli to pick me up and had sex with her again.
How’s that for fucked up…
I got a ride home from the Israeli, she is for the most part a very nice woman, and has her shit together. Why she likes me so much I don’t know. But she has pretty much talked me into moving to Israel, telling me that Israeli women would love me.

I get home and my friend Nate calls me. Nate tells me he finally hooked up with this girl he has like for a long time. Nate is not a PUA, but knows what I do.
I tell him about my situation and he says,

“You know that one girl you brought down that one time, she was good for you.”

Nate has known me for my whole life pretty much.

“She is just your type. But you’re like this kid that got a new toy and now that toy has gotten old. You know you can get all these women and now you’re at the point where you’re bored with it. Getting another new toy doesn’t really work.”

I agree with him on this. In fact every PUA I know that is honest with me goes through a phase where they get really good, then they plateau. They will suck for months even, and then they get their mojo back. It is all an inner game thing really. The PUA community usually answers this by getting more ass, or trying to. Now I will offer a different answer.
But Nate is right, I gained nothing from having sex with all those strippers. I gained nothing from KFPing them. I only gain something from them if I like the life I am living.
Nate goes on…

“You need to use your superpowers for good not evil, why don’t you focus on stability and less ego. There is nothing wrong with getting laid, and there is nothing wrong with getting laid a lot, but if you are doing it to make you happy then that is bullshit. Happiness comes from detachment not attachment. Right now your identity is completely wrapped up in the Pick Up Community. When you started in it, it was fun to be able to meet and fuck all these women who you never thought you could. Then you were able to, and you got bored with it. You met some girls you liked, you pissed them off by being an instructor in it, or you had too many going at one time.
Then you started meeting all these people who were living good lives who you taught, and you changed. Since Oct you are getting laid like crazy again. Who cares, you have a ton to offer the world, I know you, use the super powers for good not evil.”

This is the thing with Nate…he is a wise man. I know a lot of wise men, and am very fortunate to have them in my life.
I always like it when I have someone in front of me who gives good advice. I always want to milk more out of them.
So Nate went on, and this is where I think everyone can benefit from this all.
He said,

“Look when you look at certain religions they have all these metaphors for being happy or unhappy. But one idea I always liked, was that if you were someone who had a broken spirit your whole life would revolve around dysfunction. That is all it could do. That dysfunction would manifest itself in many ways, none that would show your spirit is fucked. You might have bad people in your life, be in debt, have shit relationships, be a victim to the world.
But really you got to fix yourself first. Fixing yourself has nothing to do with what you have, it has to do with what you do. In your case, you are part of this world where how much you get laid gets you money. Now your motives are completely different from when you started this who journey. Like I said at first you just wanted to meet good women. Now you want to make money and prove yourself over and over again to who?
The thing is, because you have done it so much you have manifested a pattern in it. You know how to solve that pattern. And you know that pattern has nothing to do with women, that is how it is showing itself. But that is where you will have to start.”

In any case, this is what I have always liked about the people in my life.
In the Community and out of the Community, I have managed to build good relationships with people and have some pretty amazing moments to guide my way.

This is what a Haole boy is...

2008-12-31T13:28:00.000-08:00

On occasion people will tell me that Hawaii is a place where it is good to visit but bad to live there.
These are usually culturally unaware folks, they are always saying how they got their ass kind there by the angry locals.
I try and explain it would be like if people came to your country, town, home...whatever and told you how to live. It would piss you off. Those are usually the same people that bitch about Mexicans taking over the country and destroying the immensely rich culture of the USA.

Anyway I am with Lekarz right now from the Atlanta crew and he is from Hawaii too.
He showed me this video and we both thought....'what a fucking asshole' , this guy is deserved of one of my amazing music video remakes.
But for now this is what I always thought one version of a Haole is (there are many forms). Some care free mainland dude, that comes to the Island, takes what he likes, and thinks he give back while speaking all this love and peace shit while the local people deal with being left out of their own island. The best is when they start explaining what the meaning of "aloha" is.

I would love to see him driven out in a Cane fields. Lekarz says, notice how there are no Local guys in it, just the girls.

Anyway... how's that for some gratitude....hahahahaha!
If you want to read more about modern day Hawaii and some of its underbelly and also some of the cultural realities read the book
The Tattoo by Chris McKinney

But here's the Haole boy

9-28-2000

2008-12-30T09:15:00.001-08:00

Get the meaning behind this title and you get a phone consult.
Sign up for my list and email me the answer.
This is an easy one....

2 Israeli men accompany back home this morning...
These are the kind of weird nights I have been having.
To me, I just sit back in awe of it all.

Not to bug you too much, but I have a whole shitload of audio and video over the past month. I will be releasing it to my list over the next few months. So sign up for it.

In the past few months I have done some serious house cleaning, and the lifestyle (as a result) is pretty awesome. Hopefully in the InnerGame phone call Jtime and Negatron will open some doors for other people too.
Sadly I don't know many other PUAs who have a lifestyle to talk about. They usually are the most full of shit people I know.
All these PUA instructor types brag about how they are actors and model agents...
The funny thing is I have actually photographed Playboy models, did last month and will again in Jan.
I am going to the AVNs next week, and have a pretty jam pack month to be honest.
The thing about it is that all doesn't mean shit if I don't have my inner peace.

To be honest Xmas sitting on the side of the road broken down after working with homeless folks, and before that getting my ass handed to me by some possessed lover was a lot better feeling than hanging with the 'need to be seen crowd'.

But back to how last night manifested...

3 days ago I was run through the ringer.
I am still healing from having sex with the devil.
the other day I took a shit and there was a finger nail in it.
I figure it is part of the process god makes you go through.
So then I went out and met with my student. Jtime and Soco have been doing something called Creep Game.
I have been doing it and finally it pans out. Actually in the Strip Clubs it works great.
Also I have been recording all my sets, this one too.

I am staring at her and her friends.
They approach eventually.
They ask me, 'what are you staring at'
I tell, 'is that all you can say'
They look puzzled...
They seem interested and so I tell them, 'look I can't talk now, I am working with a client but give me your number and we will talk later.'

The one girl who seemed the most interested is hesitant and then gives me her number. I say I am going to text message her now, and we can talk later.

I go back to work and the student is in set with these Israelis.

As it turns out, the girls that approached me were Israeli too. They end up all knowing each other.

So to make a long story short this girl calls, a lot.
She doesn't speak good English, she asks me all the personal questions right away...
'You have girlfriend?' NO
'You married, been married' NO NO
'Have kids' YES
'You like me' SURE
'No tell me, you know or not' THAT DEPENDS
'You meet me soon' SURE
'Americans talk sex, but don't do' YES I KNOW
'Ok, we talk later' SURE

So that seems easy enough....
Last night I was actually working with the Devil Girl, I told her about the Israeli girl, she told me to take pictures... like I said the Devil Girl and I have an interesting relationship.
the Devil Girl comes with me to meet up with the Israeli.
Devil Woman, drops me off and Israeli picks me up.

I get in the car with her.
We go to get some food and drinks.
Run into Sinn who is also on a date with a pretty hot girl. I thought to myself, this girl looks way too nice for Sinn's taste, then I saw she had big tits.
Ran into Shaft...
Then I did one of the funnier things...
She said, 'where are you going tonight?'
I told her that I was in such a hurry to see her that I just jumped into her car and I guess my friend just took off, so I guess, can i stay at your place tonight. I live like 30 miles away.

This is those Captain Jack things....'Oops I just happened to end up at your place."
I actually was really stranded with no place to go...how is that for a motivator?
I wouldn't recommend doing it this way, but I would say that the important thing here is to set the stage that showing her that a sexual situation just happened.
She didn't do a slutty action by being the aggressor in taking you home.
This is a big thing. Women are held back sexually in terms of what people think of them. You need to diffuse the social element.
Figure out what people are afraid of and release that fear, they look to you for the next step.

In any case, I we go to her house.
She has 2 male roommates, I think interesting.
She say she never does anything like this.
I say, I know it is just a weird situation.

He roommates try and get me to go out with them. I stay with her.
I will say this...
It was good to be with a woman who didn't unleash hell upon your body. Just sex was good enough.

The funny thing is that I have a new found respect for Israeli women. They know how to be women, better than I can make them.

I am going to release some transcripts of this night and I actually have the approach to the pull all on Audio. It was about 2.5 hours to the close.
So GET ON THE LIST to hear the actual reenactment.

Al-Aqsa!

And Happy New Year!

FREE Inner Game Conference Call #1 Jan 15th, 2009

2008-12-27T14:11:00.000-08:00

Today is yet a different day.
I would like to touch on a few things in this write up.

Last night was a pretty amazing night. Hung out with Captain Jack again.
It made me think about how I had the opportunity to learn form him originally. He actually did most of his teaching with me for no cost. But i was willing to learn and pretty much did anything he told me. He is doing some Voodoo shit for the next few days.

But I am going to send the properly formatted CJ and ET Text message thread and there will be some new commentaries from CJ as well that we went over last night.

Other than that, last night was a really amazing night. Working int his field you can get way too caught up in Bullshit!
Game is pretty much learning to live a life you like with getting the women you like, but how it is taught is fucking retarded.
I think that everyday I am confronted with the reality of how insane it can be to work in this industry. What people believe influences women or people in general in the community is so bazaarly out there is a joke.
One thing CJ kept rambling on about last night was that in what he has seen people do in terms of game within the community is only a scratching of the surface. What both of us have witnessed in terms of other PUAs and Naturals is beyond what any company is selling out there. The things is that people need to come together on these ideas.
The community was almost born divided by big egos about nothing.
Please tell me what the biggest names in the PUA community have done new in the past year, let alone the past 2 years. It has been stagnant. And the capabilities os social dynamics whether it is to learn to stick your dick in everything that moves or learn to impact and touch people's lives there is so much more out there than what is revealed. What people carry these enormous egos about are complete crap. If you only knew what losers they were in real life, you would never give them money to teach you.

You have to be kind of crazy in order to progress ideas, as in my last post.
I am not sure what I learned from that in terms of game, but that story with that girl has actually taken an interesting turn. Although as when some girls find my blog, I always regret writing about them, I do think it helps the guys. That is not to say I do not help the women out there I meet, and some I sleep with. I love talking to people, that is what made me good at this. So I open myself up to everyone.

As you know I am the guy that writes theREDstacks. In writing theREDstacks I have had the opportunity to work with all sorts of people and really get to know them at a deeper level.

I have always loved this about teaching pick up. I have always loved the fact that, I could meet guys in this field that had so much interesting life experience.
In doing so, some turns in my life happened last year.
This main came from teaching Negatron and Jtime.
The two of them have actually had the biggest impact on my life in this past year.

Now there are also a few other guys who actually have been very instrumental too in and out of the community. The most interesting thing that how they helped me where in ways completely outside of talking to women. I guess you could categorize it as inner game or lifestyle.
In dong so we came up with exercises that helped us work on inner game while talking to women.
The funny thing is that I have had multiple life changes throughout my life. In reading people’s stack profiles there are so many people who have too.
Yet we would rather learn how to lie about our ‘social value’ in order to meet women.

So all that being said there are many things Inner Game wise that I want to give back to the community.
It is my belief that Inner Game should be taught for FREE.
Now I understand people paying for personal instruction but the best way I can offer this for free without stretching myself too thin is by having a FREE monthly Conference Call.

I want to do this call on Jan 15th, 2009. It is a Thurs.
Hopefully Jtime and a few of the other people who have helped me with this will be on it as well. We shall see.

The Conference Call will only be for people on my email LIST so GET on THE LIST!
I can also assure you that this will be coming at the whole idea of Inner Game from a different angle.
You will truly appreciate it.

Let’s stay in touch!

For now this is how I feel portrayed by Hot Water Music's cover of an Alkaline Trio song.
(have NO IDEA what the Panda is doing in this, but oh well)

This is what happens to Naughty Little Boys

2008-12-26T17:20:00.000-08:00

Yeah tell me what quote that is from, who said it, what it is written on and when it was frist said to them and you get a free phone consult!
"this is what happens to naughty little boys"

Alright, so the Stripper Text is going out at 8:23pm Eastern.
The last 24 hours…actually 30 hours now…have been a trip.

I was going to include it in my email to my list, but what can I say…the list email is long enough.

Today Bart picked me up from my house and said…
“Dude, did you get in a fight?”

I tell him ‘no’ and explain the story I am about to tell you.

So the day started off kinda late. I woke up late, did my family stuff, which is always interesting.
Then I decided to hang out with one of the girls that I actually texted a picture of my shit to. She relied to the text saying, ‘how sweet’.
She was alone for Xmas and for the rest of the next 2 days I would be too.

I didn’t know her all that well but after we met up, it was freaky how much we actually had in common. She told me that she had thought about taking a shit and texting it back to me. So I was pretty whipped at that point.

I will also say that part of my life for the past few months has been pretty active in service for others, and later it turned up that she has been involved in some of the things I had done as well. Whoohohohaoaooa…breakthrough comfort. Future would be proud.

We actually go out and help some folks out that night who are spending Xmas Eve alone, then she wants to meet up with some friends.
In any case, the night ends up back at her place. I figured it would seems like an easy close, but she also seems pretty crazy, in a good way (so I think).

Watch a movie, begin hooking up. She is aggressive, I am thinking… ‘cool’.
She bites my lip…hard, I am thinking, ‘cool, she as something to prove, I can throw that shit back on her’.
I touch her pussy and she hits me in a good way…and I am thinking ‘alright, I will need to break this bitch’

Then her friends come by, I guess this is normal.
It is a girl, who is pretty hot, and a guy that is pretty lame, I am sure he thought the same as me. It was one of those moments when you seem how retarded people can be by how they act when their friends are around.

The friends leave, and we hook up again… now she is even more aggressive.
She bites more, I tell her to stop and she bites harder.
I am like WTF?

I cant pull away cause she is latched on my lip. So I go for the choke, and she is about to bit the shit off and then relaxes beginning to pass out.
She regains and smacks me.
So she wants to wrestle. That is no fun for her cause, I can wrestle, she goes back to the biting.
Within all this there is of course the dialog trying to tell her to stop.
But I am crazy so I continue.
Also many moons ago there was a time where I was pretty know in the S&M clubs. I actually used to go there when I was 18.

So this chick is fucking crazy. For real…
I suppose I should have known.

So to make a long story short, I power through.
We go on a marthon of action. And the longer it continues I realize, she wants me to beat her up. She wants the abuse.

Now I have been with girls who want some playful abuse, you could argue that this could be enjoyable for many women, but this girl wants me to hurt her and dominate her. She is going to hurt me until I fight back for real.
Well, I am not into that.
I am into a lot of shit, but beating someone into submission I am not.

It was one of those situations where, you are constantly fighting for dominance and unless I beat her down I will not get it.

So we fuck and fight, and then finally both of us give up. No one gets off.

We sleep, wake up and fuck again. This time less violent. She is unmarked and let me tell you, I am totally fucked up.
To make things make sense, in 1999 I was featured at an S&M club and I went home with my entire body was black from some deranged form of insanity. I mean like nails being hammered through dicks and shit like that….there is no lack of pain tolerance on my side,, but this was more bazaar than those experiences.

This was not enjoyable for her, it was almost like I was facilitating whatever demoralization she had gone through.
I left the situation that morning telling her that we obviously have a lot in common, but sex is no the best way fro us to communicate.

The things is that when you’re a PUA you come up with some skills, but you have got to use your Super Powers for good not evil.

Afterwards I met up with a friend and worked with people all day. It was a good feeling.
I have met people all over the world, from many different cultures and classes and it is always the poor poets that make the most sense.
So this lady who I happened to be working with was talking to some folk and she was rambling on and on, but I caught her saying…
“People always question what they are doing, but if ou find yourself in a rut all you can do is the next best thing. If you do the right thing, even when you are in a bad place, the right outcome actually has a chance of manifesting.”

I probably should have stepped out of the situation a lot earlier, but I stayed in for some egocentric bullshit. But I left the situation in a way that made me happy.
When I was driving home, 4 blocks from my house…
The Axle broke on my car…
Freak accident.

I made it to the side and for about 30 seconds I was pissed as a motherfucker.
I was thinking…
“This is fucking Xmas and I am this fucking close to my house and my car has this freak accident. My face is all bruised and cut up! Motherfucker! God I hate you!!!!
Why me why me why me….”
Then all of a sudden it cleared for me.
At that time the girl called me and I talked to her about her freaking out about everything for a little bit, then I said, “hey you know what I just had an accident and I am kind a stranded, can I call you back, but we are obviously meant to be some sort of friends. Let’s stop worrying about the sex stuff and talk about it all later.”
But it made me think…
We only get mad about the small stuff., when big stuff happens somehow reality forces us to be humble.
People in the PUA community live their lives based off of validation and other meaningless crap. It is not a competition; your goal is to be a better human not a better robot. You want to meet the people in your life that will truly bring you value.
Not the kind of value that gets you a certain car, house, or other artificial bullshit.
I teach stuff which is much more aggressive than most people. I teach thing that work as well, mainly because I look at the human in front of me. I don’t try and make them me, I try and make them the best them.
One thing I always want to make clear is that you want to be yourself, and not some manifestation of bullshit.
Value is what you have to offer the world and not what you take and hold in front of people’s faces. In how we socialize, there are ways of presenting yourself that, draw people in. Learn that, and then after that…
Learn to bring out the best in you.

In this past year there have been many times when I could have thought my life was complete shit. And there were times when I thought that.
But what makes you happy is not what people would like you to think. What makes you happy is detachment. It is when what happens outside of you doesn’t determine your serenity.
The more you expect out of people place or things, the more you are dependant on it.
And when something is missing you will be missing right along with it.
I see so many PUAs and PUA instructors that have zero sense of self. I would never want to sit in their shoes. Why someone would pay them is beyond me.

I waited for an hour for a tow truck.
I talked to a bunch of people on the phone, and when I finally got home my neighbor was like….
“What the fuck happened to you”

I laughed and told him.

I told him and he said, “Yeah you should probably stay away from that girl.”

We will see how insane I really am….
Hahahaha!

Happy Holidays!

2008-12-24T11:20:00.000-08:00

I remember 3 or 4 years ago if you said Happy Holidays that meant you hated America, and wanted the USA to be taken over by Communists or something like that. Actually I think that was an election year…makes sense... stupid shit always comes out then.

Tomorrow night for XMAS my Stripper Text is going out. I will compare it with CJs work in the previous email. So if you are not on the List, GET ON IT! (upper right hand corner)

Also, I will have a little bit of a write up on Inner Game going out in the next few days, so sign up on that mofo!

Right now Jeff Buckley’s Version of Hallelujah is playing at this Starbucks, which makes me think of a few things. Way back when, when he jumped in that Mississippi with his clothes on high on H, his brother was crying his eyes out at Eral’s diner (now sadly closed) in Orange, Ca.
Back then nobody knew about Jeff. It sucked for his brother though.
But really it makes me think of how Leonard Cohen is quite possible the BEST songwriter of all time.

For now, I leave you in some Deep Thoughts
from the past couple of days…

All people are capable of massive change, I started working with others in areas outside of Pick Up more heavily and I have seen more in terms of people via personal growth in the past few weeks than in a long long time.
Even myself.

I told my friend that I thought our mutual friend Scotty was crazy.
He replied, ‘You know Scotty isn’t that crazy, you’re actually crazier than him.’
This made me a little bit afraid, but at the same time it made me happy.

It is reveled about in small circles that a few weeks ago, Soco SNLed a stripper completely outside of his Social Circle who was carrying a 9mm Berretta. So last night when I got in the car with this girl and she had to move her Shotgun and Rifle I felt included…
I texted Soco and he replied, ‘oh, just a hick not a badass….valiant effort though, ha’
Either way I am proud.

Funny enough later that night my Stripper friend told me about a photo
shoot she wanted to do with a gun and her getting married.

A girl told me that she had a dirty secret, that she like to watch guys pull their dicks out of her right when they are about to cum, and shoot it all over her. I wanted to get her to push back at me a little, so I told her that this was no big deal all women like this. Then she flipped out saying that this was not true and her girlfriends hate cum.
The truth is that all women like this phenomenon. But the other hand to it is, they all tell each other they don’t.
It is kind of like masturbation in High School. Everybody talks shit on it, but everybody does it. So what does this tell me….
A lot, be creative with that one. Mainly that sexual fantasies for both men and women is something people keep to themselves. This can be used to blast towards sex.

I had a girl I met a few days ago re-pierce my dick again and then we went out on a date, where she went nuts. She spit on me, slapped me, punched me. I thought this was funny, and she went home with me.

This month I walked away from more potential closes in a long time. If a girl wants to fuck you, and you deny her, she becomes your bitch. Interesting dynamic. I got this from Pimpology by Pimpin’ Ken. Also if you close too many girls in a Strip Club, things do not go well for you in that club, or it is harder to manage all the personalities and egos.

After I pulled a girl she told me all about her life and so I walked away from it. I felt bad for many reasons the next day, I called my ex girlfriend who is a spiritual leader type about it. She told me I have Karma that I need to clean up, and either I can do it now or it will keep coming later in life. Later that day I called my friend Kevin and he told me that Karma was the knock on the door that just keeps getting louder.
I told the girl last night that she was the knock on the door that keeps getting louder. She was like… WTF???? I think if I can keep my dick in my pants with her I will be good friends with her. The shitty thing is that when you deny a girl sexually, sex will be an issue for a long time.

There are way more hot chicks than cool chicks. Very little crossover. If you get a cool chick and she is not a 9 or a 10, who cares? You’re an idiot if that means anything to you. That means you care more about what a bunch of PUA geeks think than your personal well being. That’s healthy.

Due to my new clarity, there will be more Inner Game stuff coming out and some Free Conference Calls directly addressing this. Sure I want to sell, but that can never be my main motive for doing the things I do.

My Jewish friend in Atlanta just sent me the funniest text message…
‘Merry Christmas, we killed your Lord, see you at Easter!’

Speaking of text messages…
Last week I texted every girl in my phone I have not yet closed a picture of a shit I took with the title saying…
“this is how much I love you”
I theorize the ones that replied back, I will close no problem.
One I already have, the rest we will see.

There is a New Twist towards things.

2008-12-20T15:14:00.000-08:00

So in about 5 hours I am going to send this Text thing out.
It actually changed a bit.

Last night was a pretty insane night and I am going to send the info about that.
There are very few times when I am really humbled about things in terms of Game, and in terms of Inner Game.

There will still be a supremely bad ass text game thread on it.
This was a completely different style of Text Game, and I want to share it with you guys.
Like all things in Game people can get too idiosyncratic with things.
It is completely retarded. People do not branch out and explore new ideas.

The Atlanta crew apparently has some new stuff they have done in terms of Text Game, I guess Soco has been morphing it into shape, his stuff is always very dominant.
But the stuff I did last night was Amazing in how predictable it and calculated it was to set up a Pull.

Good stuff guys, kind of advanced but repeat it.

It will go out at 11pm Eastern.

Text Messages out SAT!

2008-12-19T08:25:00.000-08:00

Hey Guys,

I was kind of hesitant against this because there was a lot of input from the Cold Reading stuff that I got.
The main thing that I got from that is that I shoudl probably write more about it.
But since more writing for me is not really feasible I am going to start doing the next best thing.

I am going to stat doing some Conference Calls that hit a few topics.
As said by many, many people I extend myself so far that I can not properly reach people.
I do Lair Talks,
I do Phone Calls, I teach Live, when visiting Lairs I take guys out for free, and then somewhere in between all of that I try and have a life.

In fact one thing that being in the Community taught me was that you need to take care of YOU first. In many ways I am learning that still.

So here is my solution to that!
Sign up on my List and Sat you will get the Text Messages that I have recently had.
Also in the next week or so I will put some Audio up of my latest interludes.
This will be pretty interesting...still not sure if I will put the samples up on the blog first, but probably will end up doing it. Much of it is with Strippers and Hired Guns.
I will also be planning on doing at least 1 Conference Call a month.
I would like to do more, but we will see what time allows.

I would like to focus the topics on Inner Game, Framing, Cold Reading, and whatever you guys give me feedback on.
(send it to eltopoPUA@gmail.com)

As for the guys who have bought theREDstack I would like to do one once a month with you guys.
I did a tester one with 3 guys the other day, and I think it went well.
It was pretty cool...
One guy was in England, another in Los Angeles, and another in Australia.

If you haven't met me I don't care if these calls are recorded, nor do I care if they are posted.
All the information is out there free, but who can teach it???
So hopefully this will give something back to the community.

All of this will be through my email list....
SO GET ON IT!

This is the type of shit that rocks my world

2008-12-18T01:35:00.000-08:00

More of Mehow's Infield Insider Footage

2008-12-15T21:33:00.000-08:00

Hey Guys,

Check it out more of Mehow's Infield Insider Footage.
You got to go to Mehow's Blog for it so CLICK HERE!

Check out Mehow, Sinn, Hypnotica and the rest of em. They are all great. But I guess I made the Top 8 or something like that....WHOAHAOAOAOAOAOOO!
On my breakdown, it is about very different stuff.
It is all about Body Language, which you really can't write about , and I explain pretty thoroughly in the interview. A lot of very new stuff that nobody really does or talks about.

It is much different than the first clip that was released.

The funny thing is that my buddy Dante was telling me to wash my hair before the interview cause he said I looked like a filthy beast, but in the video I look like I have a bad perm. hahaha!

And all I got to say is that had I been wearing my OTM clothing when I shot the Insider things would have been more FIERCE!

Cold Reading Post out Tonight

2008-12-15T12:48:00.000-08:00

Hey guys just shamelessly promoting my list.
The post will on Cold Reading will go out late tonight and the Text Message stuff a little bit later in the week. Either Thurs or Fri.

One of the reasons for the list is because I am going to transfer the blog to my new site coming out next month.
I am still not sure if I will maintain this one, but I may kill it.
Either way I am going to start blogging to my list rather than using this thing once the new site comes into play.

There is some interesting stuff on the way, but isn't there always...

So sign up and stay in touch.
Not sure when I am going to transfer everything over, but the new site should have all the podcasts and media stuff on it.
Looks like a good one so far.

For now I will say I am always amazed at this man...
The founder of Shock and Awe!
A true man of tremendous oration and quick reactions.
I wonder if I can find the shoes on ebay...I would pay big bucks for that.

A little insight on Stripper Game

2008-12-12T21:17:00.000-08:00

This is kind of a spur of the moment post but I was out with my buddy Bart the other night and pulled off some crazy shit.

Right now Shaft, Soco, Jtime and myself think Stripper game is easier than any other game.
I know that some people may think it is harder, but I couldn't disagree more.
I have mixed things that Shaft has come up with (his system is by far the most thorough and I don't want to make it sound like I know it inside and out, but i do have an understanding of it)
and I have mixed stuff that Soco has done. Soco's is more pimp style from what I understand. Both Soco and Shaft have spent a lot of time in clubs, and know their dynamic very well.
I also have a good friend of mine that has done over a decades worth of Business in relation to strip clubs and they know the business very well.

On Jtime's workshop with me he SNLd a stripper, and I was pretty surprised. At the time I hadn't really done much stripper game. Sinn and Shaft had given me some pointers and I had heard Sinn's Stripper and Hired Guns stuff.

First off, what Sinn is saying is right 100%.
I am just coming at it from a different angle.

Just like learning from Captain Jack is way different than learning from Mystery, Stripper Game and Hired Gun game has many different angles. That still means what Mystery came up with was right, there is just a completely different way.

I will say this, of all the girls in my life right now that I have met in the past 2 months are all either waitresses, strippers, or porn actresses (which I don't know if that is a good thing...but we will work on that later)

So the other night I pulled a 2 set that became an 8 set from a strip club that I had only been to once before a long time ago in a town very far far away. I met all these girl that night.
I also visited another club that night too and got what could be interpreted as a booty call from one of the strippers at the other club.
That Text Message one constant text so I will send it out to my list Next Week and post the breakdown on my blog.

Sign up on the Mailing list (the link is fixed)
and Later this week after the Cold Reading stuff it will go out.

I am not going to post an LR on the blog of it all just yet, but it has been a while since I have had such a crazy experience. I mean even in the community I have not had such a crazy experience with women in comparison to the past few nights.
And you guys know me I am a pretty fucked up dude, that is open towards some pretty crazy experimentation. But these girls impressed me.

So for now I will leave you with this...
And I write this for the learn purposes, many of my friends are Strippers and this isn't to go out and abuse their asses, but let's look at some facts as to how Stripper Game is hands down easier than any other game-

-They are Approaching you
They are approaching you, isn't that everyone's fear. Approach anxiety is everyone's excuse. You go there you sit. No you don't buy dances or spend money, I spend no money on them. That doesn't mean you can't, but at first it is a good idea not to. The only way I would spend money on them is for proofing out an entire club. This in completely unnecessary, but that is the only reason. In fact if you do befriend them or fuck them, they probably wouldn't ever want to take money from you.

-They are the ones trying sell you
So this is one of the more important things. You are not subservient to them, they are the ones asking permission to sit and talk you into buying them. That means you have ample time to talk to the real them and not the stripper version of them. If they are playing hard sell to you then qualify their ass. They are in your space you are their boss essentially. You don't need to run game, you need to say, 'look if you want me to buy a dance from you then you gotta do more than that, if you can't then run along, if not sit here and keep me company'.

-Society frowns upon their profession (join the club)
No who knows what is right and wrong... being a PUA is not really the most ingratiated job there is out there. But society looks down at what they do. This brings up a few things that are actually listed below, and adds a whole lot leverage for comfort. They don't want to be seen as bad, they want to be seen as normal. Now also they are seeking attention and are doing a fairly risky thing to seek attention, weather money is the motive of not, that action of seeking attention all the time effects you. That is also why so many PUA instructors are so fucked up cause they are constantly seeking attention and validation, but that is another story....hahahaha

-They are the ones seeking Attention from you using Sex
So this is influenced by what is listed above. They want attention more that actual sex, they want to be seen as sexually normal. The bullshit of sex is their job. All the commercialized slutty, assholish things associated with sex that women hate are what a stripper is trying to sell to you. Or that is at least what the club is trying to sell to you. Those are all things women hate as their identity sexually. So this being said you can talk about sex in a normal way, and when they so calculatingly bring up that they love slutty sex, you can easily say, 'actually I hate that sort of thing, I actually really like people being real during sex. In fact I see sex as something very personal. If you're only gonna act all stripper sexy then, go make your money with someone else, but if you're gonna talk to me be real'.

-Sex is something that is already a topic
I touch on this above, but yeah you can talk about all sorts of lewd sexual shit. They always try and top me, but that is pretty hard. There are only 2 women that I know who can keep up with me on the perv level, and believe me I am very attracted to them because of this. But most strippers are very open to all sorts of crazy sexual talk, where in a club this is harder. Just make sure your are dong so with fun and humor in mind. Don't be a fucking creep.

-They are competitive and their egos are easy to leverage
So they are always competitive. This is how they have to be. Look they have to deal with a bunch of perverts all day, and hustle their bodies. If they are competitive then they will qualify themselves very easily. You just need to challenge them a little. You need to tell them things like, 'wait a minute, is that one of your tricks, that doesn't work on me' they will come back and say, 'oh yeah will this work on you'. You can structure a ladder based on this.

-They want to feel normal
As I mentioned this above, they don't want to be seen as pieces on meat. They get paid really good money to be seen as pieces on meat, and treated that way (sometimes). So don't treat them like that, but DO break their frame. Don't let them be dominant over you, but make their work enjoyable and be the customer that isn't there to freak them out.

-They generally have a pretty interesting sense of humor about sex
Ok so they almost always have a fucked up sense of humor about sex.
This is good cause you can ask things like, 'what is the most fucked up sexual experience you have had' or 'have you ever messed up during sex and embarrassed yourself', or 'have you ever had sex with a guy that his dick was so big it made you totally regret the experience'....

The main thing here is that the idea that Stripper Game is harder than club game is the wrong way to look at things.
Go to a strip club, don't buy dances, go there and watch sports and hangout.
If you are remotely normal and dominant and confident they will be real in front of you.
There are a few things that you can do that implement dominance and hold your frame, but just remember they are there to sell you, you're their boss not them. Once that is established work your frames in, that fall into place all too easily in a strip club.

A Brief but Triumphant Announcement...and some music

2008-12-10T15:52:00.000-08:00

So for those interested in some of the Lessons I have been putting out there
I would recommend signing up to the podcast list in the corner...

Now yes I know the podcasts are in hibernation, however the new site is almost ready and they will all be available there.

Since the next Lesson I am putting out is on Cold Reading there are a few extra things I want to include to people on my list. The folks on my list will get the sexual cold reads, as well as a few more useful cold reads.

As for the title of this I only expect Cowboy to get it... but if you do then email me and I will give you a free phone consult... eltopoPUA@gmail

For now some music for my friends in Atlanta who had another Mystery Matador sighting...
They were at a strip club there last night and they were tying their tactics and tricks on some of our friends there. Needless to say, at this point the new 'advancements' in stripper game destroy whatever bullshit they are doing.
I have actually been doing quite a bit lately and Shaft has been showing me the ropes.
But in Atlanta Jtime and Soco are also revolutionizing stripper game as well.
So stay tuned cause we got something coming that will fuck up the game of the past.
Stripper game as I knew it before was laid out completely wrong and this new stuff is quicker and way more efficient and effective. It works in multiple styles...
If you want to social proof a club and be involved in those crazy after hours parties or if you just want to be a lone wolf in the club and pick the girls off.

So this song is for you guys

Mehow's Infield Insider

2008-12-02T22:20:00.000-08:00

Here I am on the Insider...
Special thanks to the all knowing Genius DJ Fuji and the rest of the Mehow Crew...
The funny thing is that what is initially featured on the insider interview part we shot so far is completely different.
You should check it out at http://www.mehow.tv/

I go over all this stuff on Body Language and how to gain Sexuality in completely different ways.
The great part about it, is that this is stuff you can't write about, you really have to see it.

We will talk more about all this later though....

For now have a good laugh...
I actually wish that the rest of this set was previewed so you could hear about their secret urination fantasies... It was a funny one.

Revelations- Revolutions- Evolutions Lesson 2

2008-12-02T22:09:00.000-08:00

Lesson 2 – Applications and Initial
Steps for Seduction
Teases and Qualification

So with the last post, I got some emails about qualification.
There were more than a few people that were up in arms about me saying that Qualification was NOT always necessary for achieving rapport.
The truth is that Qualification can lead you to rapport, but I think it would be terribly naive to think that it is the only way to Rapport.
Qualification is a tool of attraction that is trying to make it possible to Transition to Rapport.

This lesson will be about turning your Teases and Negs to move towards seduction and help lay the foundation for seduction and to Qualify towards seduction.
The long-winded theoretical part will be at the bottom, examples first (again all for you MMAPUA)

Email me at
eltopoPUA@gmail.com
with whatever questions

Some Negs/Teases

Let’s start with some easy ones to elicit sex…
-Do you always treat shy church boys like this?
-You know, I bet you are one of those girls that totally gets off on intimidating guys.
-You have a really interesting face… the last girl I knew like that was always getting herself in trouble.
-I can tell you being quite and acting cute is just a front, I bet with your last boyfriend, you were a handful.
-I can tell just from talking to you I can be getting myself into trouble, it is girls like you that always bring out the worst in me.
-You’re gonna make me blush with those (comment on a characteristic of her) of yours, but I don’t want you to do something that might embarrass us here.

For those of you more brazen, you can get away with these pretty easily…just ask Algasim…
-You are one of those girls that is such a tease… I bet you totally pissed off your last guy you met… but you like that type of BS…
-You’re a girl that totally cheats…. No really it is totally cool, if you’re not satisfied, I can understand.
-If you keep talking that way I will have to make you squirt (or treat you like a women, or bend you over right now and take care of business)
-Hey I am just a shy boy, you don’t want to take advantage of me with your dirty mind.
-You’re totally the type of girl that can never live up to how she portrays herself.
-You’re one of those girls that can never get a guy off.
-You are totally one of those girls that gets intimidated by a guy who knows what they’re doing.
-I bet you are really insecure about yourself…like when you have sex do you have it with the lights on or off?
-You’re a really visual person, I bet you really like to watch…
-I bet you’re one of those girls with weird tits once you take off your bra.
-you’re one of those girls that attracts guys that are assholes, but the funny thing is that you’re still sexually frustrated.
-you’re one of those girls that really gets along with older/younger guys, but you actually don’t actually really feel like a woman.
-You’re one of those girls that is really beautiful, but you can’t keep someone attracted.

So with the teases you are really trying to get them to push back at you and assert some dominance over them. With the above the push back is set up to facilitate sexuality, and for them to accept a sexual role or stereotype.

Qualifiers

Now we will move to the qualifiers. Qualifiers will do a few things here. If you look at some of the more aggressive negs and teases, you will notice that they actually have more to do with challenging their identity, this builds more investment, hence making rapport easier to take flight. So with the qualifiers you can really gain some ground. First start thinking of qualifiers as something that allows you to inflict Bait and allows you to lead a topic to talk about. In other words ask questions that lead into a leveraging conversation and have it make them work for their identity. Also there is an element of cold reading that comes into play here too.

Also this is not qualification like the normal hoop theory that DOES work, but it show how to lead with qualification. It is just a little bit of a different take on it all. You see Bait and Cold Reading are pretty good tools to keep in the arsenal too.

Here are some qualifiers that lead into some Bait or begin with some Bait.

End with Bait

So can I ask you something? What is something that you really don’t like about guys you’ve dated?
(doesn’t matter if she answers, continue on)
The thing is that guys these days don’t know how to lead anymore, I bet you are the type of girl that only attracts assholes?
You know what that means right….
(then you can answer with something like, ‘that means I can’t talk to you anymore…you have father issues…bla bla bla’)

What is something about you that you find really embarrassing?
(she answer or doesn’t)
You know what, I can tell that you should not ever play poker, I bet your hands get sweaty don’t they…
Yeah you’re no good for me. But here is the thing, I bet you really have a lot of trouble keeping guys…
Like you are totally someone who is really attractive, but you are always afraid of maintaining attraction.
(this will actually rock a girl’s world, she will really push back with this)

Begin with Bait
-
How old are you?
(she answers)
Awe, I can’t ask you this then, you’re too young/old, it will be too much for you.
(she will pull back and want you to ask her)
Ok so have you been in a pretty heavy relationship before?
One where it is more physical than emotional?
Ok so I can tell that even if you had been in one, you were actually someone who had to hold back in it, cause guys don’t make you feel comfortable enough to open up completely.

Who is one of your really close friends?
Ahh actually you can’t be trusted if you have a friend with a first name like that it is too plain/eccentric…wait what is your first name…we may have to clear things up.
Alright, so here is the deal… what is something that you makes you really happy?
So with me, I am actually someone who can’t stand being bored. I have always got to be doing something…
Don’t get all ADD on me and think you can relate.
I bet you are one of those girls where you actually pisses guys off cause you get distracted in the bedroom too…
Ok so you don’t?
So what is your strong point?

First lets clear things up….
What is Attraction?
Attraction is gaining interest towards you.

How does Attraction work?
Attraction works off being reactive. There is almost like a mechanical flow to it. You push someone in the right way and they push you back.
So you tease someone and they smile and defend themselves.
Attraction does not get you laid, but is necessary for the whole process of things.

What are Phases of Attraction?
Some people say it comes first, but Attraction is always happening. It never stops. It happen at the beginning of a set and it is happening in the ‘seduction’ phase too. For now just keep an open mind towards that. We will get to implementing Attraction while seducing. For now lets focus on attracting with some seduction.

What are some tools for Attraction?
Things that cause attraction are:
-Energy Level or State
-Multi-Threading and Fractionating
-Being Dismissive
-Teases/Negs
-Disinterest
-Holding Frame
-Value
-Utilization of Bait
-Push Pull
-State Compliance
-Interactive based Routines
-Dominance
-Movement
-Touching
-Confusion

So now lets look at Rapport in the same way

What is Rapport?
Rapport is when you are both on equal levels. It is when there is emotional investment on both sides and that is how you are interacting. It doesn’t need to be deep, but it could be as little as someone trying to explain themselves to you, or as much as someone desperately telling you about who they would live and die for. But anywhere within that is good.

How does Rapport work?
Rapport works off of emotions. This is where people share parts of themselves to each other. It still has reactions, but they are towards parts of someone’s identity. The easiest way to describe this is Attraction’s reactions are surface level and Rapport’s are something which actually means something to someone. This is why Qualification was used to get there. The funny thing is that in order to gain investment in someone we were initially told to lie about ourselves to gain investment. Qualification is not the only way to gain rapport, in fact it can be gained much easier through other veins.

What are Phases of Rapport?
If Attraction is always moving and helping things push forward than Rapport is really the constant. Rapport is always there, from the moment you approach a set you need to make them feel comfortable (that was one of the reasons for the False Time Constraint and Over the Shoulder, that was one of the reasons for being Indirect). Now at the beginning Attraction is cycling really fast, but what an artist needs to do is let it slow down when the target hooks on that. That is what calibration is for.
There are many forms this can take, but you can take, you can open with attraction and make it feel comfortable, you can open with sexuality and make it feel comfortable, you can piss someone off and make it feel comfortable, there are all sorts of ways to bring it to the table. Either way rapport is the point what controls the shift of it all…it is what controls the tipping point.

Ways to Implement Rapport
-Cold Reading
-Framing
-Emotional Connection
-Stories
-Vulnerability
-Telling a Secret
-Isolation
-Intimate Compliance
-Emotional Compliance
-Making Mistakes acting Nervous

The reason why Seduction can be a catalyst for Rapport is because to give someone a ‘sexual identity’ they become invested. If you are into using framing then you need to do that right from the start. Your frames should be built from the start.
So here is how to set some sexual identity frames with Teases and Qualifiers. You can say them pretty much right away. If you think you need a ladder, you can try that, but you don’t need it.
The main thing is you are using Attraction tools to build an identity so you are using Push Pull to get them to play to this identity.
That way your Rapport will be based off of seduction and you can start grounding to implement other nicer frames….

NEXT LESSON on COLD READING

Email me at
eltopoPUA@gmail.com

Another Delay, but you gotta love this Woman!

2008-11-25T13:13:00.000-08:00

God could not make women this amazing... she gives me hope for the lord!
there is nothing like looking at her and seeing turkeys getting man handled and decapitated that really gets me off!
A true sex symbol of American politics while being baited with dangling meat in the background!

Lesson 2 will come tonight I promise!

How to game with a little Magic!

2008-11-20T19:39:00.000-08:00

If you want to know the real roots to game, you have got to start with the masters!
I know that companies have been built using this simple trick of the trade...

The next lesson comes Sat.
But for now, watch and learn how to take it to the next level....

Revelations- Revolutions- Evolutions

2008-11-18T02:39:00.000-08:00

Lesson 1 - Beliefs
Steps for Seduction

So let’s start with some beliefs.
A lot of the things that I want to talk about in the next month or so have to do with Sexuality/Seduction and Inner Game.

So let’s start with some Seduction stuff.
Seduction starts with the belief that it is possible.
I learned that really from Sinn and CJ.
I really learned how far you could take it from CJ, plus I am kind of a pervert.
I took that and ran with it.
Now when I teach I instill that same belief in some of my students.
And it is now that some those students have evolved many of those beliefs and theories to new levels.

So here are some of the fundamental beliefs that are helpful…
-All people (men and women) like sex.
-Most men don’t know what women find sexually attractive about men.
-Most men don’t know what women like to be thought of in terms of their sexuality.
-Most people are uncomfortable about sex. Men and women both have sexual insecurities… and they shouldn’t be insecure!

So let’s put some perspective on those beliefs before we go into some applications.

-All people like sex-
So look guys, there is nothing to be afraid of, when you talk about sex or bring it up it is a relief for people, especially women.
To put it in perspective let’s look at another aspect of game…Most people will agree that touching is a good thing to do in set right away. Mainly because it can be a useful tool, but also so you won’t end up in rapport with someone and be thinking, ‘when do I touch her?’ You already have established that you are someone who touches so you can escalate easier. So it is the same with sex. You can talk about sex the sooner the better and you won’t have to worry about transitioning to it later. For those of you structure hounds, you should be kicking yourself for not doing this, or maybe you already do. You can be direct about it or you can be indirect about it, just bring it up.

-Most men don’t know what women find sexually attractive about men.-
You always hear people talk about Nancy Friday’s book or Soap Operas, to justify women as being ‘Sluts that want to get fucked’. I wouldn’t call women that have healthy and normal fantasies or imaginations ‘Sluts’. I actually think that the voicing of a sexualized woman as a ‘Slut’ an insecurity towards sex. Men that think women are ‘Sluts’ for having sexual fantasies are men that don’t understand women. That being said, what women find attractive about men can vary in specific physical qualities, but men that understand women’s sexuality is more attractive that any ‘attraction switch’. Women have fantasies, just like men. You allow a comfortable environment for women to enjoy those fantasies, and you will be irresistibly attractive.

-Most men don’t know what women like to be thought of in terms of their sexuality.-
So what do women like to be thought of in terms of sex…or do they like it at all?
Of course they do. Thinking of women as sluts is not the best direction to take.
Take a look at mythology (the Bible included), folktales, movies, you can even see it when women dress up, put on make-up, costume parties, you can see it in just the basics of how women interact, whether she is flirting with you or she is trying to get rid of you, if she is trying to sell you something, if she is trying to convince you, and if she is trying to dissuade you.
There are 3 identities/roles/tereotypes that you should be aware of and adopt to helping your understanding of women. They also help with Seduction…

1-Women love being tempting, alluring, seductive. Women love to be chased, luring you with their beauty. Women love communicating in ways that we can’t understand. They love being the vixen, they love being the seducer, they love being the temptress… Bait is implemented by women and is where most men are complete wimps for not taking the bait and manning up and approaching.

2- Women love being taken, dominated, led, made to feel like a women…this is why it can be attractive in itself for a man to approach a woman. But really this is how attraction works. It is the male female dynamic, the female attracts, and the man carries the dominant action and approaches. The woman shows she is attracted (I believe that is what some people may call ‘A2’) and the man sees that and is dominant (I am not sure if that is what some people call ‘A3’ because the ways laid out to carry out ‘A3’ are not really dominant). Seduction, just like Attraction has a man’s role and a woman’s role, be familiar with both.

3- Women love being the ground, the stability, the mother, the nurturer, the earth. Once the roles of Seduction are established they find a home with this identity. So that can mean a relationship, but also it can mean, if a women chooses to be sexually free and adventurous, then she needs to have stability within this. This is why in the SNL frame of her being an individual is important.
Women love the transformation. They love the idea and act of putting on their make-up turning into something beautiful for the night, but they love to take that make-up off and put that identity away to come back for another time. This is because they are the ground. You may then be able to see how the frame of being discreet or keeping a secret may come into play here.

-Most people are uncomfortable about sex. Men and women both have sexual insecurities… and they shouldn’t be insecure!-

This brings up a few things.

First there will be an interest towards sex. People will react towards it if brought up properly. Because of that it can be a tool of attraction.
Here is n example-
You take the idea of a neg/tease, that was there because is gained value in a fun and playful way and it gained leverage in an interaction. But why it worked was because that was how women would communicate. It was how women communicated in a club environment or amongst close friends. So put 2 and 2 together and you have an interesting topic and you implement sexuality in your teases. It allows the topic to easily take place. Next post will have some neg/teases towards sexuality and qualifiers as well. Those alone will make your sets catapult towards a more leveraging point.

Second, if people are insecure about sex and they shouldn’t be. Set those people free, do them a favor!
But also bringing it up the idea of sex will gain a form of dominance. Plus no guys really ever talk about it with women, even in relationships…especially in relationships. If they do, they usually talk about it in the wrong way. Men don’t know how to view women sexually. But if you do, you will be the talk of the town!

Third, if people are insecure about it, it becomes an emotional experience and so it elicits rapport. Sounds confusing…well attraction is a reaction that carries little investment in emotions. It gains compliance towards push pull. Rapport takes some form of investment, that is why one of the ways towards rapport is qualification-by all means you can get rapport a lot easier than using qualification.
And one ways to do that is use the topic of sex. Because people are insecure about it bringing up the topic and having them at all compliant with it they are investing. It will put you in some heavy rapport fast. There will also be examples in next post.

Those are all ideas that should build your frame work.

How to implement these ideas will be next.
In doing so I will bring up some of my former students, and friends in and out of the community that have evolved these ideas into applications.

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Define the Roles

2008-11-14T13:01:00.000-08:00

This is one of the fundamentals that should happen in your interactions.
When you are talking to a Woman, you need to let it be known within the first few seconds that you are a sexual person. Or at the very least the idea should be established that men and women are sexual people. This is just a logistical thing that will have many things take care of themselves if you do it right. It is something that you can escalate upon, but it also helps you bypass a lot of Attraction stuff.

You need to define the roles of Male and Female in the interaction. It is not that males and females are friends, it is that males and females are sexually beings.

Women want to feel like Women, women want to feel Sexual, women want to feel Alluring, Seductive, Tempting, Powerful, Influential…they don’t want to feel like Sluts, Slaves, Powerless, Objects and all those other things that are associated with them in terms of sex. Women like sex and like to be sexy, so use that to your advantage.

The reason why this is important is because, if you don’t have this you will be stuck in some attraction phase that means nothing.

How game was laid out way back in the day was not to get laid, it was to get attention and then a side effect was, maybe to get laid. There are plenty of guys out there that still teach and do this. Seeing that most clients don’t want to learn to lie about their lives to learn to portray something they are not, I don’t teach how to do that. I teach how to be yourself and make that work. Also I can teach you how to get laid, and not just be some over dressed metro-sexual pest that can hold set. I would rather you be a man.

The best way to do this is right from the start of an interaction. This should be established from the approach.
When I teach I say there are 6 main tools of game that are consistent at any point of an interaction.

They are- Body Language, Facial Expressions, Tonality, How you Interact, Touching, What you Say.

We mainly focus on What you Say, which is often times the least important part of the dynamic.

So when we approach we mainly have Body Language, How we Interact, and touching be our main tools.
In the Day time Touching takes a backseat and What you Say moves up.

So the higher the stimuli the more Touching has a key roles in all of this.

Let’s breakdown a few things you can do that will establish that you are a sexual person when you approach in the night time.

1-Touch on the opener. If you approach front the front touch them on the shoulder or arm, and when you touch on the arm pull slightly and lean in, then rock out.
Now if you approach over the shoulder, you can actually get closer, and you can touch around the waist. This will come up later, but the waist is where you want to be touching.

2-Get Close. The idea of locking in is not there, so you can lean against something, it is there so you can show that you are comfortable and dominant in a social interaction. So when you break people’s space and get close to them you are also showing comfort and dominance but now it has more of a sexual over tone.

3-Around the Waist. This actually comes from Captain Jack, in fact defining the roles in general comes from Captain Jack. But al while ago, before CJ became the person we knew him as he said he looked at how women show they are attracted to men is they get closer to me, lean in and all of that. But one of the ways he could tells if they were sexually attracted, was if their hips or waist area was touching him. Now this is one of the first things I teach all my students and it cuts out a lot of that attraction bullshit. So grab around the waist and have their hips touch yours, or have their belly touch your hips. If you really want to take things quick get their belly to touch yours.

4-Learn to Push Pull into Seduction. Seduction and Attraction are extremely similar. In fact when Attraction was laid out they gave all this Evo Biology BS to justify it. 90% of it was BS, but if there is something hardwired in us it is Sex. So take the idea of Push Pull, it carries over to Seduction quite well. At the beginning of your sets your sets you need to build a push pull dynamic to all the things mentioned above. Get too close,, pull back and tease them, then come in grab around the waist and pull in, push away and give a compliment, then pull in and tease.

Although it seems light… probably one of the most useful things you can gain from this is waist to waist, hip to hip.

That will blow shit open.
Seduction starts early, and it starts by defining the roles.
More in a few days about things more relevant towards the daytime, and What you Say to define the roles.

Happiness is a warm gun

2008-11-13T03:36:00.000-08:00

For the past 4 months I have been doing things outside of pick up that have changed my life dramatically.
I have had the great opportunity to have great teachers come my way.
In fact many of them came about through teaching pick up.
Some of these people have been bums, porn producers/actors and actresses, film writers, doctors, lawyers and spiritual icons…some multiples of those things.
I have had the fortune in my relatively short time teaching to work with many students who have ended up teaching me.
Not only in terms of pick, but overwhelmingly so outside of pick up.

In fact I have remained light on the postings because of my intense work in these other fields.

A few things have come out of this actually accentuating my initial ideals towards teaching. Mainly having to do with losing the community’s ego and need for value, deconstruction of methods, and realizing that this is a journey towards overall improvement, not just seducing women. But believe me, there will be a lot coming up about seduction, seeing that no one ever writes about it.

Let me clearly state them, because this will become the general voicing of my blog at this point.

1-Pick Up, Dating Advice, Seduction, Social Dynamics…whatever you want to call it…is easy, and it can be learned by anyone. The ‘secrets’ are always simple, it is understanding them that can get confusing. Whether you want to lay a shit load of people (which can get old) or just want to socialize better, it is not as hard as we make it.

2-My knowledge and what I have to teach should be totally public. Information that I know and learn will be posted freely on my blog. Most ‘Seduction’ information is out there already, it is just a pain in the ass to find and put it all together, so I will freely put my stuff out there. Some people who teach disagree with this,; however, I do not. I believe in product, however, nothing will replace what I do as a teacher. Therefore, the information is free, my instruction and ability to customize and personally work with others is what is being paid for.

3-No one system has all the answers. This is true for anything. As my friend in Detroit (again a student who in many ways teaches me) told me earlier today, ‘Once you have learned a method, it is time to lose that method’. I found this true for myself in many phases. I actually first learned a method, was able to use it, and then after that was able to adapt in many other methods.
Afterwards this carried over to teaching; I began to teach and realized that there were so many different ways to teach each and every person. I really have to thank my students in this respect cause it was them who taught me how to adapt and be creative to come up with different translations to some fundamental principals. Again as my friend in Detroit told me today, ‘for something to be considered a principal, it must be able to work in all forums, not just particular to a method’.

4-There are no Gurus. This isn’t to say that there are not people who have anything to offer and are superior teachers. What it is saying is all people are pretty much equal. In all honesty, most people who are teachers in this, I wouldn’t want to be. Also what it takes to be a Guru, I don’t know, but I do know that I can not teach anyone if I think I am better than they are. If I were to ever think that, I couldn’t relate with them.

5- This is a Community. Sometimes I think it is the furthest thing from it. Regardless there are many aspects to it that we don’t’ come together on. I have had the good fortune to make money at teaching this. It has at times been hard and it has at other times been easy. But because I have benefited from it so much, I need to give back. This has always been my goal, but it got to the point where it was unmanageable. So the ways I will give back from this point on, will be through this blog, and lair talks. There may be some more things coming up, but for now that is it. Either way they will have the idea of community in mind.

6- My primary purpose in teaching this, is to help anyone who is willing. I have always gone out of my way for this, but it became unmanageable. Right now I am working on a way to do this within a functioning structure, where people can gain efficient access to what I offer. What I offer in terms of information shall be as accessible as possible.

Keep your eyes peeled, this should be a fairly active next few months.
There are many new revelations from the past few teaching experiences I have had. To put it in perspective, I have taught over 20 people live in the last 10 months, there are 9 of whom I will talk about at length in the next few posts who are better than me and better than most instructors. And when I say they are good it is not something like 4 lays here and there, I mean superior in terms of social circle, social proof, SNLs, Sexual Escalation, Lifestyle, and even being resiliently happy and getting the right people you want in your life.
Also there are a ton of people who are not my students I have met through talking with Lairs that are unbelievably good, whom I have learned a great deal from.
Some of these guys are so good, I wonder why people hire ‘Gurus’ to teach them, when the answers are right in front of them.
In fact all the information is out there for free online. There are really no secrets.
But there is something different with what I can achieve with my students. I get consistent results even though the students can be very different. I don’t know many teachers that are able to do that, which is a sad reality.
Again, the fundamentals are always the root. The principals are there, and they lessons will begin on this blog soon.

Basics of Sub Communications towards Seduction

2008-10-12T22:11:00.000-07:00

So when we start out gaming we look online for all these different theories and exercises that will help us get the types of women we want in our life.
In fact there are tons of different and complex ways to look at it.

I always think that my take on it all is very simple but my students tell me it is complex…go figure.

As I mentioned in my last post I said I have been hanging out with a bunch of people that are crazily good.
As I saw Algasim pull again last night, when I as winging my buddy Ryan and I thought to myself… ‘fucking Algasim.’ As he walked off again in 20mins flat.
Later on I had to leverage my wit to get myself out of my winging situation by making friends with rock ‘n roll stars, mma icons and some of the most interesting hairdressers I have met.
Pretty interesting night to say the least. Tomorrow should actually be better, cause I am doing a photo shoot with quite possibly the most famous person I have ever had the opportunity to do one with. This time I will not actually be behind the lens.
If it all pans out, I will fill you it.

But something that I want to bring up here is to simplify things a little.
It again has to do with that fun phase of Seduction, but these are just a few pointers that will help you get the basics of sub communications down.
Something not enough people talk about, but something that more people should talk about.

So here are a few pointers that people ask me about…

First is Screening-
For you to get good with your own sub communications, you need to get good at reading other's.
People are critical over screening, but let’s define that a little bit more. Most of game is designed to fit a club, some in the day time, some for social circle, and others for whatever various forms. Those are all forms of screening.
So when you hear CJ, Sinn, myself or whoever else talk about screening this is what we mean (and actually I can only speak for myself, but I have been pretty tight with those guys, I think I will do it justice in speaking for all) …
Screening for us is looking at who is the most logistically approachable that fits our taste. When I say approach, it doesn’t mean just open, it mean open and take it to where we want it. That could be SNLing someone, that could mean finding a girl to date, or whatever your goals might be. What we look for while screening is reading the social dynamic. Who they are with, what are their personality traits, when is the best time to approach and what they will be receptive to.
I actually wish I talked to DJ Fuji more about this, because he would take this stuff and run with it animal style...but it is a good exercise to do. You have got to learn how to read the room. It is stupid to walk into all your situations blindly.
So what do you screen for?
Figure out what you want in Game, and look for ways to find that or bring that out of a person before you approach. But always be proactive and approach.

Second is use of Body Positioning-
Now people might call this locking in, but the main thing is that you are using where you are in the set to work for you. It will take care of a lot. If you can do that and keep talking you will have less of a probability of getting blown out.
So let’s take it form an angle of locking in…
Locking in means having the most socially comfortable and dominant position in the group. That usually means leaning back against something. But think of it in this way, think of it as you are shaping the space of the group.
You need to penetrate the shape of the group.
You need to open the group and not stand outside of that group you want to get inside of it, comfortably within the first 30 seconds and have the group reshape around you.
That is dominant and you should do it comfortably.
The key is that this should be your goal throughout the set. Even when you isolate, you need to need to define the space you are having with them. That is how you build compliance towards dominance and even logistics.

Third is Spatial Relevance-
Nobody ever talks about this, but let me tell you this, Spatial Relevance does more for you than routines can do. It will help with screening and it will help elicit emotions or states more than other things.
So what this means is that when you are in set stand closer to your target than what you might feel is normal. When you qualify stand very close to them holding eye contact (the next tip in this post) and ask the qualifier. At the end of the question when you are waiting for a reply you can rock back slightly to use your body language to have them lean into you when answering.
Something you should try to get a feel for this is one night open sets and stand too close, but standing at various angle.
Another night try standing too close, but being face to face with them.
Another night try standing a step farther away from them, at various angles.
Then another standing a step further away but face to face with them.
You shouldn’t only do one, you need to work them all as an orchestration, but standing close elicits sexuality right away in set. It is one of the first things you can do when entering a set to calibrate for responsiveness to sexuality.
Try this-
Enter a set and within 30 seconds, ask your target a qualifier something like, “I bet you’re the one in the group that gets out of trouble the most, I can tell from how you dress, it’s cute, that you work that angle. So let me ask you this, what are people’s first impression of you?”
While doing this go in at an angle fairly close to her while smiling and say this.
As soon as you say the ‘first impression’ part lean back at an angle as if you are looking out of the corner of your eye.
Play with this idea and it will bring out some amazing results.
It is actually opposite of what was traditionally taught but if I didn’t see Shaft do it so many times and have it turn into 15min pulls than I wouldn’t have tried it. It works and it is dominant too.

Fourth is Eye Contact-
So here is the deal with this, when you hold eye contact it is a dominant way of communicating. You don’t always want to have it, you do need to look away, but when someone is qualifying back to you, you should try holding it.
But here is the real money shot with eye contact, people will match your emotions you express with your face while holding eye contact.
Even like how I listed above, eye contact can be used in how you look at people too. Looking at someone out of the corner of your eye from an angle can elicit emotions that bait sexuality back to you. Don’t go out and try and only soul gaze, but try and use have someone match different emotions one night you go out, by only using eye contact and facial expressions.
Also when you open and someone shit tests you, try saying something as bland as, “what are you talking about?” while holding eye contact. They usually will submit.
In terms of eliciting sexuality in a conversation and going sexual early eye contact is super necessary. That is why Gunwitch and CJ always said when they were in set and a girl was talking they would be looking at them and imagining having sex with them. It works in a pretty efficient way.

The fifth tip I will give is Touching-
So with this we all think of escalating and some sort of touching routines.
Those are all good things, but here is what I say, get touching out of the way by doing it on the opener.
But the real thing is, just like with the above-mentioned forms of communication you can sub communicate a lot with them. So let’s think of the idea in terms of Push Pull, work touching in that way. But not just pulling someone in and pushing them away and pulling them back. That is right, but think of doing it at key points. When qualifying or eliciting sexuality with your face and tonality (something I may talk about in a different post but important) pull them in and then slightly push them away when you are done talking, then without 2 seconds passing pull them right back in and either continue with that feeling or talk about something else.
Mind you, you don’t have to be talking about anything sexual, you are communicating with your body, voice and how you are interacting. I am not saying you can’t bring up something sexual, but at first try it without bringing anything up and see how effective it is.

Here is an example that will tie a bunch of stuff in together, hopefully it reads well (much easier to show than write about),

You’re in close on them at an angle with your hand on the back of their elbow. You pull them in.
“So one of the things I noticed about you, is that you can be a really shy person when your friends aren’t around”
Turn slightly towards them while holding eye contact, build a smile as you deliver the next line, and pull her in more with your arm.
“Like I bet you are totally one of those girls that is timid about trying new things, but when you do you take it and run with it.”
Rock back not by moving away but by turning out and pushing her away. Then immediately pull her back and say,
“I am not sure what I can relate with more, but I always know when I jump good things can happen”
Lean back and let go of touching her and qualify.
“so what is something that you feel is the most spontaneous thing you have done?”
Don’t wait for her to answer, and take a step in pulling her in at the waist at the same time too saying in a joking manner,
“You don’t even need to answer that, I can see your wheels turning, I wouldn’t even want to be around you if all the lights went out in this place, cause I don’t know if I would be ready for it.”
You take a step back pushing her away lightly, then take a different angle and jump threads to something else.

But there you see how the compliance is built for touching and spatial relevance mixed in with qualification and framing all takes place. Try it and see what results you get.

And let me know how it goes!
eltopoPUA@gmail.com

Seduction Overrides All

2008-10-11T12:16:00.000-07:00

So in the past few days, people have been searching for the ancient KFP post.
I have always said I would rewrite it, but my ideas on seduction have evolved since I posted that over a year ago. So I will leave you with this post which will at least get you talking about sex, and seeing an escalation to it.

In fact it couldn’t come at a better time. I have been hanging out with a bunch of PUAs all over from Atlanta to Dallas, to Austin, to San Diego, to Orange County, to LA, and now in Las Vegas, and the main difference in them all is whether or not they are comfortable with sex or not. The ones who are comfortable get 20min to 2 hour closes and the ones that aren’t don’t close nearly as much and quickly.

Aside for the amount and time that it takes for someone to close, what I feel the real issue is, that lack of sexual confidence men come in with. As one of the first things that is brought up in the community is, men don’t know how to be men. Men are not comfortable talking about sex or how to go all out with it.

In fact I know a lot of the biggest names in the community and I have been out there with many of them, and from what I have seen on this last trip is the guys that know how to express sexuality and are comfortable with it out lay any PUA. The PUA can be a Guru or not, but if you know some skill and how to be sexual, that build more attraction than talking to someone about getting into a fight with 10 of your friends over your ex girlfriend who is a stripper.

What is even more weird, is when you see your students who you taught a year ago or even a month ago be able to pull off a 20min lays in a club, like I saw Algasim do 2 nights ago in Vegas.
In San Diego there is Kamouflage, one of Mehow’s Instructors who I taught, but has also surpassed many of my teaching with his own, pull every night and bring a harem of undeniably 10s to the club with him. Kamouflage does what I teach in super high stimulus clubs and it is very much how I teach, but he does it on a whole new level.
It is also weird when my buddy Brando who I taught last year is doing the same thing.
Then there is Jtime and Soco in Atlanta who were able to pull 4 strippers from a club to their house in the same night. This does not happen even with the best PUAs focused on Stripper Game.
On my 1-on-1 with Jtime back a few months ago he SNLed a stripper on his first fucking night out. And Soco has only been in the game for the past 2 months.

But what is totally alien to me, is to see how nonsexual the community can be. That is the first style of game I learned. CJ showed me a different style. On ewhere you skip a lot of attraction, and one where you skip a lot of comfort. What CJ always told me was, that he never wanted to get attention, he wanted to get the women he wanted in his life.

I mean there are so many people in the community who are great at opening up large and difficult sets, but they don’t know how to be sexual. And the overriding theme that I notice in the guys I have run into on the road that are as good or better than Gurus is they are comfortable with being sexual.

One thing Algasim told me the other night was that one of the big changes in his game was when I told him that it was alright to tell a girl, ‘I am going to have to split you in two if you keep talking to me like that’. He told me, he always had pretty perverted mind, but he just didn’t know how to bring it up.

So one of the things about game is that you need to be sexually comfortable. Today in our society the image that the US puts off is that we are a sexually open society, but in reality we are sexually repressed. People would rather not talk about it, but sell it. It is something we all recognize but can’t address with ourselves personally. For the most part Sex s motivated by shame in the norm of our society.
This is actually the fundamental theme of Captain Jack’s SNL model, you’re not making sex a shameful act, you are making it something that is normal and liberating.

So when it comes to the working those quick lays, the idea of ‘Seduction’ has got to come early. This is why I told Algasim to tease with sexuality.

So if step one is building a belief that sex is not something that is alien and perverse and something that is comfortable and normal that is the first step.
So the beginnings of Seduction need to start n your Attraction Game.
How do we do that?
Well what makes attraction?
Being Dismissive, Teasing, Dominance, Multi-threading, Takeaways, Value, etc.

So how do we make them sexualized? Well, what I teach in theREDstack is to do this, take all the elements of Attraction and use them to ground and frame. Now to be fair, all you can really write about is dialog rather than all the other characteristics like Body Language, Tonality and Touching. So in this we will mainly talk about what you say, dialog.

Here is an Example:

You are the middle child in your family. You have an older brother and a younger sister.
Here is what I would give them as a neg or tease to help ground them.

“Look, that shit doesn’t work on me, I mean my little sister used to do the same thing when she would get nervous…maybe if we were related I might fall for it, but come on”

So that actually has a little bit of room to ground from and you could do much more.
But let’s figure out how to also add some sexuality to it.

“Look, that shit doesn’t work on me, I mean my little sister used to do the same thing when she would get nervous…but you’re only nervous cause you know I might have to spank you for that, but you’re probably one of those girls who would actually like that, so forget it.”

Now I realize some of you might be thinking, ‘How the fuck do I say that?’ and anybody who has hung out with me knows I say much worse than that. But here is a bit of a ladder you are can use to have sexuality go from polite to totally over the top, so you can safely feel that you can dip your feet in the water a bit.

The thing to know about this is that although this is a ladder it does not go one after the other. You will have to fill in the blanks yourself. So get some basic attraction stuff, and some grounding/framing stuff and go to town!
Or you can just get theREDstack and get it all done for you…

-OMG, I can’t believe you said that, but you know what… I can tell, especially with that hairstyle, that you were always one of those girls that had a really cute look to you, but I bet that kept you out of trouble.

-Now I know you like you hand in the cookie jar, but sometimes getting caught is what you were always looking for.

-Like I can tell with you that you always liked to get into trouble, it was always fun, but once you got caught that is when you would feel bad about it.

-That is the shitty thing about society, is people think about and perceive women in different ways. Like my friend Denise always say that men like sex more than women, and I couldn’t disagree with him more. I think that women like sex as much as men if not more.

-You know if you keep looking at me like that, (I am going to have to make a woman out of you- I am going to have to start hitting on you- I am going to have to take you over in that corner and press you up against the wall and take you right there)

-Here give me your hand (slap it). See with a girl like you that sort of thing feels good. You’re totally one of those girls that like to have her hair pulled and ass slapped, I bet your favorite position is from behind.

(a side note, notice that most of these are cold reads, one day I hope that people actually take advantage of how you can sexually cold read a person. Again a post I need to thoroughly write.)

-I bet you would be a lesbian, especially with your luck with men, if you didn’t like dick so much.

-I mean what was you first impression of me? Right off the top of your head…what was something that you actually noticed right away?
That is the funny thing, cause you are totally one of those visual girls that likes to watch how someone moves and interacts rather than what they are saying…at least when you first meet them. Like I bet when you talk to a guy you can actually figure out if he is good in bed before he even opens his mouth.

-I mean I know guys are really visual and they might be looking a girl up and down or something, but girls are just as visual but they just don’t show it how they look at someone like a guys does. Like I bet with your dirty mind you probably have thought about how big my dick is while we have been sitting here talking.

-I bet that you have really high sex drive…like you have friends that might be more promiscuous but the main thing is that is you are allowed/open to feel comfortable with someone you totally let loose. I bet sometimes you get so turned on that it is embarrassing how wet you get.
-I bet you can’t make me cum…I will totally turn you inside and out. You are one of those girls that doesn’t cum too easily, but I bet I will make you squirt.

Hope this helps

Atlanta to Los Angeles

2008-09-23T21:59:00.000-07:00

So I just made it back from Atlanta and about to leave to Southern CA.

I will be working with DJ Fuji who in my mind is one of the Best Technical Instructors out there.
He works for Mehow's crew and I have witnessed him teach and game, and he pretty impressive.
He is also a good guy and is one of the only reasons why i am coming out a week early to CA.

In Los Angeles on Oct. 5th I will be giving theREDstack Seminar.
Here is the thing...
For anyone who has a Stack that is the center of so much controversy they are welcome to attend for FREE.

Email me and if you have a stack you want to come to the Seminar.
eltopoPUA@gmail.com

And if you want a stack built for you definitely Sign Up!
You will have a huge amount of material set for you to run that is personalized towards you.
I would love to have a Lair Talk or an open Public Talk where some of the other competing styles of customization as well as material that is outside of rehashed Attraction Material for those that doubt my skills and methods.
I would also love to have my former students as well as myself demo publicly and compare it to whoever else wanted to display their styles.

What I do works, and I love teaching. It will be a good time.

Last week I worked with the Atlanta Lair and I have nothing but good things to say about it.
I will post more about this tomorrow.

In CA I will be there for a while so anyone who wants to meet up hit me up.
I will also be doing a Talk out there that should be open to the Public so I would love to see you all out there.

In any case, hopefully I will do 2 Talks.

Blog Comments from Swagger!

2008-09-11T19:14:00.000-07:00

These are some comments I got on my last post...
Not sure where they are coming from but they are posted on the De Profundis Post.
I have also listed them below.

I wonder where this anger comes from, but since whoever 'Swagger' is, addressed them to me and my blog, I will use my blog to address this person.

COMMENT 1
ohh have u noticed Sinn took u off my favorites, sorry Sinn don't have ur back! why don't u go back to fucking ur fatties :))

COMMENT 2
That stack ur selling is going nowhere, especially with everyone going natural :)) and also incredibliy long posts don't make you look like Tyler especially with 0 content.

Swagger,
The stacks are selling quite well. I get anywhere from 6-10 a month. to me that is pretty impressive since I only have a blog.
In the 100 plus I have done I have had 2 refunds, in which both people are now happy with what I offer.
If you have a stack and don't like it, contact me and I will make it work for you, I always do.

Anyone who has worked with me knows that I teach game more natural than 'natural game' teachers. Everyone who works with me doesn't learn a method they have to conform to, but I take parts of their lives and turn it into something that works unbelievable efficient. There is no doubt I get results better than most people who teach.

You brought up Tyler and I will say this...
His blog is awesome and he is one of the few people who teaches this stuff that I really look up to on all levels.

As for Sinn he is one of my best friends, and will be. Not sure if I know you, or you know Sinn and I, but drama within the PUA industry is pretty lame. I would think we are supposed to be men, and man up instead of generating superficial gossip.
I am one of the most accessible and hands on teachers out there. I meet and speak with anyone who asks...yeah yeah yeah, I only have a blog, but I actually do tons of lair talks and work with people for free in the lairs all the time.
What people do pay for with me is more than worth it, cause I get massive results.

As for the fatties, again I am not sure what you're talking about, but I have been with women of all shapes and sizes in my journey through PUAness. I think that is is pretty undeniable that I have pulled off some pretty amazing stuff with beautiful women and with some not so beautiful. Every instructor I know has the same situation too, they have probably slept with amazing women and some not so amazing.

I think anyone who has had a lot of women in their life has been with some not so appealing women.
But I will say this, the women that are in my life now are the best women I have ever had in my life. They are awesome in so many ways. I have nothing but abundance of people in general who are amazing people. That is what I got into this for and that is what I got.
Now I teach just that.. pretty amazing life dude. I am more than thankful for it.

As for the content in my blog, there is a lot man. Sorry about this post, but since it is addressed to you, maybe you will appreciate the attention.
I haven't read every PUA blog out there, but man, mine has a lot of applicable information on it.
I even think that writing about my last experience where I was in Austin saying good-bye to a close friend has content in it...if anything it helped me to write it.

Not sure who you are but I hope you get over whatever anger you have got going man. I truly wish you the best and hopefully one day we can help each other. That is what the community is about, right?
Send me an email or give me a call if you need to.

eltopoPUA@gmail.com

Also you can come see me at the upcoming lair talks I will be doing, and we can talk there.

Regardless I wish you well, and I am not one to judge or hold grudges, so hit me up anytime.

De Profundis

2008-09-10T20:00:00.000-07:00

On early Monday morning I arrived back from Europe.
It was an amazing trip that I have a lot to mention.
It was so impactive partially because of the people I met up with from the community.

My travel partner knows about me being in the community and was surprised as how it appears online and how it is different when you actually meet and talk to the people that are involved in it.

To say the least Monday (the day I returned to the States) was a day of crazy shit. There was a ton of stuff that I needed to get caught up on. It was a high stressed day, but I seemed to handle it well. It was one of those days where one thing happened after the other.
The issues seemed endless.

Tuesday was a continuation of Monday and I think that I finally lost my cool when I found out that my identity had been stolen and a lot of damage was done.
After about 30mins I became calm and just seemed to get over it to say the least.
It was almost like Marcello Mastroian in 8 ½ when he gets out of the meeting with producers and dances down the hallway. The bullshit just shed from me.

At around 8:30pm I got a random call from someone I didn’t know and I picked it up.
He told me that he got my number from one my good friend’s phone and that my friend was in the hospital in a coma and was expected to pass away within the next 2 days.
The guy on the other end told me that my friend was in Austin. I told him I was 3 ½ hours away and I would drive down that night.

It is one of those drives where you think a lot.
I was already in an introspective mood considering the travel and dealing with the issues that reality sets in front of you.
The thing is that for the past few months I have been doing quite a bit of change. The more you are involved with the community and the longer you stay in it, the more you will have to change or you sink deep into a huge misery.
Once you meet the prominent people in the community that have been in it for a while it is sadly rare that you see someone who has what you may want.

So on the drive it made me really rant in my own head a lot of changes that face me and ones that I have already made.
My friend in the hospital I have know for a huge part of my life, and is one of my best friends. We both met many years ago in Ca, and somehow both made it to Tx separately.
He is by far one of the most intelligent and interesting people I know. No one I know really comes close.
One things about him is that he was always that guy that was into more of those nerdy things and I was always involved in the arts or something odd or extreme. He actually has always been into the odd and extreme but in a different way.

The thing was that he always was proud to have me as a friend and I have always been proud to have him as a friend.
He was always critical of me in how many of the things in my life I didn’t take to my advantage. I have had so many opportunities yet so little of them I have taken advantage of.
Oddly enough being an instructor in the community fulfills many of these ignored opportunities.
In fact the stuff I have been working on, and the people that I have surrounded myself with are the main reasons for my new perspectives and serenity within all this shit crashing down.

In essence I have been doing what they call ‘Inner Game’ stuff. But that is the thing that has been bugging me, and always had about the community.
People talk about Inner Game, people talk about ego and being in the ‘NOW’, and yet I don’t see it.
I agree that those things are great ideas, but I think people within the community’s interpretation of them has nothing ‘Zen’ or ‘Self-less’ about them.

One of the things that I think we should recognize about the community is that we have this amazing advantage of having a brotherhood and a fellowship of guys. We should be dedicated to growth as individuals and as a group, but we end up on selfish roads that lead to ego fueled battles of who can open, close, or do whatever trick the best.

The community is has for the most part been based on superficialities rather than anything that has to with internal manifestation. I agree that selling superficialities sells, there are many companies that make a great profit on making quick changes to yourself to gain attraction.
The thing is that all the Inner Game stuff I have seen all has to carry that same model of creating superficial solutions and exercises but nothing to gain permanence in one’s self.
Without building a lifestyle around what you are trying to build beliefs in, those beliefs will not sustain.

Next Mon. Sept 15th Jtime and I will be doing a Free Inner Game Workshop in Atlanta that will specifically address much of these ideas. They are different than what is normally talked about in the community, but they work. I also talked with Rebirth yesterday and told him I would be in Ca at the beginning of Oct and I wanted to do another Free Inner Game Workshop when I was there. Anyone who lives in LA, OC or SD that would like to help set this up please email me (eltopoPUA@gmail.com).

The thing is that with all the things coming around in my life, I am more and more convinced that if I am to stay teaching in the community I need to continue on my path of grassroots and lair talks and word of mouth.
I get the idea of streamlining your business and that 4 hour a workweek mentality, but to me my favorite part about teaching is working with people. The bigger the business the less personalized it becomes.

With the experiences that have come my way I realize that my main goal in all of this is to first and foremost help people. Yes I make money at it and will need to continue that; however, I still want to remain as accessible as possible. I want to continue working with lairs and offering minimum cost workshops to help those lairs gain value in how they work and help the people sustaining the lairs.

There are so many advantages that we as a community are passing up getting caught up in our egos and bullshit identities.
As I was driving down I thought to myself,
‘I can’t believe how many times I have not lived my life to its fullest because I am caught up in selfish emotions, and how grateful I am right now to be clear enough to not have them.’

Without bullshitting too much bout morality, I will say that I have always had a talent for working with people and I think many people do. The community is a place where we come to better ourselves at an odd, but understandable angle. So let’s take advantage of that, and build a community where we learn to grow and not just build something better, but let’s go beyond what we are doing and have done.

So I got to Austin and at 2:30 am said hello to my old friend. It was past visiting hours but the nurse was from Fort Worth and let me stay with him since I made the drive down. Wrote him a note and talked to him although he was in his coma. Asked about his condition with the staff.
The nurses told me that when he came in he was in so much pain that they were surprised at how much they had to sedate him in order for him to not be trashing around.
When I saw him, he was on a respirator and although it was inflating his lungs at a choppy pace, he looked placid.
It made me think about how, that pain from when he was admitted had passed and now he was off in some coma induced dream.
That is kind of like life though. There is a beauty to that pain we feel. There is a pain to hold on to it, there is a pain to act on it, but once it is let go of we are free. Then there is a poetics to that pain.

I have said goodbye to many of my friends in the past. It has never affected me too much because of my perspectives on death and considering that when I was 17 had a brief run in with death as well. This time it seemed to more.
I don’t understand life and I don’t understand death, nor do I want to. But they are terrific forces that the more we fight em’ the more we are humbled by them.

So with our earthly reality
I leave you with this fine quote I am trying keeps popping in my head!

Igor Stravinsky said in the Poetics of Music
‘To create good music you have to have an ego, but not be egotistical.’

An Inspirational Moment

2008-08-30T01:48:00.000-07:00

So this is my mantra for today.
Watch it and you will achieve confidence, or a laugh...

Other than that, I have been traveling and telling the people I meet and talk with what I do for a living.
Pretty much everyone says, that teaching pick up is in someway negative, but they are all curious and want to know more.
So I tell them about it.
Then they say it is not so bad. Even the women.

So an interesting point came up...
I was trying out some new openers.
My favorite which I make work all too often is some variation of this...

"Hey Guys, I was just in the bathroom and this guy was standing behind me at the urinal and told me this freaky thing, I am not sure if it was a joke or he was serious.
He said, 'What's all tied up and doesn't want to have sex with me... the 4 year old in my trunk' then he started laughing and I ran out of the bathroom." I usually touch them and say, "I didn't even wash my hands".

Or I will go with my new favorite direct opener,
"I think of you when I masturbate"

And you guys probably think I am joking, I am not!

But as I was saying, an observation was made when demoing my skills for one of my new found friends (a female).
Afterwards she told me, 'that is stupid, if you wanted a real challenge why don't you just go up and try and have a normal conversation with someone rather than try and pull off some crazy way of creeping them out? Like just be really real and honest with them right off the bat'

My response was, 'you're right'.

I think 'game' is a lot simpler than we end up making it.
I have always pushed the envelope and maybe that is a part of my personality, but the end goal is to be yourself in the best possible way, not some freak that doesn't know how to be YOU.
We use routines and structure to internalize an attractive way to communicate, not to become something we are not.

That being said, I still like shocking people... just the main lesson from all of this is, if you want to use these skills to get the women you want in your life, you don't need to be some odd ball in order for them to give you interest. You just need to learn to be yourself in all the RIGHT ways.

Sadly (or maybe not so sadly) I have plenty of ill-humor and shocking behavior I get a kick out of.

Till next time...

eltopoPUA@gmail.com

Lair Talks, theREDstack and Greeting from Munich

2008-08-28T08:02:00.000-07:00

I have a few workshops and Lair Talks coming up that I wanted to invite you all to...
if you’re in the area of course.
Atlanta and Los Angeles

One of the things that has been bugging me for the past few weeks and one of the things that has been keeping me from posting in the past few weeks is that I want my teaching to be coming from the right place.

I am not sure what the perception is of the Gurus in the Community is, but from what my friend Dante in Austin told me it struck a chord. He told me

‘Why would I want to continue with this whole PUA thing when I have met all the top people and they are all unhappy’

Sadly that is the truth from my experience too.
If you stay in the community you are forced to change in many ways. At first you change obvious thing about yourself. Many of them superficial.
But later you need to change things about yourself or else you morph into this bazaaro monster PUA that live a life of fantasy and distortion.
Last year at this time, I was very much caught up in the new found skills of racking up lays left and right. It was like I couldn’t get enough of them.

This year is has had much more to do with internal changes to have and use these skills to teach and enlighten people through their own lives and mine.

We all enter this community via desperation, but what shoudl maintain us here shoudl be Inspiration and growth.
I have always been a person that thrived off of working with people.
That is why I love teaching and that is what always seems to be the answer when there are almost too many options in front of me.
If I wasn't so damn good at working with people and gratifying I would have been out of this community long long ago.
One thing I have always said when I started teaching this stuff, is that the end goal is that you guys can come back and teach me something. The community needs to be a community.
The politics of the community is something I know all too well. The last thing that the PUA community needs is more of that bullshit on the political end.
Fortunately part of all this has come true for me.
In the past few months I have gone through major changes and those all came to me through my former students. It hasn't been just one or two but a collaboration of them.
This is a fellowship and I am thankful for having it in front of me. And quite frankly I am sick of Gurus being such asshole, there is no point to it and it has done nothing but divide things more than anything, leaving people who want to learn with empty hands adn a whole lot of shit talking.

I have some of the best friends across the world. My current trip though Europe is showing me how many people I know, mainly form outside the community, around the world that I am close with.
I will say this though, I have met some of the most trusted people I have ever met, some of the most genuine, some of my best friends all through the PUA community.
I am thankful for it all.
I have always wanted to give back, and that is why I love doing what I do...
So on to the lair talks...

So for September I will be in Atlanta for 2 weekends.
I will be teaching both weekends
I am doing a Lair Talk on Mon Sept 15th with Jtime in Atlanta. Jtime has been someone who I sync up on many levels, but his experience in counseling is where I look up to him completely. I too have a background with that, and he is the first person in the community who I agree with Inner Game stuff on.
So on Sept 15th in Atlanta we are having a FREE INNER GAME WORKSHOP.

This will not be a bunch of Bullshit about visualizing and affirming, it will be a true workshop where we give you tools to achieve long term Confidence and Assertion towards self and inner peace.

Then on September 18th, Thurs, I will be doing theREDstack Seminar in Atlanta. Anyone who has every bought a Stack from me or been to an different Stack seminar can attend for FREE, however, I will only customize stacks for those who are attending for the first time!

Through Oct. 31st, 2008 I am allowing anyone who has gotten a Stack from me or attended a Stack workshop to come for FREE. You must email me in advanced to let me know how big of a room I need to get. eltopoPUA@gmail.com

Then on Oct 5th, 2008 I will be doing theREDstack Seminar in Los Angeles.
There are a lot of guys who have stacks in LA, some which have stacks from other people that surprisingly identical to mine….
Those who have stacks form me, can attend for FREE as well.
I am planning to do a Lair talk that weekend for LA and OC as well!

There is a whole bunch of new stuff to the stacks and the New Version is out there and much more structured and complex. It is totally thorough as well. So much that I want anyone who has an old stack to do a consult with me and have the updates emailed out to them. Gotta wait till I get back from Europe for that though.

The thing with theREDstack is that it is very complex but the results it gets are really unmatched. But mainly the key to the stack is that is comes from you. There is nothing which comes close to the results and customization it bring.

You don’t have to be full of shit about who you are to get fast attraction and to get fast seduction.
And although many have tried to copy my stacks, that is pretty hard, and even super Gurus haven’t been able to figure out how to repeat what I do writing wise.
So if you are interested in a stack or attending one of the seminars, email myself
eltopoPUA@gmail.com
or Fidelio
FideliothePUA@gmail.com
It will be worth your while!

And as always,
Email me anytime…. eltopoPUA@gmail.com
Right now I am in Munich and hope to see the Hawk soon!

Traveling and Insights on Insights...

2008-08-27T02:58:00.000-07:00

The past couple days have been really Amazing.
It is always a good thing when you are wandering around.
Your mind opens up on a whole new level.
Plus I hate just traveling to teach, there is absolutely no real absorbing of the city. It is hard to relax and have the city come in and reach inside your brain...
Sometimes teaching a jam packed schedule gets overwhelming, and the city passes you by.

And I will say that, traveling and meeting other PUAs on the way can be hard to make times sync, but it still gives you the experience where you can feel free. One thing important in life is maintaining freedom.
I have always fought for this.
Something that the community does not push enough is the key of freedom.
Not by nature, but how the community is set up is to forego your freedoms of self and has them conform to a different identity.
The best advice I have ever gotten about finding the right people in your life was when I was young, and now I give it today.

“Do what you want and love in your life, and the right people will be in it.”

The key is that you live your life with meaning, you should live your life with Purpose, Passion and Pride, hence the whole Lifestyle thing.
You do that and those alone are more than any ‘Attraction Switch’ you would need.

I think the recipe for getting the lifestyle that you want and attracting the women you want in your life is this…

-Do what you Love consistently.
Even if it for just 5mins a day, do it everyday, eventually have that happen more and more. Purpose and Passions are defined by you not what society thinks. So live them, without worrying about how it affects your PUA identity. (this I could go into more detail, later Purpose and Passion are a pretty huge topic, and can sound vague although we all have them)

-Learn to Properly Ground yourself.
Instead of thinking of them as DHVs or ways to gain Value, think of reworking all of your life’s experiences even if you see them as DLVs they can all be turned into stories that can make you look attractive. Your grounding story is the story of your life, so there is a lot to talk about. When you learn to do that instead of having a shit ton of routines that only generate attraction with no attachment to you, you can build attraction while tying it to you. This is key.

-Learn to Frame.
Framing it the ultimate Game tool. You hear it all the time, but if you tie this into your Grounding then you can accomplish a lot of ground. What framing is, is building an Identity for yourself and the other person, while also defining the relationship. Have that lead by your Purpose, Passions and Identity and you can really have impact with it.

-Implement your Pride.
Igor Stravinsky (Composer, sometime conductor, sometimes crazed artist, and probably some other things that I am leaving out) says in the Poetics of Music, that in order to create you can’t be egotistical, but you have to have an ego.
This is really an aspect of Dominance. If you are dominant and know how to handle logistics you can work ‘game’ on all levels.
So if you have Pride in what you do, in how you express yourself, how you open, how you ground yourself, how you interact in its entirety that will override any story that has ‘attraction switches’ in it. The problem with those stories is they gain attention alone. Attention is good, but you also need to have there be something grounding it to you. In all the people I have worked with, people naturally have attraction built into their lives, and they don’t’ know it.

If you have those things coming first in your game, then all the other stuff will follow. Routines and structure are important for consistency, but hey are only training wheels for us to be ourselves in the BEST possible way.

In all of what I do, theREDstack, my Boot Camps, my 1-on-1s, theMentor Program, whatever it is, I am developing these things in you.
That is why I have always gotten results, that is why I end up having my students teaching me more than I teach them, that is why I love teaching and that is why I am on the road right now, seeing Europe and seeing anyone who wants to meet up.

Today, hopefully the Amsterdam crowd comes out, and then we are off to France and Germany.

When I get back to the States I will be giving a free lair talk and workshop in Atlanta with Jtime.
It will be an intensive workshop towards Inner Game, and it will be something that anyone interested in true Change in their life should attend. Plus it is for FREE.
It will be on Sept 15th in Atlanta.

Plus I will make a more specific announcement for this and the lair talk, but anyone who has a gotten a stack from me, I want to have a phone consult with (even if it was from last year) and there are updates to it that I am going to post online and would like to personally email you.
The consults and the stack bonuses will be good through Oct 31st, 2008.

Talk to you all soon.

Tomorrow the Reading Fest

2008-08-23T12:47:00.000-07:00

So there are a lot of guys who I want to meet in England,
If you have a stack from me and are in Europe I would want to meet up.

Also my friend G who I am playing with is in a band that was playing here with Wilhelm Scream.
I figured that would piss off Cowboy in Florida.

In any case, if you are in London in the next 2 days hit me up
eltopoPUA@gmail.com

I am recording a bunch of audio while I am here that I will be posting on my blog.
There is always more to say, but for now I am going out somewhere in London...
still not sure just following the lead of the guys.

Tomorrow we are backstage at the Reading Fest, but I wish I was playing it...
I have been out of the scene for a while, but I am pretty amazed at the contacts I still have in the music scene. I wish the PUA scene actually had that sort of fellowship to it...maybe one day.

Touring Europe

2008-08-22T08:41:00.000-07:00

So I have been out of the loop for the past month.
There are a lot of things I want to write about, but hopefully I still have an audience to write to!

I will be in Europe from today till Sept 7th playing music
We will be in Germany, France, Norway, Netherlands, Belgium and England and probably some more places...
If anyone wants to meet up, I am down for it.

Shoot me an email eltopoPUA@gmail.com
and I will do my best to sync up a time to hang.
I will be on tour playing music so i will not be the cleanest person out there, but I never really am!

In any case, I am off and will be posting from the road when I get there.
Should be good!

Thanks

ET

Wandering around in Orlando

2008-07-28T03:26:00.000-07:00

So I should mention the Under 21 Convention, and I will...
I will tell you this though,
after walking away from lunch with Negatron and Fidelio, the Velvet Yoda pointed out an M.IA. song in the playing in the background.
Then i get an email from Double L up in Chicago about the same song.

I am up late and feel inspired to post it... don't know why, but here it is, and it sums up how I feel about this whole weekend... floating off into my own world while women are rapping and gun shots are going off. And I guess a little bit like The Velvet Underground and Nico according to Double L.

Fuck Yeah...

theMentor Program

2008-07-23T21:52:00.000-07:00

Hey guys, its Priest!

For those of you who don’t know me, I run The Sanctuary. It’s a politically free forum & Lounge with some of the best instructors in the industry answering YOUR questions. Come check us out at www.puasanctuary.com/forum

Both El Topo and I come from similar backgrounds. He took his Bootcamp on a credit card and I took out a loan to take mine. We both remember how hard it was for us starting out. Consequently, providing clients with quality products at an affordable price, is something that we never get tired of talking about when we are together! That said, there is something that has been in the works for a while now. We wanted to offer something different! The problem is that students are offered very little in terms of variety… most seduction companies offer Bootcamps, phone consults, or ebooks… that’s it! And there is little to no follow up in any of it!

We wanted to offer you guys a program that was Quality, Customized, Affordable, and provided you guys with the type of follow up that other programs were missing!

Introducing, THE MENTOR PROGRAM.

It started out as a way for guys to have steady phone consults in a structured manner… but we’ve made some changes to that. We wanted bring consistency to our clients but still offer customization to each individual. The end result is a product that is more like a structured Bootcamp that you can take over the phone. But how do you make a customized product at an affordable price?

Here’s how the program works…

- Once a week, you will get a 45 minute phone consult with either El Topo, myself, or everybody’s favorite – Fidelio.
- Throughout the week, you have a program with exercises that are tailored TO YOU!
- In between your weekly phone consults, you will remain in constant email contact with the instructor of your choice.

This program can be tailored to any student, regardless of your current skill or where you want to be with women. Whether you are a beginner, intermediate, or advanced… whether you want to have Same Night Lays, One Night Stands, Fuck Buddies, or Long Term Relationships… THE MENTOR PROGRAM is the most affordable, and the most effective way to do that outside of personal 1-on-1 training.

So how much is it?

As a promotional offer, THE MENTOR PROGRAM will start at $400 for the month of August. But as of September we will increase the price.

So for $400, you get the closest thing to a Personalized Bootcamp over the phone.
Just think 4 phone consults a week, and a solid assignment plan to get you where you want to be with women. Plus it is 1-on-1 and Private.

This is truly an incredible offer guys so make sure you sign up now! Remember, as of September the price goes up.

This is the cheapest, most effective program you can find outside of face to face instruction so take advantage of it!

-Priest-

PS- For a free 15 min Phone consult to see where you are at and to hear a sampling of how we might go about working your Mentor Program give Fidelio an email, and he’ll get you scheduled in.

FideliothePUA@gmail.com

The Califonia Pimp and El Topo in Las Vegas

2008-07-17T11:58:00.000-07:00

Hey guys,

This is something that the California Pimp (the man behind netvideogirls.com) has been working on for a while.
He has been putting together some programs with my help in laying it all out.
I know it is short notice but tomorrow Fri, July 18th we will be doing a 2 hour seminar on some of the Methods he has been using over the years.

The Seminar is $50 followed by a Meet and Greet Dinner. Should be a good time.
To find out the info on it please contact 702-210-2816 to confirm your reservation and receive specific information regarding the seminar.

Hope to see you guys there.

Thanks

ET

The Under 21 Convention- Orlando, Fl

2008-07-10T10:54:00.000-07:00

July 24-26
And Additional Programs

Hey guys,

As you may or may not know, my friends Entropy, Doc and I will be at the “Under 21 Convention” in Orlando later this month. This is looking to be one hell of a convention with three days of key-note speakers such as Sinn, AFC Adam and Mehow among others. El Topo will be speaking the last day (Sat July 26th) and Doc and Entropy will be helping out with his presentation as well. For the younger guys who feel a bit left out because they can’t run bar and club game, this is THE place to be to learn about all of your available options and all of the unique ways you can develop your skill-set. Whether it be dominating during day game, or building a large social circle you’ll be getting the best and newest advice on the market straight from the gurus themselves.

So we wanted to take this opportunity to meet up with some guys down there and do some teaching. Entropy, Doc and I got together and brainstormed. This is what we came up with:

Day Game with Doc Holliday, Sunday July 27th
Limited to Eight
Infield!

Doc Holliday will be the primary instructor for this seminar. If you don’t know, Doc is only 20, but his insane results have become the source of legend throughout the community. His expertise in day game is backed up from thousands of sets, dozens of lays and almost a year of teaching day game seminars in the Northeast.

Students will meet up Sunday afternoon where Doc will break down the basics of day game and give everyone a small stack so that they’re instantly ready to hit the field. We’ll do an hour of exercises and drills with personalized critiques from individual instructors and then we’ll head out to open sets. Expect at least three hours of day game at the most populated places in town with the highest value women. Instructors will personally watch you in set and break down your strengths and weaknesses, giving you ways to improve on the spot.

Day game seminars are hard to find these days, and when you do, they usually start at $1,500, if not more. Since this is a one-day program and we know most guys at the convention will be younger, we’re only going to charge $500. This gets you the seminar, a small day game stack from Doc himself, personal critiques and drills with instructors and finally three hours being pushed in-field. This is probably the only time we’ll run this seminar and you’ll probably never find a professional seminar this cheap ANYWHERE else.

theREDstack Seminar
limited to Six

For anyone who wants to know the secrets in how to build your life story into an unstoppable tool of Seduction, this seminar is for you! You can walk into set without even having to worry about what to say next, knowing that with everything you are talking about is building Attraction that NOBODY can deny. What theREDstack does, is it shows you how to be yourself, not using routines that are made up from some untold PUA, but actually be YOU while drawing someone in with the most mind blowing technique.

Give Me the story of your life and I will turn it into 45mins of SOLID GOLD material. You will never have to worry again about what to say.

This seminar will not only give you enough information for you to build your own stories, but also you will walk out of the seminar with over 45mins of customized material that is 100% yours.

theREDstack Seminar is only $750 for having this valuable knowledge, and will be held on Sun July 27th at 5pm admission is limited to 6 Student.

Social Circles and College Game Seminar,
Entropy and El Topo, Monday July 28th
Unlimited

Being under 21 demands a slightly different skill-set than classic PUA theory dictates and Entropy and El Topo will each be giving two hour seminars directly catering to younger guys.

Entropy cut his teeth perfecting college game. Being a college game and social circle natural before ever finding the community, Entropy comes from the unique perspective of breaking down what he was already doing for years. His senior year involved crazy escapades such as laying THREE GIRLS in one NIGHT and sleeping with graduate TA’s as an undergrad. Entropy practically BEGGED to stay in college by the time he graduated.

Get your notes ready, as Entropy breaks down how to “become the Van Wilder” of your campus. He teaches you how to network through house parties, organize your own parties and create a social circle so wide that you won’t even remember many of the people who say “hello” to you on campus. Find out what the secret currency of any college social scene. Learn the in’s and out’s of the Greek scene. And finally, learn how to leverage these social networks to sleep with multiple girls who are all friends with you AND each other.

Afterwards, El Topo will give a breakdown of how to build an Attraction Stacks geared towards day game. El Topo will focus primarily on the section most relevant for young guys: attraction stacking. Don’t know what to say after you open? Conversations going flat with the same boring interview questions? Topo will create small attraction stacks for everyone in attendance and then explain how and why they work. An Attraction Stack is usually about 5-10 mins of material that will get you from opening to number closing. All material will be based off your REAL personality and REAL life experiences.

These stacks are a unique, one-time, special value as they represent a huge chunk of his famous REDstacks. Topo’s routine stacks have been so effective and in such demand that he had to stop selling them for two months simply because he had TOO MANY CUSTOMERS. Don’t pass up on this chance to get in on what everyone else has been buying like there’s no tomorrow: personalized routine stacks, the real you, real attraction. Never run out of things to say again.

The two seminars by Entropy and El Topo by themselves will be going for $400. Since both these guys usually run up close to four figures to give seminars, this is a STEAL. We understand that most of you guys coming are younger guys and don’t have $900 to throw around to take all the things we are offering. So if you sign up for BOTH Sunday’s Day Game Seminar AND Monday’s seminar, it’s only $750. That’s right, $750 for an entire day of a bootcamp PLUS an entire afternoon of BRAND NEW, exclusive material.

You can sign up for any of these by simple clicking the links on this page or the links listed on the Right Side Bar of this page Under Orlando Programs.

For more information:

Doc Holliday’s Blog

Entropy’s Blog

Lessons of Life, Radio Clash, Wonderboy and Henry Miller

2008-07-05T02:42:00.000-07:00

So there is a lot that is going through my head.
A lot in the past few weeks actually.
I want to write about so much of it.

I have two workshops coming up that will be in Dallas next week and Austin next month, they are Cheap and limited to 4 Student to offer a more personalized experience for those who can't afford something like a 1 on 1. Take me up on the offer, it will be an awesome experience.
For Dallas next week Click Here and for Austin in August Click Here.

There is a Workshop I am doing in Vegas this month with the California Pimp, go to mnvg.com or here to find out about it. Basically it is easy, it is a $50 talk where Him, Big Z and a few other PUAs, including myself will be talking about different models of Pick up, and lifestyle.

Also there is the Under 21 Convention in Orlando later this month. I will be posting about more of these later. But if you can make it to either they are both very affordable and they are both things that will be new information, not just from me, but from so many people.

Also Sinn has an Awesome product coming out and I am sad to not have seen Moxie off. He is an Awesome guy and one of the better PUAs I have met.

But really what I have been wanting to write about Radio Clash and Wonderboy.
In the past 3 weeks actually I have had numerous events that have opened my mind to so much more in terms of life perspectives.
the first has to do with Radio Clash.

Radio Clash has was on tour and I got to see his band play a few weekends ago.
He is someone that I had met and done some work shopping with a while back in AZ.
I went to his show and saw his band, which was awesome.
I used to play in a similar scene as him and it really brought back memories...
But the thing was that, within a minute or so of meeting with him I realized at how he was so centered in himself. It almost made me feel uncomfortable with how comfortable he was.
But that is the thing here.
He is living his lifestyle. That is the ultimate goal of not just game, but life.
I see so many PUAs, and Golden PUAs and very few would I actually want something from them.
Radio Clash, being a former student of mine, was the teacher for me in the past few weeks.

I have a great lifestyle, but I would be a fool not to know when to grow. that is what this thing is all about. We enter in it with getting good with women and a skill set to guide us, but very few achieve working that towards a lifestyle.
The ultimate goal is to have your Lifestyle eventually game for you not, a series of routines.

I am actually not doing the interaction justice in this post, but hopefully I will write more about it later.

The next was in North Carolina. That was a Great Lair. My 2 favorite Lairs I have encounters have been the two smallest. The VAC Lair in NC and the Indiana Lair in Indianapolis. But what makes them good is the complete dedication of every member. Babyface and Tech were my two contacts there in NC, and we had a terrific time!
Both night were awesome and I would mention all the other PUAs but I don't have their handles on me now. And actually there is a lot to write about. We had a blast together!

But way back when in Nashville I met Wonderboy. It was near Halloween time and at that talk I met a lot of Great people in Nashville. I know Johnny AMOG and Shine, but I also met Bishop and Wonderboy their too who have been very good friends along the way.
Wonderboy and I hung out a lot in the two days I was in Nashville in Oct.
He was just visiting and happened to come to my talk, but he lived in NC.
So when I was in NC I hit him up. He came down on Sat. night.
I was completely taken a back by him.
The guy again, was so centered around the wealth of his lifestyle, you couldn't help but see it.

I pretty much talked to him the entire night with Gentleman J (who traveled up form Georgia), until I started gaming pretty hardcore. But once again, here was someone who had internalized everything having his life build his game among other things.

Since NC, I was in California and met up with Radio Clash and a few other Former Students.
I met up with Rebirth and Prebirth (Rebirth's Brother, don't knwo his PUA name) and also another former student who has no handle but also a great guy.
And ti was the same thing with those guys too. It is a good thing to see that a lot of the direction people are going in. It teaches me more than anything.

Also the other thing was that the women we were surrounded with all those times were women we all wanted to be around. Even the one in NC who was the definition of a club girl had her place in it all.

But that is what this thing is about. You hear all this stuff about Social Circle, and not to talk too much shit, but from what I see being taught it is pretty much ripping off AFC Adam's stuff, but no PUAs I know have much of one.
I am very happy to have the one I have, which literally spans across the US and even further. Wherever I go I have a wealth of friends. Women and men. Some Women I sleep with and others I am friends with. That is what I wanted going into this and that is what I have.

I always tell people I work with, to have your goals in mind and never forget them. You may need to step away from them to get your skill set up and running, but you can't lose sight of what you wanted in the first place.

So that being said, I hope to elaborate on this a bit more later, but for now here are some clips that you might enjoy.

I know MunichHawk will.

These are some clips from the ultimate PUA. But really he was an Artist that loved women.
He is in his early 80s here and I hope I have hot Japanese women around me then too. I first saw this about 10 years ago in a Film group. The people who ran the group were telling me that Henry Miller was a better story teller than writer, which is bullshit, but just seeing him talk should make you know that he has some interesting sides to him, and a lot to do with game(if you wanna call it that).

It is part of a Documentary about him, that for years I have looked for. Good to see someone put it on YouTube! Watch it all if you're into it... you may find it boring but to each his own!

theREDstack Part 2

2008-07-02T14:43:00.001-07:00

The other night I sent out a post on my Podcast list (sign up on the upper right hand corner of my blog. Sing up I will be putting out another promotion out there this weekend!).
(Also make sure you scroll down later to take a look at the Lesson I included in this!)
It was announcing that I am about starting to take orders again for theREDstack!
It has actually been unadvertised for the past 3 and a half months.
But here is the thing with it, Fidelio and I are not quite done to the changes we have made. theREDstack got Immediate results for students with that Product and we want to get even better Results with the New Version.

The new stacks are very heavy on Attraction, but using the new ideas of Attraction, It was utilized in the original stacks but now it is thoroughly explained, with more uses of it making it more prominent.

Since I started teaching theREDstack Seminar along with new developments in game some awesome evolutions have taken place. And I will give some examples of this later in the post.
But the main things was that in theREDstack Seminar I build everyone who attends a basic “Attraction Stack”. An Attraction Stack basically gets you from opening into Heavy Rapport, and it begins your Framing, which I think is the most effective part of game.

Now some of the New Ideas in Terms of Attraction don’t use the older models as Attraction being a series of Steps or Routines. How I view Attraction is that it is an Attitude that only opens a door to the use of framing, other emotional reactions, and things like Subpersonalities. Once myself and some of the other Dallas guys started using Attraction in this way, we got way more efficient and consistent results.

When I started writing stacks, I used attraction in this way, and some found it confusing…but those that were able to make use of it got insane results. I have written over 70 of these and within a week 23 people (that I know of ) got SNLs.. That is Insane!

People don’t get those results from taking a Boot Camp. And not everybody wanted their stack to be geared towards SNLs. Remember thery are Custom to your life and your goals in Game.

So here is what I talked about in the email,
I had said that in the past 3 Lair Talks I have done in June (Boston, Detroit, and Charlotte) I had multiple guys tell me they would do anything to do a Boot Camp of a Stack Seminar but they didn’t have the money.
And it sucks to turn down a guy who has ambition but can’t afford the price.

So I decided for July I was going to offer a Shortened Version of the updated REDstack for a discounted price. Normally it is $750 and about 30 pages long, usually carrying you 90mins Plus in set. I have committed that I will only take 10 orders and in the past 30 hours I have sold 5.
You can sign up for them HERE and I will get in contact with you about them once you have signed up!

Now in August My new stacks will be ready and the price will be back up at $750. Yes, those stack will be longer and more thorough, mainly because I need to be fair to my past and future clients.
But this will be a great opportunity for those who have a little less to invest get something that has IMMEDIATE results and at a more affordable price.

Here is an Example of what I got in the last week where I implement parts of my New Stack to a Story a client gave me to look over.

Again if you are interested in getting in on the before they are sold out, Click Here!
They will sell out in the next few days!

Q and A

El Topo,

Using what you gave me from the stack info online I took this story from an Art Show I was featured at.
Can you tell me if I am going in the right direction or not?
I believe that what I created here is what you go for in your stacks. It is a DHV I never knew how to say until I read your stuff, let me know if I am on the right track.

Thanks in advanced,

T-Bone PUA

Here it is-

"It's funny you say that because in my experience often the most important moments in your life aren't what you think they're going to be.
For instance, I wrote this have always been an artist, doing paintings, right?

I don't know if you've ever heard that White Stripes song "Little Room," but he talks about the excitement of sitting in your tiny room, and you're working on something that you just know is great, you know it's really going to blow people's hair back and how magnificent that feeling is. Well, I always felt that way when I would begin painting something in my little room and this time it turned into this big thing.
And the first showing of it was -- God, it was massive. It was in New York and basically the studio took over Tribeca with all the commotion and after party.
But the thing is... my family is really fragmented. My parents had a really angry divorce that -- well, truth is I think they were both the love of each other's lives and even though the couldn't stay married they probably they never really moved from that relationship. So my parents can't really be in the same room together. And my brother and dad hadn't talked for like 9 years at the point. Couldn't invite family friends without my family feeling burned. And I was dating around in LA but nothing serious -- no one I wanted to fly to New York with me and share this major moment.

So the night comes and I'm in this hotel room overlooking Central Park in this city that nearly ruined me just a few years before. And I put on this suit -- I was so stressed about what to wear I found this cranky old tailor who actually used to make suits for Frank Sinatra and have him make me one. So I put the suit on and, well, it's perfect. Perfect suit. Perfect hotel. Perfect, perfect, perfect... so why am I feeling so weird?

So I end up going to the Showing of my Painting with my two Managers and my lawyer. They're amazing people -- they would each kill for me and actually have, in their way. But I was like, who am I really sharing this with? You know, my dad, when I would get my report card -- and in elementary school they don't give you As and Cs but things like "demonstrates skill" or "needs improvement." So my dad had this ritual like where we'd read through the report card and he's just read them off like, "class participation... DEMONSTRATES SKILL!" and so on. And that would be our joke for years to come whenever I did something well. So I really missed him not being there to look over at me and say, "DEMONSTRATES SKILL!" during that night.

You know, when you create something from yourself, and other or guests people look at it, see it experience it, and then they look at YOU and don't see what's on the canvas -- it's weird, because it's YOU up there, but no one sees you. All that stuff you thought up in your little room, well, there it is! They see the colors and the flow and interpret it all but they don't see you in your little room, right? So I looked at the who was next to me... empty ... No real family, no real friends... And there I am in my perfect suit on this perfect night and I was like, "Can we just get this over with?"

It's funny, though, amidst all that there was this one thing that happened. You know there was a lot of international press there the other artists. And, you know, no one really knows what I looked like. But somehow this girl -- young, maybe 24, great energy, great style, from some German Radio station or something comes over and knows who I am and does this small interview with me. And we finish it up and then after she turns her recorder off we have this... moment. Like a look passes between us. And do you know -- I know that you do -- but you know how there are certain *looks* you share with someone that can carry the full charge and intensity of, say, a 6 month relationship? It was one of those. Like when you're both really seeing the other person. And it happened as we were kind of walking away from each other. So after the movie I'm looking around for her to... I don't know what for. I guess I really just needed some kind of connection that night. But I was never able to find her. Maybe she had to go file her story. Who knows. But I didn't know then what I know now -- that there are moments, just seconds, sometimes, where you have the opportunity to magnify something with someone. And if you don't take it, you will never have that again. I'm not saying you'll be lonely for ever, but those exact circumstances -- that person, that lighting, that situation, that willingness, that intensity -- will never present itself exactly the same way again. And if you walk away from it you are walking away from it for good. Period. Which is kind of heartbreaking. But also very cool. For instance... you and me, here, talking... "

Hey T-BonePUA,

Sorry for getting back to you so late, but here is what I get from this story.

I think that you get the story telling part of this all. It is actually a pretty good NLP style thread but we are missing some of the FRAMES and Cycling and Maintaining Attraction in the story.
Very good emotional flow, but nothing is pushing and pulling back on the listener, nor Defining them. So you need add some structural technique in it.

I hope this helps!

ET

Here are some frames you want to fit in your stories-
- Spontaneity
- Sexually Aggressive
- Being a Leader
- Takes Risks
- Non-Judgmental
There are more, but right now, you have a great story but no frames taking advantage of it all.

So pretty much all of the story can stay the same. You need 3 things to it.

-You need a beginning description of it(define the frame), which you have but you need to link it to them more.

-You need to use check ins and qualification to have them build more interest

-You need to define the ending a bit better (again you do this, but you can make all those emotions a bit more sexual). At the end the initial frame definition should have way more meaning by the story taking place, and the ending definition.

So let me give you a few examples of what I mean.
The story can start off by leading them with some sort of qualification, that will inspire a story in order to make that qualifier make more sense.

So you can ask or tell one of these

1-Let me ask you this, when did you last meet someone that changed your complete perspective on things?

2- I was wondering, you seem like someone who is close with their family?

3- When was the last time you let something slip through your fingers?
4- I can tell you are someone who has the best stuff happen to you when you go for what's in front of you.

Then based off of their reaction, you lead in to the story. You then need to say what the story is about. In this you need to define the frame you want before going into it. Then the story is just to give the frame emotional identity. Then afterwards you redefine that frame. So based on the qualifier you need to transition (you do this well, but I would do it this way).

for the first question you could say something like this after she answers.

'I mean that is one of the most important things for me, is when you meet someone you need to live for that moment. Actually it makes me think of this White Strips song....'

For the second one you could say...

'That is what I figured, I knew when I met you, you had that warm heart to that wild persona you have too. I mean I have always had kind of a refracted family. And it made me such an internal person. I mean it is almost like I still have my friends that are beautiful people and I consider them my family. But that is something that brings the best out of me, that side which can disappear into myself and that other side that loves to connect. And actually I think you are the same in a way. (she can acknowledge or not) You know that reminds me of this White Stripes song...'

For the third...

'See I have always been someone who has been spontaneous, but it can be a double edged sword.
Like with you there are two sides of you too. I bet your best moments are when you do step over the edge, and sometimes you slip but it can be worth it in the end.
There is this song by the White Stripes...'

For the fourth...

'For me I had to learn to actually be that way. I was not always someone who would go for stuff right off the bat. I think that is how I started writing... but that is how I can pick out people with that sort of crazy mentality to know when to jump, because I have to be around those people to get anywhere...hahahaha. But this is actually a funny story, you know that White Stripes song....'

So also you need some check-ins, to engage them more. This is a Juggler thing. And super effective. This is only one tool to Cycle the Attraction, but remember Attraction is just there to open the door for you, it is not really leading much, it is Baiting!

For instance, when you bring up the song 'little room', that is great but make it interactive.
So you could say something like, 'you know when you're a little kid and you have music that makes things, like what is one of those songs that brings you right back to childhood?'
After she answers then you can continue on.

The reason for this is because you need for them to emotionally interact in your experience as much as possible.

And the story is a bit long, but if you are in comfort with someone it shouldn't be a problem in terms of what logistics. You say you wouldn't talk to anyone at clubs about this, but do you only pick up in clubs? And you could say all this in a club, you would just have to keep maintaining attraction throughout it. We can talk about this over the phone.

But the meat of the story is good, but you just need it to have their emotions hook to the frames.
Now the frames at the end right now are that 'we are meeting now and we can't pass it up'. That is great but they could be so much more. Remember, if you start out with a frame then after they get lost in the story they can define the frame at the end of it.

So you can say something like...

'Like meeting you right now...but don't get any ideas, your wild side might be too much for me.'

'You know one of the things with you, is I don't meet people like this, even in a club. There is so much to a person that you get off when you first meet them. Like right now with you, I can tell so much about you, it is just when egos get in the way we see so many other things. I mean you have this totally cute side to you, but I bet that gets you out of more trouble than people give you credit for.'

'And so we my whole thing is when someone comes my way and I know they are someone I would like to meet, I go out of my way to make that happen. And with you there is so much more than what people know you for. I bet you intimidate most people, like I bet your last boyfriend you held back on him, right?'

Hope that Helps

ET
eltopoPUA@gmail.com

Phone Game!

2008-06-28T09:46:00.000-07:00

So this is what you don't want to do when you get a number.
Click Here

Right now I am in Charlotte, NC. I am truly impressed by it. It is really an awesome city.
Last night was a pretty amazing going out. The town has an awesome vibe.
The main thing that makes a city for me now is if there is some aspect of culture.
Charlotte has street musicians, and fatty food on every corner and a good mix of culture.
Sadly, most cities are missing that these days.

But this phone call is great, it is the absolute wrong way to leave a message.

theREDstack & New Podcast with Doc and Saffron

2008-06-24T20:54:00.000-07:00

Hey Guys,
Here is a pretty funny Podcast with the dudes from Practical Pick Up.
Doc Holiday and Saffron!

If you don't read their blogs you should. Entropy is in one with Sinn, and Entropy and I were way too drunk to record anything in Detroit, but there will be an NEXT TIME!

Go HERE for the Podcast!

Hopefully you guys like the face lift to my blog, Thanks to Doc Holiday. There will be more to come with a reviews page and some other links to LRs and More Popular Writings.

I wrote this article last week, let me know what you think...
Also there will be Text Game Part 3 and some more of the Comfort Stuff I wrote about a few week ago coming up!

To all in North Carolina... see you there in a few days!

ET

theREDstack
Building Routines from your Life

For the past 9 months I have developed a pretty popular product I in the community. I call it theREDstack. Whenever I go to lairs I give demonstrations of how to build them for yourself, which is kind of how this article came about. Now there is a lot to it, but one of the most impressive things that people comment to me on is how I turn mundane stories from people’s lives into something that can be used in game.

What theREDstack is basically you give me some information from your life, I will come up with a series of routines that will build you Attraction, Seduction in tandem, while making is all flow smoothly together. Usually about 90mins of material. You will hardly need any other routines after you have it.

Now mainly I write these articles because, although I took a Boot Camp, most of my game knowledge came from people showing me their ideas and adding a little creativity and application to it. The community taught me. Of course that was the community of Captain Jack, Sinn, Future, Shaft and Fidelio, but nonetheless I learned for free after my BC. So hopefully you can take away something from this and down the road show me a thing or two!

So if you like what you are reading please email me eltopoPUA@gmail.com and find more information like this on my Blog- http://the-red-mole.blogspot.com/

So let’s start with what makes a DHV Story (Demonstration of Higher Value).

What a DHV Story is based on are the Attraction Switches.
There are a ton of them, and they should probably be re named but let’s take some of the ones I like to implement while working with people.

-Understanding Women’s Emotions
-Identity
-Lifestyle
-Pre-selected by Women
-Being Dominant
-Wiling to Emote
-Protector of Loved Ones

These are just a few of the 15 or so of the Attraction Switches kicking around and I know those are different than the one’s normally mentioned but I really want to shed more light of things rather than say the same thing over and over again.

Now let’s see if we can take normal and average stuff from someone’s life and turn it into something that can work as a DHV.

How we will do this, is I will take common things from what people tell me, usually thinking they are DLVs (Demonstrations of Lower Value) and turn them into powerful stories.

Hopefully you will be able to come up with some of your own, after reading this.

-When I was growing up I had a very strong mother, that juggled cleaning the house, taking care of us kids but also taught us to cultivate our individual passions.
- My first real friend was a girl down the street, when I started school my new friends made fun of me for being friends with a girl and I never talked to her again.
-I work as a teacher in middle school.
- When I was young I remember how my dad, who only had me on the weekends, would work on cars. I would watch him, but it always made me sad that he would not actively show me. I think I actually annoyed him.
- I would walk my little sister to school everyday after she came home crying because some of the boys made fun of her.
- The first time I felt like I was grown up, was when my father and I got stuck on a fishing boat and I actually helped us get back to shore. He treated me differently after that and it was the first time I thought he was proud of me.
- I get insecure around women I am attracted to.
-My mom passed away when I was 18, and it is the single most experience that changed my life.
- My friend Ralph was separating from his wife and I helped them reconcile and they are still married to this day.

So those are typical things I hear during presentations and typical things that I get in people’s profiles when creating theREDstack for them. Here is a simple story that will Frames, Add Value and Lead the target in the right direction. And it will be based on the information above.

‘One of the things that I really love about meeting people is what you grab from people’s first impressions. For instance, when I was growing up I was pretty much raised by my mother, and so I have always had close friends that were women.

But one of the things that I can remember was that my first friend was a girl from down the street, and my dad left when I was 3 years old so my mother used to work quite a bit. So I would stay at one of the neighbor’s houses. They had a girl my age and pretty much from the age of 3 to 5 we were best friends.
It was such a different interaction in thinking back on it.
Mainly because the dynamic was different than how I ended up interacting with my guy friends, but we were so innocent too. There was nothing to fear because we had nothing to influence us.
And actually, when I started school things became totally screwed up. Right away, the guys in my kindergarten class made fun of me for being friends with a girl, and I never talked to her again. She tried to talk to me, but eventually gave up. And it will always be one of those things that I feel guilty about.

But, you know it is like the same thing now as it was then. The way men and women communicate in that same sort of way. Like things that happen between me and my girlfriends are always fun, but they are like a part of our own world. When you are with guys there is always social pressure that tries to influence you.
Like take sex for example, in how guys view it and how women view it. I always thought I was weird around my guy friends when I would bring this up but women always seemed to think this way. Women like to experience between people, and guys really only seem to care about getting off.

For me, I always hate bringing this up, but around really attractive people I can get intimidated. And to be honest you’re a really good looking woman, and I shouldn’t be afraid to say that, but those are the things that I think intimidate guys to act the way they do. I mean one thing I know from growing up with a sister and a mother around me all the time is women, like to be lead, but at the same time it has got to be done right.
Like what is something that you hated about the last guy you dated?

(she answers, doesn’t matter what she say you just continue on)

No, the thing about it is that guys don’t know how to be men anymore. Guys are pussies. Like I remember when I was 11 my sister, who is 2 years younger that me, got picked on by some guys on the way home from school. And I remember it made me so mad, that everyday for the rest of the year I walked with her hoping to see those guys. I never did see em, but that is what is missing from guys these days. They don’t get how to communicate with women. They don’t even realize that sometimes women want to be lead, and that being comfortable is more important than being pressured into anything. They don’t get that a simple action or bit of caring can change everything.

I bet you like to be totally wild, and you intimidate most guys who meet you, and when you date them, but if they allow you to be comfortable with them you can totally let loose, right?

So if you don’t mind me asking what do you do for work?

(she answers)

Wow, cool, I am a teacher.
You know that makes me think about how I came about doing what I do. I mean there are things that you do when you are a kid that kind of shape who and how you’re going to be right.
Like my dad would have me on the weekends and every chance I got I wanted to spend with him. I can remember sitting in the garage and watching him work on his car. That is pretty much all he did all the time.
I always wanted him to show me, but for the most part he was mostly annoyed by me being there. He wouldn’t let me mess up his tools so I would make up my own and sit there and teach myself how to fix cars.
I didn’t really know what I was doing but I would do it, just to imagine myself doing it.
And from that moment on I always knew I would be doing something where I would be helping people.

But like I said, it is part the job and part of how you grew up. Like because you work as a (X) you actually have a lot of the same things going on as me. Like my job has always made me really passionate and tenacious and with you because you work in (X) I can see the same things, but you actually do those things outside of your work. Like you are totally a girl that can step over the line, but like I said earlier, you just have to feel comfortable with someone first before you can let that wild side out.

It is actually a weird thing though, because there are 2 events in my life that really changed me. It is just like when you are a little kid and you could decide to go in one direction and the path you choose really defines a lot. Like I was saying with my first friend who was a girl. I will feel guilty about that anytime I think about it.

But there was this one time when I was with my father, and like I said I always wanted his attention and never felt like I got it. And when I was 16 we were fishing and we didn’t get back to shore before the sun went down. To make a long story short we both worked together to get back to shore. I could tell that it was one of the first times my dad was actually scared. And when we got back to shore I realized that, at that point he actually considered that I was grown up.
That moment changed my whole perspective and direction on things.
And then 2 years later my mother actually passed away.
It was one of those things that I will never forget. It changed me in so many ways, but one of the things it changed most about me was that, you need to live life in the moment and live it completely.
Sometimes you need to give your love to everyone, and other times you just need to have fun and not care about being careless.

Let me ask you something, you look like someone who could use a break, outside of all the bullshit. When was the last time you did something that truly defined you. Like I mean something totally crazy?

See that is the thing that is missing from peoples lives. I mean my best friend from childhood is my buddy Ralph. And him and his wife were having issues, and don’t get me wrong I would love to have my buddy around me at all times, drinking beer and watching sports, but he was screwing up a good thing. It was like they had all the relationship stuff down but no spontaneity. And that is something that all people want and need, especially women, but nobody will every really ask for.
And it was funny, but just that little bit, that little bit of surprise and romance where his wife needed to be swept of her feet and be taken to feel like a women, was all that was missing.

I mean I hate to bring this up, when I was just saying that your face kind of lit up… you’re sexually frustrated.'

To keep this short I don’t want to get into all the specific Frames happening here, but this is not just conversation. It is very structured, balancing emotion, Attraction and Introducing and defining Sexuality for them. When you think about it this is about 5-10 mins of material and in that short amount of time you can lead the conversation in a tactical direction.
And also you can have it from your life.

If you are interested in knowing about anymore of this stuff, hit me up. And hit me up about anything eltopoPUA@gmail.com
Or read more on my blog
my Blog- http://the-red-mole.blogspot.com/

Thanks

ET

Title

2008-06-19T17:11:00.000-07:00

So the past couple days have been busy.

I will get that comfort post up in the next few days.
I have actually been writing a shit load in the past few days.
My buddy the California Pimp has a few things that he is setting up that I have been helping him with at his http://mnvg.com/ which has a bit of a different take on pick up.

But really I wanted more to write about Shaft and Fidelio and the evolutions they are making in game.

I actually just got back from dinner with Shaft and every time I hangout with him, my mind is always totally cleared up. The guy is not only one of the smartest people I know, but has the best way of getting you to understand extremely complex things.
In fact that would be an understatement.

And Fidelio has been helping me for the past few months work on revisions to theREDstack. There are very few people that totally blow me away with their insights on things in terms of pick up but Fidelio is one of them.

In fact both Shaft and Fidelio helped me come up with a lot of the ideas for theREDstack, but it looks like within the next month I am going to have a completely updated way to write them.

Also I will be emailing everybody who already has one, so that they can get in on the updates.

For those of you who are unfamiliar with theREDstack, it is basically this,
You give me a short story of your life and I give you about an hour and a half of routines for you. They are all frame based and escalate smoothly into seduction. When I first started doing them out of the first 25 I did, 7 of those guys got SNLs within a week of getting their stack.

I stopped advertising for them in March to catch up on all of my orders and now I am completely caught up and have listened to a ton of feedback on them.

Right now I am in the process of redoing the structure of them with Fidelio. Shaft is as always super instrumental, but hopefully in the next month there will be some amazing changes to it.

But for now here is an excerpt from the article I wrote for Tripps PUA Forum

For the whole thing sign up with them and read the rest. But for now here is a sample.
And stay tuned because I will post the rest of it sometime next week!

So let’s start with what makes a DHV Story (Demonstration of Higher Value).

What a DHV Story is based on is the Attraction Switches.
There are a ton of them, and they should probably be re named but let’s take some of the ones I like to implement while working with people.

-Understanding Women’s Emotions
-Identity
-Lifestyle
-Pre-selected by Women
-Being Dominant
-Wiling to Emote
-Protector of Loved Ones

These are just a few of the 15 or so of the Attraction Switches kicking around and I know those are different than the one’s normally mentioned but I really want to shed more light of things rather than say the same thing over and over again.

Now let’s see if we can take normal and average stuff from someone’s life and turn it into something that can work as a DHV.

How we will do this, is I will take common things from what people tell me, usually thinking they are DLVs (Demonstrations of Lower Value) and turn them into powerful stories.

Hopefully you will be able to come up with some of your own, after reading this.

-When I was growing up I had a very strong mother, that juggled cleaning the house, taking care of us kids but also taught us to cultivate our individual passions.
- My first real friend was a girl down the street, when I started school my new friends made fun of me for being friends with a girl and I never talked to her again.
-I work as a teacher in middle school.
- When I was young I remember how my dad, who only had me on the weekends, would work on cars. I would watch him, but it always made me sad that he would not actively show me. I think I actually annoyed him.
- I would walk my little sister to school everyday after she came home crying because some of the boys made fun of her.
- The first time I felt like I was grown up, was when my father and I got stuck on a fishing boat and I actually helped us get back to shore. He treated me differently after that and it was the first time I thought he was proud of me.
- I get insecure around women I am attracted to.
-My mom passed away when I was 18, and it is the single most experience that changed my life.
- My friend Ralph was separating from his wife and I helped them reconcile and they are still married to this day.

So those are typical things I hear during presentations and typical things that I get in people’s profiles when creating theREDstack for them. Here is a simple story that will Frames, Add Value and Lead the target in the right direction. And it will be based on the information above. (the story will come later folks, but to read in now go here Tripps PUA Forum)

Horrible People

2008-06-15T03:25:00.000-07:00

Let me revise this!
This is more of a funny joke than anything.

Detroit was Great, and Great people! Post more in Detail later..but for now...

This is a good summary of Detroit via Entropy and myself.

El Topo's Smooth Transitions to Comfort

2008-06-13T01:11:00.000-07:00

So I am about to head up to Detroit for a Lair Talk and Workshop with Entropy from Boston.

Should be an awesome weekend, and should be a learning experience all around.
Doc, Saffron, Entropy and Myself are all going to trade One on One’s with each other.
And form now on anyone that I work with closely we will do the same thing.

In any case, there are also some new podcast coming out and some audio LRs (don’t let that fool you, it is more like us interviewing each other about certain LRs we have had).

But I wanted to write this mainly because my Gaming Towards a Life Style and My Text Message breakdown Posts have been popular.
This will shed some light on both of those topics as well as shed light on topics that are often ignored in the community.

So what made theREDstack such a popular product was that there is so little
information out there on comfort game.

When someone is new to the community or they take their first Boot Camp they will often say that they Have no Attraction Game, but once they are talking to a girl they are fine (assumed Comfort). But once they work on Attraction and get that down, Comfort then loses its familiarity.

Mainly because it has no structure.

But again let me know what you think,
eltopoPUA@gmail.com

If you are like MMAPUA and don’t want to read my ramblings on Theory then skip to the part listed as EXAMPLE way down at the bottom.

On Mon I will post the rest of this on the puasanctuary.com/forum and the Lounge too.
But in this post I will show you how to establish Frames that smoothly lead you into Comfort.

So when we get to the Comfort Game there was very little ever written on it or taught in general about it.

Initially it was broken down into 3 parts, C1, C2 and C3.
I think that these were a good way to simplify things but even the breakdown of Attraction in this same way neglects a lot of the interactions.
Things like A1, A2 and A3 are generally consistent in interactions, but there is a lot more to it and a lot less than what is normally sold.
Attraction Game sells and feels good at first, but it really has very little to do with getting to know someone let alone sleeping with them, and if you’re into the normal disturbing interactions I work towards it is useless.

So the person that helped me understand Comfort the best is the genius Captain Jack.
What he did was cut out DHVs and start to use Frames. Also what I saw him to and what Shaft does was layer a rhythm of emotions and frames.

CJ would actually use his dossal style of Attraction just enough to begin the Rhythm of his framing.

So before I breakdown some examples, let’s go over a few things.

1-Why Comfort is important?

Comfort is not babysitting or just gaining rapport. It is not just time bridging and changing locations. It is not telling heart melters or even emotionally moving someone. It is not just framing someone, or eliciting a subpersonality…it is all those things and more. It is how you place them all together.

It is getting someone into Rapport (on an equal level to you, no need to gain more dominance, but rather maintain it) and moving the interaction where you want it to go.
The reason why it is important is because you can have your most amount of influence here. You can actually define your relationship to your target here, and that is what this thing called game is really all about.

2- What is Layering emotions and Frames?

What I saw CJ do, then Shaft do and myself do, was simple take the same idea of multi threading but instead use Frames and different emotional eliciting stories to have the Frames gain more validity and momentum.

So CJ might give off some fun sexual frame, and then transition immediately into a story about his life that brought out emotion (aka a Heart Melter)

An example would be Strawberry Field into the Electric Bill story.
I will give more examples later.

3- What are Subpersonalities and Why are they important?

Subpersonalities are one way of saying that people have dynamics within themselves that are consistent. Like everybody has a part of them that can go totally out of control, everyone has a part of them that can be angry, everyone has a part to them that likes o be innocent and again, if you’re me, everyone has a side to them that likes to have their sexual creativity pushed to their limits.
Sometimes they are referred to as roles.
Now the reason why they’re important is because they help build compliance in a frame you’re trying to instill in someone.

What is mean is that if you are telling a girl that she is a girl that doesn’t judge you want her to believe it. So if you can bring that out with a part of her personality for her to immediately act upon then you have not only built a belief in her that, that side of her exists, but also you have gotten her to exercise that muscle of compliance towards that action, and if you’re really good you can then define that action as some other frame you’re going for.

Again, I will give an example of all this a bit later.

4- How do I manage Comfort?

This is something that people always ask me. Actually they ask me, what if you don’t get into comfort that quick. Well you can achieve rapport right away, but you can’t necessarily hold it. Every set it different but you will always need to do what we call CYCLE Attraction.

Attraction is your tool to open up window so that you can go further in Set.
So you can use it to transition in Comfort, you can use it to introduce a Frame, you can use it to work your logistics, you can use it to bust through LMR. It is the main tool in the Kung Fu Penis.

But in going for Rapport as quickly as possible and keeping it moving in the direction you want it to go, you have to manage it. So you have to use Attraction to make it move in the right direction.
So now think of Attraction like an Attitude rather than a series of steps.
Attraction is what you use to maintain comfort.

And again I will include examples of how to make this work below.

So before we get to the examples let’s go over briefly how loose Comfort was laid out before.
C1 was to Isolate. That is true but there wasn’t nearly as much of a structure to it than there was laid out for attraction, which is such a small interaction of game (considering a timeline, Comfort was always the most predominant area).

C2 was to Possibly Kiss and to set up the Time Bridge.
This is true too but you don’t need to Time Bridge all the time, and you can Kiss earlier too. I think Kissing in the Venue you meet them at while working quick game sets off more ASD than anything.

C3 was the Day 2. Day 2s are good for a while I was on a steak that I never did them, but sometimes you just got to. But again there was a lack of real structure to them.

And don’t get me started on the Seduction Part. There is even less information on that, and I am not even sure why… cause I thought that was the end goal in all of this.
I thought that this was all about getting laid and although I know the founders in all of this did get laid, it was just that none of this was ever broken down in a way that could work for most guys. But the Seduction Phase is definitely something that people like myself, Sinn, CJ, and pretty much everyone we work with can breakdown.

So in order to give this some structure, let’s say I am coaching a guy on Routines that is a Computer Programmer that is from a Family where he is the Only Child, and lives in Chicago, but is from a small town in Indiana and didn’t move to a big city until after college. The guy I am coaching has a hobby of Reading Self Help Books.
Now all the guys need to do is have some balls and is willing to open and gain dominance in the set. What to say, I can post about, but all the Body Language, Tonality, Expressions, and How you interact in set I can’t really write about…for now at least.

So here is the stack I would give him…

EXAMPLE
(I have broken it up into Parts so That is will be easier to Breakdown later)
From Opener

PART 1-

Hey guys, do you think that people kissing in a bar is something that totally normal or kind of weird?

(they answer)

Well, it is crazy because the other night I was with my friend Nancy and we saw these two totally getting down like in the hallway to the bathroom. I mean even the bouncers were afraid to break em up.
Like I was at the point where I was ready to hand em the keys to my car and the condom in my pocket.

But seriously when I was with my ex we would be intimate but we never wanted to show off, we would actually be somewhere out of someone’s view.

Transition with

So how do you guys know each other?

(they answer, doesn’t matter what they say)

Really?
That is interesting because I was just reading in this book about people’s reactions to questions and it was saying how at your first impression with someone that actually can tell you more about someone than what they tell you 5 mins after you meet them. I mean I was an only child so I have always been really good at getting what I want.
Like with you I can tell that you lead the group, and how you interact with people you’re the one that will actually pave the way for you friends.
And you, I don’t know, but you’re more of the person everybody has fun with, like the last time someone hit on one of your friends you are always the one that give me the most trouble.

And you, you are just plain trouble. I would even want to get started with you.
You would totally be like my little sister if I had one.

No but it was funny because one of the things I was reading about there was this guy who went around asking people questions and depending on how they reacted he was able to find out who he would get along with best.

So actually come here for a second (mini isolate the target)
So let me ask you this,
And just the first thing that comes to your head.

What is the Craziest thing you’ve done?
No come on no need to blush, just the first thing that comes to mind…

(make her answer, and make it fun, this is not to qualify in the traditional sense. It is to gain compliance and to cold read)

Ok so really, that is it with you? Now I can already tell you seem pretty cool, either that or you’re a total dork, but I can tell you’re someone that I am probably going to end up knowing for a while. And because of that, I know you have done weirder shit than what you just said.

(If the group is still around then you can engage for just a second with this but only to keep them happy and back to more isolation with her)

So guys, she is totally the girl that you can’t trust with anything right…
Like she is always the big gossip, right?

(back to mini isolation before the girl remerges the group)

But actually it is a funny thing cause…actually what is a hobby of yours?
(she answers)
So you know how there are things that you do, like outside of hanging out with your friends that can shape you outlook on things. Like even when you are around certain people is can totally change your perspective?
And I have this friend Sheila and she is like one of the most beautiful people I know, but she is super insecure, and once she opens her mouth you pick up on it right away.
But with me most of my friends around me always say that when they hangout with me they feel comfortable in telling me anything.

Actually with you, and with just how you respond you’re that friend that probably can keep a secret better than any of them, mainly because you don’t judge people and your friend come at you with all sorts of crazy stuff. So if we do anything crazy tonight you’ll have to pinky swear with me not to tell anyone…

PART 2

So here is one of the things with me. And it has always been a really big pet peeve.
I work with computers, and I always knew I would be in a field where I could use that creative side to me but also technical. The only problem is that most of the people I work with come at it from a completely different angle.
They work to work, rather than work to accent a certain part of themselves.
Actually what is it that you do for work?

(she answers)

That’s kind of cool, it is actually like the same thing with me. You have the same passions and can over the line at times but you don’t really do it around everyone. But when you are comfortable around people you actually have no problem showing it.
I would even say that you have a lot of friends but you only have 2 or 3 really good ones that actually get to see your wild side.

So really now, tell me the truth, what is something that is totally out of your element that people don’t get from you?

(she answers)

Ok so I am still not sure about you… you’ve totally inspired me I have got to give you this test. Come here.

(isolate some more, away form friends)

Ok so again just the first thing that comes to mind here.
My friend actually asked me this thing when I had just broken up with my ex so my answer would probably be different now.
So just the first one that comes to mind…
So pick a number between one and four.

Alright, you got it?

So what did you pick?

(here is how you read the answers…
first you start out by saying what you number was and it needs to be different than yours.
So you say…)

So when I did it I picked X
And like I said I was just out of a relationship and so X means that I was hesitant to show people what I was like all the time. Like I actually would rather go out with a group of people and than by myself. I would rather have people lead than be independent.

But you being a Y, that is a bit different. You are actually your best self when you acting on your own. And more than your friends you can be really aggressive, but more internally than anything. Like I said you have this total wild side when you are allowed to feel it.
Like I wouldn’t even want to see what kind of crazy shit you have got in you closet at home, there’s probably all these crazy trophies from your ex boyfriend. I could totally see you as the girl that could intimidate most guys you meet.

So right now we will break.
Here this is a good lead into establishing Comfort while building up all your frames and generating attraction while doing it.

I will post the Breakdowns on Monday with the rest of the stuff, showing how to build off of those Frames and do so with Subpersonalities and really making their emotions invested in to how you are defining your interaction with them

But you see game can work for anybody, you just have got to voice it in the right way!

And as alway, let me know what you think
eltopoPUA@gmail.com

Boston Night Two

2008-06-06T23:34:00.001-07:00

So Sinn and I are getting done with our first night of
Boot Camp in Boston.

Fucking awesome City!
I have been working with the Day Game Master Doc Holiday for a while,
But tonight Saffron and Entropy were our Coaches and these guys are fucking Amazing!

Sinn and are are sitting in our hotel wondering where these guys have been all this time.
The crazy thing is that we have literally worked with the BEST in this field and we can't stop talking about how much these guys have impressed us.

Saffron has been Asian Playboy Student and Alumni for a long time...and I can't say enough good things about APB... but man tonight Saffron shined! One of the best guys out there.

Entropy I have worked with a bit in the past, but I wish there were more guys out there that could do what he does. As a teacher he is so Fing good, and as a PUA he is better than most instructors out there.

And as you know Doc, I almost talk about too much.

In the next few days we will be recording Podcasts with this trio. I know I got to get the rest of CJ and myself up there on my list for you guys to listen to, but hopefully there will be some really featured stuff from these guys in the next few weeks.

Dante is coming up to Boston on Tues, and man... if the Goat and Dante hook up with Doc, Entropy and Saffron it will be THEE best group of guys the community has seen in a while.

I will post more in detail, but right now I am just fucking excited!

With any questions how to get a hold of these guys, just hit me up!
eltopoPUA@gmail.com

Boston Night One

2008-06-05T21:45:00.000-07:00

So finally I am in Boston.
How could you not love it? Good food good people, good women... and it is a real city.
The Airport was against me today and there was delay after delay after cancellation till finally I made the fight in. Total of 16 hours dicking around eating over priced food.

Doc was supposed to pick me up and meet up with Entropy, but because I was stranded in the airport I had all this time to entertain myself through email and text.
I happened to email a girl that I hadn't talked to in a while, who I had met on a plane while leaving Boston and going to Austin.
I never posted the LR.
Probably should have, it was the second airplane lay I had gotten and it was a pretty interesting story.

In any case she is one of the most interesting people I have met in life. She is one of the few women who could easily kill me, and she is also a hardcore feminist, she has a long list of intense oddities to flavor her personality.

You should have seen me initially running theREDstack on her. In fact everyone who got a stack after I met her should thank her because she added a shit-load of insight because she found every hole that I had in it and exposed it. It was a long long road for that close...
Which was a delicate balance of logistics and framing. I would have abandoned the set, but we were stuck on a plane or in airports for 9 hours together.

In fact I was supposed to go to a Party with Dante that night we met and missed it to be stranded in several airports with her.

But anyway, last I talked to her was months ago. She was getting married, and I sent a few emails and it all died off.
But I emailed her while waiting in the airport waiting for my delayed flight, and the funny thing is that she emailed me right back saying that she lived in Boston now and could pick me up.

I thought it was weird, but oh well... let's see where it takes me.

Right from the start she is overly excited to have me come over and says that I can stay at her place and yadda yadda yadda.
Nothing about the fiancé .
You have to realize these sorts of logistics are really weird.
I don't have this happen often, and especially with someone I SNLed off a plane and then barely talked to.

So my plane gets in fucking late and she is still down to pick me up.

I still wanted to try and meet Doc and Entropy for dinner with her, but she was pretty insistant on going back to her house.
She said she had made food and still wanted to make some cookies.

I don't fucking get it man,
Pick up is by far one of the more interesting paths I have taken in life.

So we get to her house and she has conveniently left out that her fiancé is there.
So I am thinking weird but I will go along with it. And why not?
They have a nice place, a dog and they give me food and show me the guest room.

It is like there is no flirting going on whatsoever, but a super welcoming experience.
The thing is that in terms of pick up, these situations need to be broken down in terms of logistics. There is a girl I layed, months ago, have had very little communication with. She has picked me up at the airport, invited me into her house and has intentionally left out that her fiancé is there.
This would still point to she wants to fuck, or at least she is open to it.
What I mean by this is that she has very much allowed the situation to take place.
Anytime a girl allows the logistics to happen in terms of sex (going to a location where she is comfortable to have sex) it is not that she is consciously saying fuck me, but the odds go way up in terms of her being willing to fuck you.

So I decide to ride this out.

I eat, I eat cookies, and I talk about whatever intellectual bullshit they are into.
I put my stuff in the room they have made for me, and the fiancé comes in and tels me he has to go to his house.

And now it makes sense. He doesn't live there. They live separate.
she say she has to drive him home, but will be back.

I stay int he house eat more food and play with the dog.

In about 15 mins she returns and talks with me for a few mins, goes to my room and talks with me there while lying on the bed.

Again, logistics...

Seriously I don't get it. We fuck, not in their bed but the guest bed.
she says she has to sleep, gives me a key and tells me I can stay here for the weekend and to show up anytime.

In some ways i almost think that her fiancé knows that I fuck his soon to be wife and they have some weird sort of swinger relationship. This all too comfortable and easy.
But go figure, it is perfect too!
It is like shedding my light on June Cleaver's dark side.
That it all for now...

Hope you guys are coming to the Lair Talk/Workshop tomorrow in Boston!

Boston Lair Talk and Workshop Locations

2008-06-03T18:21:00.000-07:00

Hey Guys,

Those of you coming to the events this weekend with Sinn and I here is where to find us
Elephant & Castle Pub and Grill

It will be $50 if you Pay in Advanced (Click Here to Do that, and you can sign up for our other seminars too!)
And $55 at the door.

The Lair Talk/Workshop will be at 6pm and will go for about 2 and a half hours.
It will be covering Inner Game and Gaming towards a Lifestyle.
Also we will cover our other workshops that weekend!

See you in Boston!
Detroit is next week!

Gaming Towards a Lifestyle

2008-06-02T00:56:00.000-07:00

I am really excited to be headed back to Boston.
Every time I go there it is a fucking blast…
By this time you should know that I have made some pretty great friends there, in and out of the community.

I mention Doc all the time (mainly because he rivals me in his disturbing nature….and I think that’s a good thing).

But also Saffron is a demon as well. For someone who gets bathroom pulls and stripper pulls as much as he does…you would never know it by the looks of him. I remember the first time I met him, I was thinking who is this Asian guy??? Then I saw him in action, seriously one of the best guys out there and also has a multi cultural approach.

And Entropy I have been always know for my reviews, but so is he. There are very few guys in the community that are great at game, but also great teachers. Entropy is both. Also he gets the actual lifestyle part of things which even less people have a grasp on…and that is kind of the point of this post.
But these are guys I am really looking forward to see. In fact they are all gong to be helping out on our workshops up there.
Interested in signing up email me eltopoPUA@gmail.com or click HERE

It will be badass tearing it up with those guys in Boston!

One of the things I wanted this post to be about is the beginnings of what being a PUA is all about. As I mentioned in the above, is that there are very few PUAs that teach that are actually good at both things…teaching and being a PUA. And there are even less that can actually have a manageable lifestyle. When I got into this I had goals that I wanted to accomplish in when I first found the community online.

I read the game (actually I never finished it, but read enough to know that I wanted to learn what those guys knew), I looked online and found as much info as I could.

At the time I actually had a pretty cool lifestyle, I just wanted to get better at getting the women I would want in my life.
I played music, had toured the USA...been in every state other than Alsaka (and one day I will go there). I have had and still have Art Pieces on exhibit in Museums all over.
Worked as a Photographer in all sorts of capacities, and I had pretty much always had a girlfriend, but I was always in a relationship and I never really got the women that I had around me. They always approached me. In fact I go tin the Game when I was 29 and from 19 to 29 I was pretty much always in a relationship (usually very dysfunctional) and I had only been with 8 women. 3 of them were from relationships that I had been in, in those 10 years.

I wanted Freedom! Just the freedom to know that I could be an attractive guy that had the women I wanted in my life. I wanted to be able to go out to a bar and see a girl I found attractive and be able to fuck her…fuck I wanted to be able to go talk to her and not worry about what she would think or what to say! I wanted to be able to play a show and when a girl approached me, I would know what to do. I wanted to have 3somes, I wanted to have multiple girlfriends, I wanted to have adventure in all ways of man!
Now maybe I didn’t want that all the time, but since I knew it was possible I wanted to get it.

And product after product lead to nothing. All the product actually said the right stuff, but I just wasn’t committed to it. I didn’t believe it was possible for ME! I believed that it worked but I didn’t believe that I could pull it off. And for game all you really need is Belief and Balls!
So I took a Boot Camp.
And that changed everything. I saw people doing it, and I did it and got feedback from people who knew…. Sinn, CJ, Tenmagnet….

But let’s fast forward a bit here…

I started teaching this stuff after getting trained by Captain Jack and Sinn and I was committed to it. Now Game defined my lifestyle, I was someone who was constantly working on how to game better, how to teach better, and my lifestyle took a dip. Those things that made me good at first, like living as a photographer and artist and musician, helped me big time!
What had happened was that the way I learned, without getting to side tracked on specifics, was my Game defined my life. How I did in sets was what dictated my mood. Now I want to point out that Sinn has been saying this as well, I am not trying to steal his thunder here, but affirm it with my story of it.
But how many approaches, how many lays, how many SNLs was what dictated how I structured my Game, my Teaching, and my Life….
This was not my goal getting into this, nor my goal as a teacher.
And now I no longer had time for the things that once defined me… yes I had no game, but my passions propelling me is what once made my life. I always have worked with people in helping them out, but teaching Game was the best outlet for it. The only thing was, I became a great teacher (in fact one of the best hands down) but that was it. I no longer fulfilled those things which drove me before.

I remember when I realized I was going to start teaching full time I had to think to myself, ‘what do I need to do for myself to make this work’.
It wasn’t till I met Tyler Durden that I realized it was possible.

Since I started working with guys over the phone this past month on my Mentor Program (if you are interested in working on a Mentor Program with myself or some of my other PUA Compatriots then email me eltopoPUA@gmail.com) I noticed that there has to be a way to teach this stuff and incorporate a lifestyle. I mean build a lifestyle from the start of it. So I would like to start posting some of the things that I have been teaching to the guys I have been working with over the phone.

But one thing is for certain everyone is feeling weird about too much canned material, and not being able to DHV yourself in a way that is congruent from them.

So I wanted to past about how that can be done.
Now Captain Jack just did a post on DHVs and he is the master of them…probably because he doesn’t even use them in any way that is at all traditional. He actually says he doesn’t DHV.

But one of the things I saw him do was in set, aside from the opener, he never lied. He always spoke about his life.
Now if we are going for a LIFESTYLE then this is really the end goal in getting people to like you. Be yourself in the most ATTRACTIVE WAY!.

Now this is not saying to just go out and be a natural, what is saying is that you need to learn the Social Dynamics of what makes people work and start building that up until it can merge with your REAL life.

So here is the main model for how I shape theREDstacks that were so popular, before I stopped offering them.

You mix Grounding with DHVs.
And go light on the DHVs, no need to throw too many switches in them.

I also use Check Ins to allow my conversations to continue on.
This is a Juggler thing and is too often over looked.
What a Check In is, is something that allows you to continue talking.
Like a Neg or a Tease it allows you in Rapport to maintain a Dominant Frame in making them keep attention.

Examples-
‘You know what I mean right?’
‘You know someone like that?’
‘I am sorry, what did you say you did for work again?’

The last one is not meant as a qualifier, but more to just perk up their interest to engage them a bit.

Then I work a Frame, laced with Cold Reads to empower them.

Afterwards I Qualify to determine the direction I want to take the conversation.
Qualifiers have many uses, but mainly to Gain Value, Calibrate Where you are in Set and to Lead into the Direction you want to go in.

An Example of all this is something like this…

‘So one of the things I always like about meeting new people is just knowing those little things that make people tick.
For instance for me I have always been someone that is really passionate and almost competitive with it.
And, you know how there are little things that you do each day that can sort of shape different parts of your personality.
So I have always been involved in computers…I know it sounds so typical, but really there is something about it that spawns that sort of childlike curiosity in me. I mean I can get really passionate with it. Like sometimes I can even step over the line with things.

But with you, what did you say you did for work again?
She answers
So like for you it is the same thing. You can have that passionate side too, but you don’t always show it.
But when you are with people that you are really comfortable that side can really come out of you. I bet you have, 2 or 3 really good friends that get to see that sort of wild side you have.

Let me ask you this… what is one thing that you totally hate when you are dating someone new?’

Ok, so let’s break this down…
The first bit is pure grounding, but in the direction of the frame you want to set, She has a Wild Side.

You talk about who you are and what you do and define it as something Passionate and allows you to Step over the Edge.
Now throughout is a Check In, here it is asking what is is she does for work.

It doesn’t matter what she does, works at a Café, works as a Librarian, or she is an Author, the Frame and Cold Read is the same.

The Frame is that she has those Same qualities and the Cold Read is that she doesn’t show it all the time, and she has 2 or 3 really good friends.

Then that other side is Framed again in saying that it makes her have a Wild Side.
You want to be talking to the ‘Wild Side’ part of the girl.

Then I want to go into another routine that is based more on me being a leader and understanding women (I may post this one later) so I Qualify by asking her about what she dislikes about when she dates someone new.’

I want to write more about Lifestyle and Gaming towards that.
Let me know what you think of this post and I will continue on with some things, based on your responses!

More later in the week…for now see you all in Boston!

And Email me anytime eltopoPUA@gmail.com

El Topo Text Game Part 2

2008-05-25T18:44:00.000-07:00

Text Game Part 2

So now we get how to open a text and one popular way to initiate a text dialog.
So let’s describe a few things around that.

I you haven't read Part 1 of the Text Post go here!
http://the-red-mole.blogspot.com/2008/0 … art-1.html

Also find out more about Subpersonalitites in Shaft's Post as well, cause I refer to the idea quite a bit.
http://the-red-mole.blogspot.com/2008/0 … ities.html

The reason why Hot Cold works so well, is because it is an element of Push Pull. I would like to do a post on changes made to models of game, but there are a lot of posts I would like to do…getting to it is the real feat! But surely I will get to it!

The reason why Push Pull is such an important part of game it because it is something that pretty much every human and animal is responsive to. It is almost like people can’t help but do it.
Now you can’t say something like ‘Hey, you sweet cunt whore, how’s your day going?’ that may piss some people off (but if you make it work…let me know). But what you want to do with each aspect of Hot Cold/Push Pull is get them to invest a little bit in it.

How we get people to invest is through Qualification, Baiting, Framing, Compliance, Dominance and Logistics.

So those are the things we are going to talk about in terms of text.
And again, I would like to do a post on my teaching method of breaking down your Tools of Game along with How to Implement those Tools, but again it will probably be a few weeks on that. It I could write as fast as I could think then my blog would be a goddamn encyclopedia! Should have taken a typing class!

So the important thing with text to think of is that it is only a small part of game. So your goals in text are to do a few things.
I always like to Bring out-
-A Subpersonality in it, and it is great for that.
-It is a good use of to begin Force Framing
-It is a great Calibration Tool
-Logistically I want to engage someone with some compliance, usually accepting roles or doing small tasks.
-Build Investment emotionally (now it is important to know text probably isn’t the tool to engage serious emotions, but more reactive and surface level ones. You need an orchestration of complete game to have it effect deep rooted emotions)
-And Logistically I want to set up a time to meet, with all those frames and subpersonalities to bring to the table.

So with that in mind, instead of saying, ‘You sweet cunt whore, how is your day going?’
You want to say things that your texts to follow some sort of path that will stimulate reaction to role into another text that will build a frame, to role into another one that will build compliance to your frame, that will role into one that will bait them into a subpersonality and all be fun and exciting to engage in.

You can hook a girl very easily to be that guy that she has a text war with on a daily basis. During debriefing I always ask women when they started to know they were going to sleep with me. If I have worked them through text they will always say something like, ‘I thought you were cool when we met (she might even say a little weird…hahahaha), but I really started to think about you in that way, when I would be at work thinking about what I was going to text you or when you were going to text me’.
So go figure, but it works, and even with text you can see yourself get sucked in with it too! Beware!

Using Bait in Text-

Although this is how to Bait using text, all of the ideas like Push Pull/Hot Cold, Baiting, Qualifying, Framing, Compliance, Dominance, and Logistics all kind fo work together. But in their subcategories I will mainly be highlighting the part which it is titled. In this case Baiting.

So the idea of Bait is a reactive one. It is something that is hardwired; people can’t help but respond to if done correctly.

So let’s start with some examples-

Shortly after the first few texts, maybe the second or third one in…

-‘So I am sitting in a waiting room, and I wonder if the people around me know what I am thinking about’

-‘Guess what I am thinking of right now, I just totally saw your twin and it set me off.’

-‘OMG the craziest thing just happened, I am totally in a weird head space right now’

-‘Even tho you like X , I still think you’re…well maybe not LOL’

-‘I am totally bored, don’t even TEMPT me with those thoughts! ☺’

-‘You have no what I just saw, you would totally LOVE it, in that sort of BAD girl sort of way…LOL!’

Ok so let’s take a look at these. Now some of them are doing a few things here.
The first one-
-‘So I am sitting in a waiting room, and I wonder if the people around me know what I am thinking about’
What you’re doing is trying to bait them into a simple question. One being, ‘where are you?’ or Two being, “What are you thinking about?’
For a while Sinn, Shaft and myself would always ask two questions, or give two things to respond to in our texts to calibrate. We don’t so much anymore, but it is a great tool to use. Now with either answer you can go somewhere.
But the one that shows she is more likely to quickly accept a frame over text is if she answers anything about what you are thinking. Reason why is because if she answers that she is curious about something that leaves a huge door open to.
An office space is pretty mundane, what someone thinks that might offend the ‘norm’ hanging out in the office can be something pretty interesting, well if you’re a PUA.

So if she says ‘Where are you?’ no big deal, you text back something like,
‘Trust me you don’t want to know, but these people are freaks! Totally your crowd ☺’
or
‘The funny thing is that, I am normally really into bizarro things, but I usually need a wing, next time I am bringing you! And you’ll never guess…’

So let’s take a look at a few more breakdowns…
-‘Guess what I am thinking of right now, I just totally saw your twin and it set me off.’
When I took my BC Sinn told me Future and him used the father text of this…’OMG I totally just saw your twin’ to calibrate how quickly a girl would reply. If she replied quick it meant you could begin with likely fruition on your text/phone journey.
So then we added a little more to it. Mainly because we wanted to see what she would reply too and our Bait was then more voiced to lead towards curiosity on what we are thinking. It may hook it may not. So in the first two texts a good thing to point out is asking two questions in the same text.
We will touch on that later.
But our Bait is always leading to a frame or subpersonality, or maybe even something else.

So it is best to get a response about ‘what you were thinking’ but you may get a response on the ‘twin’ part. The main thing is this will get a likely response. And you should probably use this text as a opener as well or the first text in a new exchange with someone you have been texting. It leads very well into some tactical conversations.

Replies to the twin part might be…
‘Yeah I was totally excited at first, but didn’t have that wicked side to here. LOL!’
‘And you should have SEEN the look on her face when I snuck up from behind, butt I think YOU could have handled it! HAHAHA!’

Replies to the thinking part might be…
‘All I got to say is….bad girl! LOL !!!!’
‘I was actually REALLY disturbed! I knew I remembered you…stay HOTT!’

So you get the idea with that. This would go on forever if I were to breakdown all of them, so let’s go to the next Implementation of the Tool…

Qualification in Text-

This is one that you can open a text conversation with, but to really use qualification you want to use it a bit later in the exchange, but it can be fairly impactive within 2 or 3 texts in.
But first let’s talk about Qualification.
So Qualification is a get way to get a lot of things. Lot’s of people go on and on about it and it is something that many discussions can be had about it.
Most of those discussions show its use in gaining investment in the group.
There is a great Audio Program out there that has Sinn and Vision going over Qualification. Most people say it is one of the best Audio Products out there. It is something that has a long history and has evolved quite a bit.

But here are its uses-
-Gain Value and Compliance (throughout your set) towards Value. Build investment essentially, through a ladder of Qualifiers or establish your value, to make her feel the need to invest her Emotions or work up to your Value.
-Calibrate where you are at in set. So it was said many a times by Future in many Seminar rooms (probably many other people too, but I can still hear Future saying it in my head) ‘Qualification is the Gateway to Rapport. This is because is was a good way to know you could enter Comfort and also it was a good way to transition into a Comfort base story. The funny thing is that Qualification is now used in Comfort (little bit of a different twist, but definitely Qualification, and it is the total LMR buster in Seduction. Qualification is thee way to Blast through LMR and is one of the Roots to the KFP.
-And the most neglected use of Qualification is that is defines where you go next in Set!
It is what you need to show which way you are going, and in Text this is important!
What I mean is let’s say you are talking about eating Bats in the Amazon your DHV story (and let me tell you I can go on and on about how misused DHV stories are in the community), and you want to transition out of it.
You can Qualify with,
‘So what is something you have done that made you know what your passions were?’
With that you can then talk about your passions and hers and all that stuff. Good for building bonds and many, many other things.

But let’s say instead you talk about eating Bats in the Amazon and transition out with…
‘So what’s the craziest thing you have ever done?’
No this can go a little more sexual… both can but with this you are using Bait to take the set somewhere into a more racy territory.

Both Qualifiers are good, neither one is better, depends on where you are in the set and where you want to go. And the Qualifier tells you where to go. That to me is a pretty important use to negate. So USE IT!

Some examples of text for qualification might be…

Opening Text with a Qualifier-

-‘So what is your favorite Karaoke song! ’

-‘So wait, you always pick up guys, when they are DRUNK!’

Again opening with a qualifier is pretty weak use of a qualifier, but be creative and fun with it and it will work.

A few Texts in-
Think about if they fall into one of your Baiting texts you can empower it with your Qualifier.

-‘Jezz! You really do have a WILD side don’t you?’

-‘What kind of girl are you…really? I mean you didn’t really put that off when I met you, but go figure! LOL’

-‘So you are really starting to make me wonder, who taught you your text etiquette?’

-‘I am not sure if I really know about you yet… are you one of those girls that doesn’t always play nice…’
So you can see from this that the qualifiers really do have somewhat of a Baiting element to them too. They are also the beginnings to Frames, Compliance and bringing out that subpersonality.

Remember Qualification is a tool to progress on in the right direction!

And that will take us to….

Compliance through Text

Now here will probably be one of the more rich parts of the post, because it will map out how you need to text (the flow of text or the rhythm). Compliance does a few things…
But at its fundamental it brings out repetition in the target working in a certain direction.
Normally I bring up Framing before Compliance, but I will lead with compliance here to better describe Framing later.
Normally compliance is just thought of as getting a girl to do something for you. This alone is super effective. In fact I remember on a Workshop in Hawaii, Tyler Durden spent about 20mins describing to a student what Compliance was, and this opened my eyes to a larger field of it. Also Shaft can talk, and I mean talk about the importance of Compliance in all forms of Game.

But other than getting someone to do tasks, you can build a Qualification ladder with Compliance, you can build frames with Baiting someone by making them Compliant to your interaction with them, you can make someone fulfill a narrative that brings out a Subpersonality through Compliance. Basically you can use Compliance to get someone to follow your lead.
Compliance is the fucking shit, so see it as not just getting someone to fulfill actions, but also to be made to interact with you in a specific way that helps Frame them into your Subpersonality.

My example will be an exchange with breakdown of what I am attempting to do through Text. Here goes….

PUA- ‘You won’t believe what just happened! You should have BEEN HERE!’
Target- ‘?’
PUA- ‘Really that is ALL you can write ‘?’ I thought you spoke text…lol, are you sitting down?’
Target- ‘Yeah, I am at work, WHAT HAPPENED, is that better? ☺’
PUA- ‘This chick just totally went crazy at the store, I thought, I wish (target’s name) was here.’
Target- ‘I don’t know if I would have wanted too, what did she do?’
PUA- ‘Yeah, I am not sure if you would have laughed or joined in…’
Target- ‘That depends what it was she was doing’
PUA- ‘I still am not sure…either you’d be all over it or ur one of those PG 13 girls’
Target- ‘Wouldn’t you like to know?’
PUA- ‘That says it ALL right there! ’
Target- ‘OMG, you are totally crazy… You might not want to know! :p’
PUA- ‘ME totally Crazy! F U!’
Target- ‘YES! And F U too ☺’
PUA- ‘That is sweet, but now you’re are totally making me wonder and now U won’t want to know… ’
Target ‘You couldn’t even imagine’
PUA- ‘Seriously, I have to drive now, so take it easy on me, you wouldn’t want to cause an accident now would you???’
Target- ‘Accident? That might be fun, good thing I am not there! Lol!’
PUA- ‘So now I am totally bored, entertain me… are you at work?’
Target- ‘Yes’
PUA- ‘And what are you doing?’
Target- ‘I am sitting at my desk answering my boss’ emails’
PUA- ‘Woman… really, I though you spoke text…how are you going to make me crash with THAT!’
Target- ‘HA! I thought I was PG 13’
PUA- ‘Ahh, we proved that you only are when you’re at the club, but at work I know what REALLY goes on!’
Target- ‘So dirty?’
PUA- ‘Actually it is one of the worst places that my mind wanders, just think if I was at work, my imagination would be corrupted even MORE by U! ’
Target- ‘You are a trip, I think you’re corrupting me!’
PUA- ‘Good cause later I may need your help, I have a crazy meeting I have to attend ☹…’
Target- ‘HA! We will see…’
PUA- Stop with that ‘we will see’ crap, you’re totally my text BITCH! Lol!’
Target- ‘Ahhh Text BITCH… couldn’t you come up with something else.’
PUA- ‘Yeah but, text me BACK….BITCH! by the way I am almost back and still no crash…’
Target- ‘CRASH BITCH!’
PUA- ‘You’re supposed to make me do that in another way…come on GET TO WORK!’
Target- ‘You’re too much. I can’t handle you…’
PUA- ‘That is what I thought! Lol. No really, what are you doing later, I will need someone to perk me up in a few hours.’
Target- ‘Why are you asking I thought I was your BITCH! Hahaha!’
PUA- ‘Jezz UR having way too much fun, maybe I should give you a whip so you can step it up’
Target- ‘I like whips’
PUA- ‘And I do too, but I don’t use them, I prefer using my hand!’
Target- ‘Now that depends, when and where…’
PUA- ‘Really, I think that you know WHEN and WHERE, unless you’re really more creative than me… and then I don’t want to know’
Target- ‘ That’s right BITCH!’
PUA- ‘Look woman, talk all you want, but I will turn you inside and out’
Target- ‘I am waiting…’
PUA- ‘And be waiting with a wheelchair cause you might need it’
Target- ‘LOL!’

Ok so this is a pretty common exchange.
No what you see in the first part of this, is a lot of baiting toward sex using really fun attitude. Text game is all Attraction being used as a door to open up different parts of her. This particular girl was not biting at first but still going along with it. This always suck, but if she is at least somewhat entertaining your ideas you can still press on very lightly.
You always want her following your lead.
The whole time I am leading the interaction, and the whole time I am reframing her replies to what I want to see them as.
The more I can get her to follow my path of the narrative, the more I make her Compliant.
And the reason why I chose this exchange was because it took her a while to warm up and it was done without any breaks in the text, it all took place over one day.

So now I text saying, ‘BITCH I am bored TEXT BACK!’ and she does.
You can also see the slow escalation of her turning more towards me. Eventually she does but it wasn’t immediate. The thing is that once they walk through enough of your doors (along with it being a fun interaction) they will ultimately continue on.
Compliance is something that can build your whole foundation to game.

For now that is all…

Part 3 will be on Framing, Dominance, Logistics
And it will go over some of my buddies personal theories on Text cause you have heard enough of MINE!!!!

But really they are good. Guys like Shaft, Sinn, Fidelio and Captain Jack all have very unique was to text. Still doing a lot of the same types of things, like Qualifying and Baiting, using Frames and Compliance, but they do it in their own effective and Unique ways. They are for the most part available online, but you have got to give credit where credit is due!

TTFN

The Dog-Mouthed Pussy

2008-05-24T03:02:00.000-07:00

This is a story for that is not for the light hearted.
I swam through the furies of PUAness and this is where it brought me.
But you have got to take it where it leads you.

So this all took place over a period of some weeks. An adventure worth writing about nonetheless. It could be called Houston’s second skin… but the humidity there is really the second skin, but whatever…

So a few weeks back I was with my student and it was his first real night out gaming. It was getting late in the night and from set number one with him, he was doing super well.
I was impressed and at the end of the night he opened up a two set. He was in good with one of them and the other was getting leveraged away two other obstacles.

This is where it is one of those things that you actually kind of think in the back of your head, ‘do I go in and blow the guys out and wing or do I call it a night’.
I mean we had a really good night.
And you never know, the set could go good or it could go bad. If it went good I knew if it went well, we would have to pull em. It was something like 1:30am so I decided to go for it.

So I went in to wing. The guys played tug o war for a bit, but I have I have been there many times before. Wedge my way in acknowledge the guy, and before they can reply I back turn em slightly and move the girl away from them. After she has her back to them for about 30 seconds out of the corner of my eye I see them give that look like WTF and stroll over to watch me make their set work.
At one time I felt bad about this, but it has happened to me so many times before I learned this stuff, what can I say.
I remember one of my first pulls I actually stole from a guy and I was about to abandon the set, but Captain Jack happened to be there and told me to make it happen.
In a brief moment he told me, “You can be a guy that pulls and goes for the lay, or you can be the guy that opens and writes about not getting laid”.

So from then on I went for the lay.
And from then on I was never the guy that sat back and watched while another guy stole my girl. And never feeling that is worth it.

So I was working the set with the student who has heavy attraction, and my girl opens up instantly. She is from Hawaii too, so the rapport flows in easy. But with it this late, it has nothing to do with rapport, but quick framing and logistics.

Looking back, we probably could have gone quicker, and pulled to their place for an SNL, but instead we bounce to eat.
My girl starts working logistic with her friend. But my student doesn’t want to continue. He would rather call it a night, because tomorrow is going to be a long day.
The funny thing is that the girls were pretty religious and both teachers. This generally is a good mix. I am not sure why, but a long time ago, my old roommate, who was much older than I, told me teacher and fight attendants were the most promiscuous of all women. Not sure if it is true, but the stereotype hasn’t been proven wrong by me.

So we all kiss goodbye and call it a night.
My girl then gets the text

“What’s up sexy”
With the ‘drunk and lonely’ text. This is broken down in many of CJ’s LRs, but also it is broken down in Part 3 of my text message post.
She texts me back saying, “Yes????”
Me- “So are you in your bed yet”
Her-“Maybe, where are you”
Me-“Getting there…where are YOU?”
Her- “Home. It was night meeting you, what are you doing tomorrow?”
Me-“So you are in bed! What are you wearing…hahahhaha ☺!”
Her- “And wouldn’t you like to know? Jezz, you don’t quite!”
Me- “It was a joke, but now you are making me think dirty thoughts, and those don’t quit ;)”
Her- “Well tonight I am pampering myself, and you’re doing what? Goodnight ☺”

Man, those texts suck! But at least I got her going, That way I can always get it back.

The next morning I work with the students but don’t have time to meet up later that night with her, but there are more women out there, so I figure I will see how it pans out later.

In the meantime, I pretty much forget about her.
The thing is that she is Asian, and she is a pervert and so she doesn’t go out of my mind very far.
Later on that week she texts me.
She gets my email and emails me and initiates some times to meet up.
This is again where tight game and a quick close is better than getting yourself into a series of day2s and day 3s.

Now I am not opposed to dating, but if you’re just trying to get laid then they can get annoying.
But at least this girl has some allure to her.

She texts me pretty aggressively and again she is Asian and a Pervert. This counts as investment for me.

So by now we are about two weeks into it. A series of texts and a series of emails The emails take a completely different voice than the texts. Texts go for the sexual and revolve around more of a playful mentality and the emails are voiced much more around normal conversation with a little poetic DHVs.
This sort method makes sense to me.

You got to think about the rhythms of game, even while in set. One of the most effective ways to make your frames stick is to, use sexual frames mixed with DHVs that ground you in the most human way. What I saw CJ doing was he would frame sexually then tell a heart melter, conveying a feeling of a sexual urge then turning it into a very comfortable feeling toward him by telling a passive DHV about his life that carried a heart warming story. This sort of emotional rhythm is what inspired many conversations with Shaft and I, which then carried over how I worked theREDstack.

Anyway the main thing is that if you are maintaining communication with someone, this model holds true to work multiple aspects to someone’s emotions.
It is a delicate balance, but practice makes perfect.

So I head back down to Houston.
And really I am not sure if this girl is going to bite or not. That is the thing with too much texting defining the interaction, it makes things all hard to calibrate at first. You may have been very aggressive in your texts but you can’t go aggressive as soon as you meet her right away.

In any case, we meet.
We eat dinner, and she then opens the door a little bit. Normally you can bait for this shit but she starts talking about, how ‘dirty’ I am and how she didn’t think I would be that aggressive over my messages. So good, it sounds on.

I like this girl she handles all the things I am supposed to do, like logistics.

So after we are done eating, she says she wants to keep drink, and we go pick up beer. She has also rented a Movie, one that I know of and I am impressed, Lady Vengeance. It is a Korean Movie and I haven’t seen it, but it is pretty messed up… good twisted director.
What am I walking into?

I am always taken a back a little when I don’t have the act of hunting involved. It makes it too easy and kind of harder to game…mainly because at this point I am not gaming I am running out the clock.

So why wait around. We have gotten the beer and we are parked in a gas station next to some adult shop.
I go over the seat and start making out. I tell her, come on we have a movie to watch, and head to her place.

The funny thing is that she then starts this conversation that is very much something that I would bring up to sexually frame someone.
She starts telling me about how, she is really open minded and her upbringing taught her something totally different about things like sex.
How she is more turned on than most women (this is a cold read you can do, all women say this)
And then she carries on about how she doesn’t want a BF, because she can’t commit to anyone right now. And I am thinking that she took an SNL course or something.
In any case this is another part of a sexual cold read too, because she went on to explain that even though she can be sexually free, she never cheats when she is with someone.
So the cold read would be something like,
‘You can be really sexually free, but when you are with someone, you are super loyal, like you never cheat.’
You might want to add something at the end to maintain the frame of sexually free, like
‘but you really know how to feel something with someone and just jump when you have to’

So right now I am thinking, I need to start building up some tension here or else there is no more fun.
So I go with my standard narrative stuff of,
‘What are you doing to me?’
‘Why are you talking like that, you know what you’re doing to me?’
While touching my dick.

But like the typical Diva type that fits her “I am pampering myself” persona…she baits me back saying, ‘ohhh, I don’t know, what am I doing to you?’
While pulling back…

I hate women that do that shit back, actually I guess I really hate it when they just don’t get into that sexual frenzy type state!

So at that point I have just got to start taking this chick.
And I do.

I mount on top of her and grab her hair. I get more aggressive and tell her to stop playing games and put her hand on my cock.
We go to her bedroom and she says, she wants to take a shower first.

This girl likes to be chased…

So she goes in the shower and so I follow her.
I want that pussy, and I want that tight pussy.

I take her in the shower and put my hand on her pussy… it is pretty fat.
And those of you who know me I like my anatomy.
In a past life maybe I was a scientist or something, but like the late great Peter Sellars, ‘I like to watch!’

So I bend her over and look to see this Pink Chalice I have been waiting for
and this thing is not pretty.
No it is not one of those nice and neat Vaginas, it isn’t one that has tight lips and maybe some meat hanging out, it has one of the oddest shapes that I have seen. And not a shape that is at all something that makes me want to stick my dick in…but who can hold back now?

But the best way to describe this thing is to imagine two big dog tongues that are slapped against one another and their drooling mouth is venting out hot air.
Now it didn’t smell bad, but seriously WTF?
This thing was a Beast of a Pussy!
And it drooled like a beast too.

****Actually a side note here****
I remember watching this porn once and the girl in it was from Brazil.
I know girls that get wet, like dripping wet...
But this girl was not only so wet she was dripping all over the place, but she also had this bulldog looking pussy. It reminded me of this dog's mouth getting rammed while slobbering all over the place.

The funny thing is here I am looking at this thing, wondering if this was another one of god’s little jokes, and at the same time she is getting all riled up sexually.
She is saying things like,
‘Come on and fuck me baby’
‘Give it to me’
And I am thinking to myself, ‘really, give it to you, it might get eaten and I won’t get it back’
Usually these things she was saying would be great, and I am one who likes to talk dirty, but right now that seems like such a monotone thing to do.

But regardless I go for it.
And I will say that the hole itself was good, but jamming your cock in between two dead dog tongues is not really something to get you going.
If it weren’t for the dirty talk, I am not sure it I would have been able to go through with it.

It is one of those things where you just get it in there, look at her face and imagine there in something else down there.
The True Zen Warrior! Mind over matter…

It was one of those experiences where you walkout of an say, you know what maybe I should have taken a pass on that one…but then again
How often are you gonna see one of those again, I am glad I fucked it.
But fuck man, whoever is that lucky guy that gets to see that ‘committed’ side of her, I will loan him my belt sander.

PUAsanctuary KFP and Text Game Part 2

2008-05-22T11:46:00.000-07:00

Yo,

I really want to start getting people on the www.puasactuary.com/forum and if you have taken a BC or gotten theREDstack with me you can get on the www.puasantuary.com/lounge.

I just posted my original Kung Fu Penis Post, so go there and check it out!
So I am going to post Part 2 of my Text Game post on the Sanctuary Forum and Lounge today.
In the next few days it will end up on my blog.

The PUAsanctuary.com/forum is only a board I am a Moderator on, don't own it or anything like that. It has the BEST newbie board out there!

And all I have to say is the Part 2 of Text Game is better than Part 1. And Part 3 will also kick some ass!

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